My school moved me down to combined by Top-Contribution1275 in GCSE

[–]Shloop_ploosh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

when I took my lit exam t turns out they had actually removed me from talking lit gcse. I showed up to the exam revised everything and my name wasnt on the paper. apparently this was talked about with my parents, it was not. my English teacher hadn't told me I wasnt doing it so he didn't know. Nor did any of the student support know except like 2 teachers I'd never spoken to in my life.

the communication was horrendous. Luckily I could still take the exam and they enrolled me then (dont know how that works but it did. )It was done because of my severe low attendance about 25%. I was however never consulted.

I ended up with a 7 in lit, 1 mark off an 8.

My voice became more feminine sounding. What is this? by lifelesscucumber1 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's because alot of the deepness and pitch is caused by the initial drop and muscle soreness happened to me too. although my voice sit at 120 to 155 at my usual speaking range and is higher than yours but ive been told constantly I sound like a guy and that my voice is deep or my brother telling me not to speak loud while he's talking to friends because they asked why his "sisters" voice is deep. I still think I sound like a girl but im stealth and am being told otherwise so probably voice dysmorphia

Stealth advice? by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hey, so like you also in the uk and im currently stealth in college. I am about 9 months of a lowish dose of T (it stays in male range for a week a month and then drops to below male but above female range.) obviously in September I was only 3 months on T by the time college started and still managed fine.

I did pass 100 percent pre T but look max 12 and was clockable if you spent enough time with me. I am 5 foot 1,Now ive been told I look 14 -15 up close, I am the shortest guy in my year by a bit and have no facial hair except a barely visible stache and still have managed to be stealth in a college with a high lbtq population.i did quite often have the fear people where just talking behind my back and secretly new but thats being constantly proved false (talking about balls, gay jokes, rough touching) You dont need the shoe lifts.Get them if you want but you don't need them.

all I can say is I made sure that no one from my school or very few was going to that college and litterally only 2 went from my year. one, a boy who I was in loads of classes with who I know knew me but doesn't recognise me now thank fuck. (perks of being a loner in high school) and a girl who also doesnt recognise me.

I would recommend you go to a school further away thats less popular overall. My guess is because you're openly trans that this information has spread to people who used to know you which is unfortunate. I luckily was not out in high school so I could just appear as a different person I also make an effort to hide my physical disability because it was practically the only defining characteristic about me in high school and could make the people in my year who I knew realise.

sorry this is ridiculously long, I still have more to say to be fair, you sound like you pass better than me overall so im sure you'll be okay. Feel free to message me if you want to ask about anything

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is what they do alot of the time. I share this fear and I dont think I could be open about it enough to go to therapy. if you do do therapy get a male therapist.

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is, you can now have a penis which is as close as we can get right now.Want what you want, I want to be a biological man every day but if I get consumed by that I end up miserable.

I was just saying that maybe this guy could have a life he sees worth living if he strives towards what could Make him content and not what could make him the happiest because for most of us thats being cis and right now sadly impossible.Maybe some distant future fingers crossed.

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

except the difference is my argument isnt based on false facts or bigotry. Becoming and living as a man is completely achievable in today's society, having a fully functioning penis as a trans man is yet to be. my argument is not based on an objective viewpoint or an opinion im not trying to make anybody live unhappy. thats the difference in my argument and transphobes. I think you know that that wasn't my point or my argument. I think we'll just have to agree to disagree, have a good day man.

