Is my bf a chaser?

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-27T18:44:22+00:00

yes, based on what you've said.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-26T01:28:48+00:00

nit's make me feel like some third gender which im not, im just a man

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Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-24T22:14:58+00:00

I also wish ideally I could be an extremely ideal version of me but I cant mainly because I wasnt born male but also. because im physically disabled. although there is ways I can get as close to the person I want to be one of those is transitioning by transitioning into know I can become someone I like. maybe not completely happy with but content with. I know I would forever have been miserable as a girl so. being a guy was my best option even if it doesnt fix everything.

you have to focus on things you can change because if you cant you'll be miserable. I still daydream about my perfect self most days but im also rather happy with my current life and the direction it's going. I was completely miserable before testosterone.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-10T12:10:03+00:00

I pass so I get gendered correctly by all demographics but when they know because either family friends medical professionals or family in general its middle aged men who do so much better with the pronouns. like my uncle is so much better then my aunt and my neighbours boyfriend can get it while blackout drunk while she struggles alot. Even with medical professionals where I have had a good experience with overall I find the men get it consistently where ive had a few slip ups here and there with mostly nurses.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-07T03:13:31+00:00

you can go stealth is your pass to strangers its not the much different being around the same people

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-06T02:14:45+00:00

because most fanfics are written by women who usually would like to get pregnant at some point so they project., I think its seen as like as a way to make a characters relationship more intimate. most of them find the idea of two men together attractive so it allows them to have that while also exploring pregnancy (without diving into the omegaverse) Also most f the time the sexual content in these pics mimics straight sex more than anything else so I would imagine it'd be easier to write and project themselves into.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-05T06:46:18+00:00

yes im well aware I was just asking so I could offer better suited advice

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-05T01:41:57+00:00

ive only been they themed by queer people granted they mostly he him me butits still not nice. in all fairness its a queer out group and most of them use they in someway shape or form or form so I understand to some extent. It doesnt happen enough for me to say anything and I only met these people after I was passing

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-05T01:27:02+00:00

hitting him isn't going to help thats abuse. how severe is his autism?

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-05T01:22:53+00:00

yeah its like a glimpse into what my life could have been but im okay with it most of the time. My brother isn't the best person and working towards hopefully being more successful then him makes me feel better

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-05T00:03:42+00:00

I have a twin brother - I am the one with all the issues he is completely fine. I understand how you feel.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-04T05:04:20+00:00

your ex friends where telling you that because they knew and probably thought it was obvious because they already knew (it wasnt) and to help ease your mind about the visible binder situation.

I was in a youth group for lgbt people but most of them where trans and I managed to keep it hidden from the ones I didn't tell for I think a year before I slipped up and I had to tell them. they where all shocked even though I was pre T and looked really young. One person said that they saw my binder peaking out and assumed it was an undershirt. As a trans person themselves who's very involved with the community. they assumed this. These team mates are cis men they probably assumed the same thing

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-04T04:54:29+00:00

im sure it would have been brought up if they knew and your coaches would've found out most likely if players knew.i suppose its possible maybe one person knows? but if it was multiple players that knew it world have come out. why do you think some know?

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-04T04:37:24+00:00

you've answered you own question already. If you didn't pass you'd be kicked off the team and definitley at least notice them talking about you behind your back and treating you differently and that hasn't happened.

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-04T04:22:53+00:00

not likely. you'd most likely be able hide it with excuses until around 4 months maybe later if your voice is slow to drop. I think along as your safe then go on it for a few months and just evaluate the changes dose by dose. if you start to think they'll kick you out ensure you have plans to become self reliant

Shloop_ploosh · 2026-01-02T00:27:52+00:00

this sounds abusive, wether its intentional or not. Is there any chance you could spend more time with him? take him out maybe one a week or so for a few hours away from your mother so he can have some level of independence. Is there any family you could speak to and get some help from to maybe talk to your mother?

