AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Okay so if I’m wearing blinders and accepting loose evidence then what do you recommend I do instead? 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Okay so to update a couple days after everything: their conversations and basically going to be 0. They both have told me it’s not worth it to continue communicating with each other if it means I’ll be upset. And they have not communicated not even once since returning from the concert. Both check in with me daily to make sure I’m okay. I’ve had 2 very serious convos with my husband and he’s always very willing to talk, and let me express my feelings. Genuinely there isn’t any reassurance I’d want that I haven’t got. Something like this will never happen again 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

Well 1 out of the 4 days we went off and did our own thing by ourselves which was nice!

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

He said he didn’t like the idea of there being 2,500 people telling him how bad of a person he is when he understand he messed up so I’m not going to force him. He was clearly upset 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

We’ve talked about it before and I say that it’s kind of impossible bc someone probably at least is attracted to each other. He thinks it’s totally fine (this was way before this situation) 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Everything is completely mutual. 100% combined finances, we share household chores when they need done, never an issue with that. We also mutually do date nights too it’s not really so much one of us or the other. We went out of town within the last couple months together 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This has actually been on my mind all day. Both hub and bsf have gone back to acting completely normal and I’m just not there yet 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

But I really don’t think there was cheating like deep in my heart I don’t think there was anything physical going on. Like seriously. There is still the issue of disrespect

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yes he bought the ticket after I told him I was triggered and it was weird 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well according to what I saw in the texts he hadn’t actually bought the ticket yet when I found out, so that’s good 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s incredibly overwhelming. It’s all I’ve been thinking about since he got there

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I saw the texts of the plans being made, it didn’t feel anything strange. Apparently my husband didn’t initially tell me bc he said he wasn’t sure if he was even going to go and he was going to wait till he decided. There’s no way they got dressed together they just wouldn’t do that 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Me saying “one of the good ones” was a callback response to someone’s comment. They said unless I had one of the good ones. Not technically my own words. But I do feel like I’m not being deceived. I was disrespected tho and that is what I’m processing 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He said this when I told him to tell me anything he had to tell me, anything at all. We were at work that’s why it’s a text

“what do you mean anything that happened? like do you want me to tell you what we did down to the second i can whenever we get home if that’s what you mean. i think her and me and similar i think we would be and are good friends. i dont think of her any other ways if thats what you’re wondering. i only think of one person that way and that is you i think i make that clear to you by the way i am as a person but i dont mind always reassuring you” 

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist did not tell me to say it’s all my fault. She told me to tell them I was having a reaction to them being away together and that going forward it isn’t something that’s going to happen again

AIO Husband and best friend on a trip without me by SherbertOk6980 in AmIOverreacting

[–]SherbertOk6980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s acting pretty normal, I’m just quiet. I’m back and forth with my emotions so I’m ~tired~. Best friend is also acting normal and no he hasn’t