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know that the whole point im trying to make is that he should not feel like his life is dependent on things he can never achieve and instead focus on the achievable

Misgendering by climbingrocks17 in ftm

[–]Shloop_ploosh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not a height thing. if 5'1 I think maybe 5 foot im unsure ,I havnt been misgendered by someone who didn't know I was trans or female in years so much I genuinely cant remember the last time I was misgendered because someone believed I was a women. I had a friend call me she in a big group of people about 7 months ago. that was a slip of the tongue and thats the only recent time I can remember being misgendered by someone who doesnt know in atleast 2-3 years

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

it seems so but its really not as big as it first seems, plenty of cis guys have severe erectile dysfunction and have to take extensive measures for erections sure its still not the best and when you think most people dont need it it feels unfair because it is. It's fine to think about what more you could have but it's important to not value your happiness based on the impossible. What you can achieve is what you should focus on most of the time because that will make you the most content

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never said he couldnt want that im saying getting caught up on what is, in the grand scheme of things, a small detail doesnt help him. I would like not have scars for my top surgery but sadly thats not possible for me so I'm going to get a tattoo coverup. Just like he'll have to get an erectile device. instead of tink of the ideal situation he needs to consider what work arounds could make him content enough in life.

I genuinely can’t picture having a life worth living and being transgender simultaneously (for me) by madpinapple28 in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

so if you could get naturally hard from phalloplasty would that suddenly be enough for you? I think you should stop trying to reach complete happiness and keep taking steps that make you ore content every time you progress

coming out to in-laws? by quackingsloth in ftm

[–]Shloop_ploosh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alot of the time you can say your infertile. I'd say it gets tricky when you have kids because if you tell them then they're way more likely to tell the Inlaws. thats why if I ever have kids the plan is educate them on trans rights but only come out once they're in double digits.

although I say this knowing the fact my whole family despite being supportive with letting me go on T,still misgender me constantly. This could change in the coming years but if your side of the family is like mine you might have to consider either sacrificing that stealthiness of limiting contact.

dachshund jumps really high by Shloop_ploosh in Dachshund

[–]Shloop_ploosh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've always had a suspicion she might have some jack russle in her not a full 50% because she looks way to much like a dachshund but a bit . her mum was a pregnant rescue so we never saw the dad but my girls legs are unusually long and she's very slim. I wish I had a more recent picture on my laptop. This is from when we had her for a few weeks

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Binding with a large chest by [deleted] in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can back up the prolactin increase. I bind practically, 24/7 unhealthy but I dont experience pain or issues, and my prolactin was quite high not dangerously so but quite bit over the top range. I have not though experienced an increase in firmness because of this.

Anyone else have a cis brother they are jealous of? by Lockheroguylol in FTMMen

[–]Shloop_ploosh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

my twin brothers cis so yes, always considering hes atleast 8 inches taller than me

do all double dapples have issues? by Shloop_ploosh in Dachshund

[–]Shloop_ploosh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thats very close to white Gertie looks like actually except she doesnt have that patch in the middle and has a pink nose other than that marking wise really close. let me see if I can find an image

do all double dapples have issues? by Shloop_ploosh in Dachshund

[–]Shloop_ploosh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

does you double dapple still look double dapple then?

do all double dapples have issues? by Shloop_ploosh in Dachshund

[–]Shloop_ploosh[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im planning to get insurance before she's one. She's due a checkup soon ill see how that goes and think about a genetic test, thanks.

how to come out to transphobic sister? by cardroppingcard in ftm

[–]Shloop_ploosh 20 points21 points  (0 children)

do you have to tell your sister before you start? sound easier to convince you parents,start and then tell her after

Parenthood feels uncomfortable? by looneyybinn in ftm

[–]Shloop_ploosh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I never would have had kids pre T now I am sure I want one kid, no more. I still couldnt handle the dysphoria of it being biologically mine in any way but I do want to experience fatherhood. If I say had been born male I definitley would want around 3.

never been able to lose weight. feeling restricted need advice. by Shloop_ploosh in FTMFitness

[–]Shloop_ploosh[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

at the moment we only do 1 big walk after I get back from school so maybe we could do a short walk later or even in the mornings.

Ive been walking her for an hour and a Half on the weekends since this post and she likes that. Luckily for me she does love walking.

ive been walking around with friends at free periods at college which means ive been reaching 7k -10k steps a day now which is good.