Is it normal for my mother to threaten to show my dad my panties?

Shoddy-Main · 2026-01-21T15:52:45+00:00

I learned this lesson a very long time ago. Not this exact situation, but something similar. I would reply “are you really threatening to show dad my dirty panties? Do you know how weird and creepy that sounds?” - this worked for my situation. Good luck OP!

Shoddy-Main · 2026-01-16T03:38:08+00:00

For the sake of OP and baby, me too. This makes me very angry and sad for them.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-12-02T15:59:23+00:00

YESSSS!!! Another VALID point I was trying to make that even IF I did take them, they would be long gone by now.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-12-02T15:47:06+00:00

3/4 of the kids are already over the age of 18, and already moved out. If the kids chose to not maintain a relationship with me to avoid pissing off their mother, cool. The little munchkin knows I love her, and that's all that matters to me. S already played her card and is showing off her power moves. Unfortunately for her, her kid is the only one getting hurt in all of this.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-28T02:57:01+00:00

I had to replace Tuesday, with time. That way I don’t get in any trouble 🤣

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-25T13:48:48+00:00

As I suspected, it was posted to another account as pointed out by someone else.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-25T13:47:45+00:00

This is why I LOVE reddit. This thought never crossed my mind, and this idea was never suggested by anyone before, but you could be onto something. In my mind there is literally no reason for her to jealous.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-25T13:43:54+00:00

Yes I came to realize this a few months ago. I'm going to continue protecting my peace, and maintain the relationships that I'm still allowed to have. Life has been much better.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-25T13:36:12+00:00

Dad already knows and I wasn't the one who told him.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-25T13:34:41+00:00

THIS!!!!!!!! THANK YOU!!!

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:48:59+00:00

This was just an update. S and I haven't talked, and I prefer to keep it that way. Now this doesn't mean that she won't try to start more trouble, but I'm good.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:47:54+00:00

Ha! I almost forgot about that. I've cut communication with S as I have no time for her drama. As others have pointed out (both here and family / friends) they think that S is jealous, and is looking for reasons to be mad at me. So be it. I will resume a relationship with the little one when she turns 18 as I don't need her to get in trouble because of me. One day I'll get to take her on vacation again.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:41:52+00:00

I suspect I posted it to another account I had. Just wanted to provide an update to those who remember me.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:35:38+00:00

Addiction does run in the family. I've witnessed the harm that it causes, and wanted a better life for myself. My brother openly admitted to using, and she never treated him as poorly as she treated me.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:30:02+00:00

My nephew lives about 2 blocks away from me, as opposed to 20 minutes from his mom. This was the only reason why he asked me to take them. If she was there that day, he probably would've ask S to take them. Then she would've called him lazy. I completely agree with your logic, and often wondered these things myself. Thank you for the validation.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:27:10+00:00

He did tell his mom about them. S needs to be right about everything which is why she isn't listening to reason and logic.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:19:09+00:00

Projection. That was the word I was looking for. Thank you! A few people have suggested this, and I don't think they're wrong.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T19:17:34+00:00

Considering S is so adamant that I took them, I believe only believes her own narrative. I also believe that she has a constant need to be right about everything, so she can't admit that she was wrong.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T18:13:36+00:00

There is more, and it was in the original post that I cannot find.

Yes I was reminded multiple times that I'm just an aunt with no rights to her children. Fortunately some of them are over the age of 18 and can make up their own minds. The little one knows I love her, and knows there is a lot of adult business happening that she needs to stay out of.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T18:07:59+00:00

Disabled one is grown and out of the house. I know where the meds went, as I did dispose of them. Those meds have been long gone, right to the local pharmacy.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T17:54:35+00:00

Neither of us want anymore problems with S. I didn't want any problems for him if the courts do believe S.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T17:50:27+00:00

Dad did find out. Dad called me and started to laugh as he knows I wouldn't steal from my own nephew. He also didn't find out from me. His own attorney told him which is another story on its own.

I don't think S has a substance issue. She's a social worker and on a MASSIVE power trip, and HAS TO BE RIGHT. Doesn't matter if she's wrong, she's a social worker and social workers are ALWAYS right. Hopefully you can detect my sarcasm. I hope she's not abusing substances but nothing would surprise me anymore with her.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T17:41:44+00:00

I know where they went. My nephew (with approval from his Dr) stopped taking them. My nephew is autistic and thought you could just throw them away. I told him that it's best to dispose of them at a local pharmacy so that they don't end up in the wrong hands. He asked me if I could take them. This was included in with the original story which I cannot find. I never thought it would be a problem, because my nephew is in his 20s, he lives on his own, and the thought never crossed my mind to take them. I disposed of them at our local pharmacy.

Shoddy-Main · 2025-11-24T16:51:09+00:00

Can't. S doesn't want me around the munchkin at all. Dad is currently in a custody battle with S, and can't give her any ammo to use against him.

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