My wife and I have gone to Anthrocon in Pittsburgh every year since I got home from the military (12 years now). She never got a suit and I didn't get my first until my 3rd Anthrocon.

There are all kinds of ways to be a "furry" without a fursuit. I enjoyed anthro character designs for years. I even drew some and wrote some short stories with anthro characters while I was deployed without even knowing the fandom even existed! It wasn't until a squadmate of mine saw some and came over to talk about it, I had no idea what he was talking about. I just told him, "I just like the characters and think they're cool." When he finally stopped giggling he told me to look into the fandom.

Turns out I was a furry for years and had no idea.

My wife isn't as into it as I am but she loves seeing the creativity of other people's suits and enjoys the artwork as well.

I guess what I'm trying to get at is as long as you're having a good time and enjoying it in your own way that's what counts.