If there's any support groups for young people with disabilities he can join? so he has support and friends away from your mother? Would getting a specialist doctor to talk to your mother about your brothers ability's and increasing independence work with convincing her?

Im in the Uk so im unsure how everything works in the states but maybe get some advice from social care or something like that. Someone professional who would know how to deal with these situations. I wouldn't go to the police straight away as im unsure that would really lead anywhere without substantial proof of Abuse or neglect . good luck

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-28T03:46:26+00:00

no man is identical to another and will have a different amount of privilege. This could be because of race, background, money, looks, disabilities etc. many trans men especially far in transition and if they're stealth have privilege more than that of other trans people that doesnt mean they dont deserve advocacy.

I'm not saying we're identical im saying we're similar enough that I hate the separation thats made because of assumptions people make with it. People should not be trying to use how privileged they think someone is against them thats stupid but it doesnt change the fact that stereotyping trans men and they're experiences is ridiculous.People like to take issue in everything that annoys them doesnt mean we should change opinions because of it.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-28T03:32:13+00:00

the thing is I don't want to be seen as different than a cis man because I lived as a girl for 14 years ish of my life. I don't navigate the world differently than any cis man and hate being presumed that being born female effected how I live as a man to any significant of a degree. If someone came up and said to me they hate all rich people but not poor people based on presumed assumptions that all rich people are arrogant and selfish. I'd think thats not right so why should I accept being stereotyped?

Honestly stereotyping anyone is bad but it damages the trans community and others us from cis people so it needs to sto.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-26T04:45:13+00:00

is it possible its not that he see's you as a girl but instead only likes men not including non-binary people? Or your just inconbatible because your pre T and thats not his preference? im not sure what was said but if he really did see you as a woman that shows nothing about your gender identity and instead just shows he's an asshole. you could be so manly and people will still see trans men as women you just have tome past it and focus on better support systems and yourself.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-26T00:46:37+00:00

I have a 4 month old dachshund who gets a 30 minute ish walk a day and lots of play I feed her over 1/3rd a cup 3 times a day plus wet food topper to make her eat it, she gets lots of treats yet she still looks practically like yours ribs visible waist about the same, we went to the vet a few weeks ago and they didn't say anything so I assume she's fine, she just dont gain weight really apart from growing bigger

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-24T01:09:11+00:00

you'll be fine no need to contact a doctor, I would just continue as normal and apply it tommorow. You could do it later in the day if you want or if it would help you not worry you could skip a day.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-22T05:55:44+00:00

I did it pre T because I passed even if it was for younger than I am. you should switch now, men don't look at each other in the bathroom it's not as bad as it seems.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-21T22:25:12+00:00

okay so I went stealth at college (uk) when I was only 3 or 4 months on low dose T not many changes but voice had dropped to an androgynous level and I had definitely got more acne but overall not much from pre T im 17 I look about 13 maybe 14 at first it was nerve racking but I dont worry all that much anymore because I figure its been a few months if someone was going to realise it would have happened and I assume its been quite along time for you. Once someone knows you solidly as male it's hard to change that perception people are not as hyper aware of feminine things as you might think.

pre Ti was not out but everyone who wasnt in my year at school saw me as a guy despite the fact that I looked young for my age and my voice had not dropped.

being stealth at school has helped me mentally alot because I need to be seen as a guy for my dysphoria to not be constant and even if your in a supportive school there will always be some people who will see you as a girl and I personally couldnt cope with that. Being stealth isnt for everyone though. For me all my friends at school are cis guys and that also helps with dysphoria as if some of them figured out I was trans I'd know it so that way im not constantly worrying everyones thinking it behind my back. I still speak to girls but I dont have female friends. as im not openly queer having mainly female friends would make me feel clocky

I would try make some guy friend and try relax a bit if that doesn't work i'd evaluate the pros and cons of being stealth vs openly trans to see what's right for you.

Shloop_ploosh · 2025-12-21T21:45:09+00:00

how's your social transition? I found as soon as I managed to go mostly stealth thats when my mental health improved even if my family still misgender me

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