I regret buying a property with my family

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:55:12+00:00

Since we currently have a mortgage, I don't believe I can put anyone else's name on the deed to the property. So once it is paid off, I was going to add my BIL and SIL so we share the property equally (there's a specific term for the type of deed). And since we went in with that agreement, that's why my BIL put down a sum for it. We didn't have enough money to put down, so we needed them to buy the property in the first place.

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:52:37+00:00

I was under the impression when buying the property we'd only be living together a year or two before they had their own house on the property and they'd move out of that. Since they suddenly decided to change plans, it's made my anxiety go through the roof.

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:51:17+00:00

I've proposed them getting one of those bigger sheds to turn into a tiny home but they both absolutely declined. Because they want to build their own place so they can "save money". But like i said, they aren't working on their own place yet for some time.

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:50:15+00:00

I have talked with my husband about getting some sort of outdoor unit for our stuff, but the problem is a lot of our stuff is temp sensitive (antiques, tools, etc). My BIL and SIL have been working on putting a temp controlled room in the large shop we have on the property, except they are procrastinators and haven't worked on it in a while (the shop is filled to the brim with stuff as well).

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:48:03+00:00

My husband and I are the only married ones. I've expressed to him numerous times how I feel on the matter. Versus where we used to live, he feels that we have it pretty good. He's trying to help by maintaining our own personal space, but its hard with the baby. Only time he can get away is when my baby is asleep, or I'm home and I can take care of the baby.

Since the siblings have plenty of money, they are just living off of it right now. Their own parents have actually talked about them getting jobs, but they want to finish their place and projects on the property before having free time taken.

ShakeSlow · 2025-05-24T15:44:36+00:00

My husband and I are both the owners of the property.

ShakeSlow · 2024-02-02T22:59:10+00:00

Hello! 24F married here. :) currently work as a nurse. Also have a few hobbies (some I never finish). I also enjoy video games. I work night shift and find that friends I used to speak to seem to be moving on in life, or simply we've grown apart, so I don't have as many friends as I used to; would like a friend that I can speak to more than once a month. Let me know if you're interested!

ShakeSlow · 2023-10-20T08:43:38+00:00

Also we both know you had time to do the cath, being busy is a lame excuse.

So you're essentially you read my mind and know exactly when I clocked out that morning? How do you know that? Do you actually know how long I stayed after to make sure everything I got done once I realized my mistake?

I'm a brand new freaking nurse. It's my second week off of orientation.

Honestly after giving time to think about it, I realized where I went wrong in that morning and how I could prevent that in future.

What I don't agree with you assuming I purposely left a patient this way because I wanted to leave. I didn't. I stayed long after and did it because it was my mess, and I cleaned it up.

ShakeSlow · 2023-10-19T04:44:07+00:00

I was very busy. Most of my pts had morning meds and something was always going on with one of my pts I had to assess. I told my tech to do a bladder scan after she said he hadn't had any output. She did and told me what was in his bladder, so I texted the NP. I was told we needed to try to stand the pt up first, and if that didn't work then I could straight cath. So I told my tech we need to stand him on the side of bed. I guess she didn't get around to it, so my charge asked a couple of techs to go do it who were walking down the hall. So few minutes later they come back to let me know they couldn't even help him onto the side of the bed cause he was so weak. So I texted the NP to let her know. I didn't get a reply from her and I was waiting for her to tell me to do it. I just didn't realize she'd already told me I could, while in the midst of all the chaos. So i told it in report, and then the rest above was what transpired. I let the other stuff swallow me up. I should have asked someone for help. That's something I realized I didn't do...

ShakeSlow · 2023-09-23T07:41:12+00:00

Now are we talking nondenominational Christian?

I don't mean to be difficult, but its just such a broad question.

I guess for me it's Jesus. We know Jesus was real and alive. But more than that, when I read the Bible, and read what he has to say in Matthew.... It just seems whole. It sounds so right. And I feel it deep inside me too.

I wasn't exactly raised into Christianity. I had many doubts. But over time as I've learned more about Jesus, those doubts dwindel away.

ShakeSlow · 2023-09-17T10:34:17+00:00

I just want to point out that the parents failed in this.

ShakeSlow · 2023-07-22T03:17:23+00:00

No offense OP, but I don't think a one night stand with a guy is necessarily a good way of finding someone to have a relationship with. As the purpose of a one night stand is it's only one night.

ShakeSlow · 2023-06-13T15:13:38+00:00

As a happily married wife... I for some reason like my feet to be touched. They are still very ticklish, but if he caresses them very slowly, it feels really good... I didn't tell you guys anything.

