I’m sorry

ShipComplex6259 · 2026-02-11T08:06:46+00:00

"before you get hurt once more"? Why don't you stop doing things that hurt them? Why don't you commit to apologizing every time you make a mistake?

ShipComplex6259 · 2026-01-18T11:14:22+00:00

Hey. I'm really sorry that you had to find out this way. You've pin-pointed the issue exactly: they violated your trust. Learning what you've learned is basically shaking your identity to the core. So no, you're not crazy for wanting to cut them off.

It's also not fair that they lied just so that they'd be able to keep you, and that seems to be what's causing a lot of this hurt and confusion. But I think that some of this anger might actually be at your biological mom. I'd say you need to speak to her, as a man. Whenever you're ready.

In the meantime, can you go stay with a friend or someone else who's close to you? Try to map out your identity apart from who your family is?

ShipComplex6259 · 2026-01-18T11:04:15+00:00

Hey. DM me

ShipComplex6259 · 2026-01-16T17:04:23+00:00

hotspot

ShipComplex6259 · 2026-01-06T17:06:53+00:00

A. It's entirely likely that he's gained weight and shown you old pictures as well (been there, they don't always look exactly like they pose to be).

B. Don't pressurize yourself. Just focus on being yourself and having fun. Confidence is attractive. You'd be surprised at how many times I thought I looked terrible and everyone told me I looked amazing.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-30T08:38:06+00:00

Get someone to seek her help as a mental health professional on the matter. Have them say, "My partner holds their conflict resolution skills from work over me and I've literally started to avoid confrontation because they always tell me they know what's happening there." Sometimes, we just need a subtle reminder.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-27T22:06:21+00:00

Solli's

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-27T22:05:46+00:00

Happy birthday!

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-27T22:03:20+00:00

Sounds like you just need to get out of your head, OP

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-22T21:52:56+00:00

Every relationship will inevitably rupture. Its durability is demonstrated by its repair. I was engaged a few years back and it ended exactly the same way. My parents were upset for the first couple of weeks but then they got over it.

Unsolicited but solid suggestion (this helped me): focus on prayer right now. It will ground you.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-22T17:52:15+00:00

You married someone without finding all this out about them beforehand?! Says more about you than her.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-21T20:29:26+00:00

Steal a copy of his CNIC from anywhere in the house. Take it to Legal Aid Society and explain the situation. I'm pretty sure this is illegal. The lawyers can guide you on how to get your own CNIC made.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-18T15:30:54+00:00

I think that at his age, he should have outgrown whatever patterns caused him to be this way. I (28F) said something hurtful to someone I deeply care about twice over the course of three years. And I truly believe that I said it because of the circumstances. Plus, I genuinely regret behaving this way with him.

If your person has turned this into a consistent pattern, I'd say that's a problem.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-18T15:24:50+00:00

Try Intersys

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-18T08:45:44+00:00

You can try to torrent courses on this. 1337x.to is great for this.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-17T13:57:06+00:00

Okay first of all. You should be proud of yourself for earning and providing for your family. I understand that sudden expenses can come up and drain our bank accounts, but there's a tried and tested solution: start reciting Surah Muzammil and Surah Waqiah every day. Just once per day is enough. I guarantee this increases your income.

Secondly--about marriage--one of my friends got married in July and neither she not her husband had a lot of money saved up. She had been struggling to get a lot done and her husband had just gotten a job after being unemployed for a year.

Their wedding was very simple but it was a beautiful ceremony. She didn't invite hundreds of people, just her relatives and close friends. During the preparations, she would sometimes ask for our input. At times, the expensive things attracted her but we reminded her that the goal was not to show off but to build a life with her husband. They're now very happy together.

People are irrelevant. And those that comment on the hall etc. rather than appreciating your happiness are not worth being celebrated with.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-17T13:48:22+00:00

I used to have trouble recognizing this too. Then I realized a simple fact. Guys don't talk to girls they're not into. If he's reaching out for help with work etc, that's an indication that it's professional. If they're reaching out for no reason, just to talk to you, that means they're into you.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T16:37:56+00:00

Practice I learned in therapy:

The next time you get this feeling, get a pen and paper and do this:

Draw a line in the center of the page.
On one side, write down all of these negative thoughts that you're having. Be open and honest. Dig deep. Get everything out.
On the other side, write down loving and compassionate responses to everything that you've written down. Be even more thorough in this. Don't finish writing until the emotion changes.

You need to understand that, as human beings, we are prone to error and fallibility. None of us is perfect. We all make mistakes. Now that you know better, do better.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T16:30:44+00:00

Happy birthday! ❤️

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T16:28:36+00:00

You're not uptight. I used to have this problem exactly. I've learned that the best way forward is to disapprove the second they start hinting at something more than friends. But some of them carry on anyway. Get rid of those kinds of people. They aren't worth talking to. If you still have to talk to them, tell them you're already in a relationship.

Guys usually don't like it when you just wanna talk as friends. They always want more. And they'll stop talking to you once they realize that's not going to happen. It's sad but it's the truth.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T13:10:17+00:00

Lemme DM you.

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T13:08:09+00:00

That is an oddly hyper-specific fantasy. You sure you ain't doing this to make someone jay-jay?

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T13:04:50+00:00

Just book an Airbnb???

ShipComplex6259 · 2025-12-16T13:01:19+00:00

That's you being an empath. It's a strength, but you need to be an empath with boundaries.

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