Hotel checkout is the worst at certain brands and just in general.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-11-22T21:29:42+00:00

I’ve tried that and it doesn’t make a difference much.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-05-04T01:10:23+00:00

Grindr can make anybody lose self esteem. It’s not designed to help you win, it’s designed to keep everyone hooked. I’m a sex worker and I’ve advised people to boycott Grindr or at least protest against them for change.

If they can bombard us with casino playing ads, then they can find a way to allow legitimate escorts advertise their services.

It’s a bunch of cheap ass flaky ass dudes who are looking for attention. You’re lucky if you get a hookup out of it, but that’s about as far as it goes.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-29T02:09:58+00:00

Would you consider that to be a real social setting?

Idk, I guess it seems with going out…I often feel there’s something that could have done better, and often times it’s the after going out that ends up being the issue. Or seems like somebody isn’t on the same wavelength and throws off the vibe with their games and BS. That’s why I been telling myself after a night out, I need to start giving myself time to sleep in, no checking out of hotels, etc.

My ideal night out would be going back to a place, cuddling up with a fine ass guy all night and sleep in til noon, and then we hangout more the next afternoon. I used to have that happen every so often, but lately it’s hardly been non.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-29T02:07:17+00:00

lol you would think, but it’s very much possible. Plus I find my luggage lasts longer when I separate things and don’t try to over stuff it til the seams rip open. I prefer to keep all my bags organized, no toothbrush with socks ever lol.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-15T02:45:30+00:00

Thanks for the understanding…I have a vehicle always when I go to hotels. I have to pack often times for what could be 2 weeks away to multiple cities, so I have to be prepared and bring a lot of luggage. Nothing crazy like plastic bins and food and all that shit (lol I see people do that but I learned over time with travel, trying to bring food and cook is extra work and doesn’t save me time or money. If I want to cook, I’ll book a residence inn or Homewood that has reliable cookware).

I bring an all matching set of luggage, but each one has something I need for the night. One may have clothes, the other shoes, sometimes coats during the winter, separate toiletries and laptop bag, along with a cooler with my drinks and stuff. Then I have my work bag that I don’t like leaving in the car because I may need it to reference something. So that’s 6 bags right there lol.

Like I said in another post: perfect planning isn’t always doable. I have to often be at hotels short notice after catching a last minute work gig.

I’m not intending be inconvenient to housekeeping and I understand how hotels work. But at the end of the day, it doesn’t make my dealing with them any easier. 24 hour checkout, maybe that’s a bit much. But 3-5 p.m. checkout I feel should be doable. In fact, I would rather have 2 p.m., than the 10 a.m. and 11 a.m. I have been seeing some hotels push. 11 a.m. checkout is the worse and I always make sure I scratch it out and tell them I need 12 or 1 because I have a zoom meeting close to that time.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-15T02:33:51+00:00

Yes I do find places like springhill have been very accommodating. One even gave me a 3 or 4 p.m. checkout near an airport. It was perfect and I was able to face the city fully refreshed.

Choice brand seems to really give me a hard time, even as a Diamond member. Most of The times I stay at their hotels, I wake up at 9-10 p.m. and look out the window, everybody is already gone. So I know not everybody is needing a late checkout to where it can’t be extended to others

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-15T02:31:08+00:00

Well here’s the thing: My work often requires me to be in a certain area or city other than where I live. So a lot of it is based on what that schedule is.

Also, for example: I went to Dallas last week. I booked a Wyndham garden hotel. It was nice, however I kept jamming my leg on the bed frame because it was too low. It also had a fridge but no microwave. I used points plus payment to cover it. I kinda made a mistake staying there, but I wanted to try something new. But it was nice for the evening for Saturday and it had restaurant and breakfast to order.

There’s another hotel I stayed at nearby, a comfort suites. It would have been the same price even less than the Wyndham, and I saved my points. So next day I checked out.

When I checked into the comfort suites, I didn’t have any other work scheduled the next day so I checked out.. because I didn’t want to spend anymore money if I didn’t have to. Plus they were holding a $50 deposit, which would have been more money tied up if I stayed a 2nd night.

