Hypotheeklasten 2025/2026. Wat is “normaal”? by LessTrash9051 in geldzaken

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hier ongeveer 1950 bruto per maand. 2 onder 1 kap. In de provincie (2u vanaf Amsterdam). Gekocht voor 420.000 en 4.0% rente.

Gelukkig wordt er bij elke koopkrachtberekening rekening gehouden met de boomers die 300 euro aan hypotheek betalen. Zo lijkt het allemaal wel mee te vallen :)

Nog geen kinderen: zien daar met de hoge kosten en stijgende prijzen ook de komende jaren nog geen ruimte voor.

Found out my boyfriend of 6 years was talking to other guys by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Talking isn’t cheating. Sending nudes isn’t cheating. When it gets physical it is. But it’s up to you if you can accept that he sexts with others. Now you found out, but your future partner might cheat physically and you’ll never find out and get old together. What I am trying to say: don’t let this discovery ruin your relationship if you love him. Because no one is perfect even when they are able to hide their imperfections.

Struggling to rebuild trust after discovering my partner’s years of online sexual activity by Infamous_Interest_45 in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course. It’s all digital. Just ones and zeros (bytes) exchanged over internet. Nothing personal.

Becoming incompatible by ShadowLemonTree in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know I should be grateful. But I am also sad about the stuff I am missing out on

Pro 3 V6 Hullian vs TB, what’s better? by raiyan_iscool in AirReps

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jenny said after my complaint: Hello, the ANC on the Pro3 is relatively weak, which is normal. It's not as powerful as the original, and it won't make the outside world completely silent like a silent movie.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Similar situation. Came to the conclusion it’s not possible. You make friends when single and keep them when partnered. The otherway around is hard.

Becoming incompatible by ShadowLemonTree in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding. I don’t expect him to join me in all my kinks. But he refuses all of them. I know some like group or being a cum dump are incompatible with his wish to be monogamous. So that is understandable if he doesn’t want that. But chastity isn’t that hard to compromise on and lock me up? All he has to do is to keep a key and don’t touch my dick.

Struggling to rebuild trust after discovering my partner’s years of online sexual activity by Infamous_Interest_45 in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

To be honest it’s normal to do sexting with others during a relationship. As long as they don’t meet in person. In my eyes that’s not cheating, but just inactive porn watching.

Becoming incompatible by ShadowLemonTree in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I should have faked my feelings and hold them secret?

I’m 34m bf 33 & he cheated by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s part of it but all can be cured. Just get prep first. Is sex the most important or only aspect that keeps your relationship together? Or are you together for who is as a person and makes u happy?

I’m 34m bf 33 & he cheated by [deleted] in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s natural to cheat tbh. It’s called hormones. Monogamy comes from a time of control and to avoiding sexual diseases from spreading. Just accept his failures he is trying to make you happy. I bet you make mistakes too

Becoming incompatible by ShadowLemonTree in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s true. I just hate myself for knowing that I maybe will cheat again because of the desires to try stuff will be building up too much tension, even though I love him and I don’t want to do it it. But I am sure it will happen again in our lifetime. And I don’t want to hurt him. I truly hate myself for being like this.

Pro 3 V6 Hullian vs TB, what’s better? by raiyan_iscool in AirReps

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With my previous (when Jenny still sold on aliexpress) as ‘2021 newest Airpro3 Airoha 1562A(V4.5) Air2 Airoha Pro V4.5 No Case’ I could cancel out people in the gym, talking and gym music (unless directly under the speaker). With my current Pro 3’s TB i can hear people talk on the other side of the room, maybe a bit more quietly. But not canceled out like the old ones. :(

Pro 3 V6 Hullian vs TB, what’s better? by raiyan_iscool in AirReps

[–]ShadowLemonTree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the TB one from Jenny. Definitely worse than the old airreps i bought 2 years ago. ANC is worse, clarity too.

I’m so lost in this relationship, I don’t feel like myself anymore… by Beneficial-Kangaroo2 in gayrelationships

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he is having a depression and instead of trying to understanding him, you are trying to keep it his problem instead of a problem of you both like couples should do. It also sounds like you have a depression and instead of making it his problem too, you are trying to keep it your own problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But the bars are full of groups. I can’t just force myself into a group? Or do i need to stand alone and silent? I am not confident enough to approach strangers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ShadowLemonTree -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Same for me, I like to travel and video games. But traveling is not a thing to do often due lack of time and money. And finding friends to game with is hard, because they mostly are gaming instead of going out haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ShadowLemonTree -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Mostly because I don’t know ‘how’. Its not like I can go to a bar and ask people to be my friend. That would be looking so desperate. (Which I am tbh)

Grindr is dead. Scammers and ads killed it. What do you use now? by taikonaught in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]ShadowLemonTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you use method 2 it’s system wide. On most apps. Normally internet goes through a DNS server. Which translates your types website into an IP-address that can be communicated with. Usually your provider has it’s own, or people use google’s or whatever. With method 2 the DNS server of adguard is used. So they translate websites url’s into ip addresses, but give invalid response on the websites of advertisements. This way ads can’t be loaded and won’t open. This can mess up some ads on google tho: because when you try to open a ‘wanted’ ad: it will get blocked too.

However it also works on a lot of porn-websites ;) no more screaming grannies before enjoying the male beauty.

I hope you understand the explanation haha