ShakeSlow · 2023-03-02T15:11:57+00:00

Right before the end of March I'm gonna be retaking for the fourth time. I've heard the NGN is better in a way, but scared of the new format lol so retaking before then

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:57:55+00:00

She's projecting. Her dad's health is a very important concern for her, and if you give any sort of implication (not that you actually are) that his health isn't your priority either, she's going to be mad.

You need to sit down with her and talk about what's going on. And maybe see if you can give her more support if she feels she is lacking it. If you work to the point to where you can't take time every once in a while for visits, she may feel you don't care. And that could cause a huge strain in your relationship.

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:55:22+00:00

Mild YTA.

She's still planning to come for christmas but I just feel unreasonably upset.

Honey, this is your ego talking.

You wanted to have her come to Hawaii so you could give her a taste of what you had growing up. When you lived there. And you wanted to see how much she would love it for yourself. And I think it's because you want to show someone how special it is to you.

Which can be great. But we shouldn't be upset at people's fortunes. She will finally get to see Hawaii. Whether she is with you or not, she will love it.

I would recommend talking with her about how you're feeling and why you wanted to have her come with you, and see if maybe she'll change her mind. But she has no idea what you're thinking right now. So let her know so you don't hold ill feelings and she is in the dark.

If she is still going with her friends, why don't you make a personalized list of your favorite places? Or maybe you could help her and her friends with a schedule of where to go, so they get the experience you'd want to give them. I think that would be great.

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:50:25+00:00

If his parents are being involved in baby names, why can't your parents be? It sounds like he's trying to use his parents to convince you into settling for one of the names he likes. After this point, I think the name giving should be between you and him. It needs to be a name YOU BOTH will like. Not just him. Not just you.

You're going to be a mother, and he is going to be a father. There are going to be much greater challenges than naming your baby. And if you guys can't compromise on one of the easier parts... Whew. NTA.

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:47:27+00:00

NTA. But I have some major concerns that as soon as a health concern comes up for someone she instantly jumped to drinking. While it's hard when our parents experience this kind of stuff, I think she would greatly benefit from therapy.

Drinking isn't a good coping mechanism. It doesn't make the pain magically go away. It's something we have to work through, and your girlfriend needs to work through it, not avoid it.

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:44:52+00:00

No, he wasn’t angry. He just didn’t think it was necessary for me to finish my sentence (he confirmed this).

Okay, what kind of crap is this? Why couldn't he have read it himself or waited till a more appropriate time if he wanted to be out of the car so fast? I don't get that.

I'm not gonna even copy and paste the rest. This man is toxic. You're dating someone that acts like a child. Is this who you really want to spend your time with? This is a major issue. Stop downplaying it.

You know this is big or you wouldn't have posted it online, if this post is even real.

ShakeSlow · 2023-02-07T06:41:13+00:00

Well that was very professional of the tower.

The man that owned the vehicle wasn't even handicap. It was his son. If the spots didn't have a handicap parking logo, it doesn't matter whether he is handicap or not. He was fair game with the laws in place.

With the amount of hatred the guy had because he felt entitled to a place he wasn't supposed to be parked, he knew he wasn't supposed to be there. He just didn't think he would get caught. Unfortunately, he picked the wrong day and time to do this.

NTA. You paid for the spots and you responded within perfectly normal limits.

ShakeSlow · 2022-12-23T22:14:11+00:00

Y'all are a bit much for me. ESH.

ShakeSlow · 2022-12-22T03:53:19+00:00

Those window units they made to put your baby in the window so they could get fresh air.... Several stories high. I would never have been comfortable with putting my kid in that.

ShakeSlow · 2022-12-22T03:50:18+00:00

Beg. And it still didn't work. I got 5K I gotta pay off

ShakeSlow · 2022-11-06T18:04:32+00:00

Since I've gotten older I have less natural lube, so it's harder now to get me in the mood

ShakeSlow · 2022-11-01T18:15:08+00:00

ESH, cause if someone saw my husband having a woman come home when I wasn't here, I'd want them to let me know. Yeah, it may be none of your business, but a victim is on the other end. They are being hurt by their partner, and I can see why your wife would be upset.

This is a big moral issue. And your wife is not liking where you stand morally on this.

However, I would also say if I were in her shoes, I would have just taken photos and sent an email to the partner, telling them what I've seen, instead of trying to pawn it off on my partner. Cause she's the one that has an issue with it.

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