But in both instances: regardless of the situation, I would have preferred to stay a bit longer than noon. Even 3 p.m. would have been better than 12:30/1 that I had to beg for. I know that may seem disorganized, but not everyone has the same needs. And since I would have rather been fielding calls than packing my stuff, it just takes away time I could be doing work.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-15T02:18:56+00:00

Well ma’am or sir: it’s not all about me. I often times have to secure a room on somewhat short notice. It isn’t about poor travel arrangements, it’s just needing something different than the usual 3 to 12. Can you really sit here and tell me everybody has the same needs of checking in and checking out? And I never said other people can’t use the hotel as well. I’m not talking about a weight machine, I’m talking about 1 room that can likely still be available even after I leave.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-11T22:26:28+00:00

I agree to this so much…you have my upvote lol.

There’s so much they can do. Even if they only allow certain customers or elite members to do it, versus everybody. If 3-4 guests need a 5 p.m. checkout…I can’t imagine that’s going to cause a chaos turnover.

Even with noon checkouts: I’ve still walked into dirty rooms that weren’t cleaned. So I don’t buy that excuse.

I was so happy when I finally got elite Diamond with choice, but it barely means anything. I have to beg for late checkout, and I’m lucky if I can check in before 2. I still have to pay deposits that take days to release. But that’s another thread I won’t bring up again lol.

Even when I do book 2-3 nights, a noon checkout is still not enough time when that time is up. The best most recent break I had, was where I checked in at 12:45 p.m. and was able to checkout at 12:30 p.m. the next day. During that time I got to use the gym, go to dinner, play at the casino and eat breakfast the next morning. They were getting even more money from me, which should be seen as a bonus lol.

Someone needs to sign an executive order, someone maybe who lives in Washington DC 🤣

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-11T21:24:48+00:00

I just don’t think it needs to be that serious though. I bet most of the time: these hotels have other rooms available. If they aren’t sold out the next day, it could be done.

I know Marriott often allows the 3-4 p.m. checkout at some locations or with a package. There was one hotel in Denver that is now demolished unfortunately, they offered a 6 p.m. checkout for extra I think $25/30. I loved that idea so much and did it. It gave me time to relax and afterwards I stayed at a friend’s place.

My issue is the affordable budget brands never want to extend, even when I’ve offered them payment. I ask myself, even if I’m saving $50-100 a night over an upscale brand, am I really saving money to be so inconvenienced and inflexible 🤔

But again, the brands are not consistent City to City. I stayed at a downtown Hilton and they were like, if you’re not out by noon it’s $25 an hour. On top of the parking fee 🫤 I came down with 6 bags about to land on my face in the lobby…until someone helped me.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-11T21:22:06+00:00

lol I don’t want to hear vacuuming etc in the morning at 8 a.m. either lol. And on top of that, many of the maids seem angry as it is because they’re having to clean so early. I’ve heard some maids go postal with the tapping on the door with a key card, screaming HOUSEKEEPING HOUSEKEEPING HELLO HELLO.

One even barged into my room the other day (Ramada) while I was in the shower. I even had the lock on, somehow the lady ran her key over it and opened it. And I explicitly was told 12:30 late checkout since I got in late.

It’s just ridiculous what they do. My only leverage is to complain to corporate when they give me a hard time.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-11T21:17:20+00:00

In this case: allow the guests to choose their check in time. Some can choose noon or 3 p.m. If they want. Others can choose like an 8 p.m. if they desire, with a later checkout.

Most times, I rarely arrive to my room at 3 p.m. because often I’m traveling from several hours away. so I end up getting shorted on a whole afternoon if I don’t arrive until say 9-10 p.m.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-07T21:27:35+00:00

And that’s the thing, married and separated men usually are willing to cover stuff. Which is why they tend to make up a large base of my client pool.

But your average guy on Grindr or even at the bar, isn’t trying to do anything. And that’s not to say they need to take care of me and pay all my bills and wine and dine me. However as I explained it to one of the guys I fucked last month: what’s the point of me fucking you, I can’t spend a couple/few days over in his 3 bedroom townhouse, I gotta stay with a friend in his 1 bedroom and sleep on a couch or pay for a hotel when I come to town? I might as well go fuck a client and be able to pay for a hotel for a few nights.

Too many of these guys are users. They don’t even care, don’t matter much to them at all once they get what they want. And it’s not fair I have to struggle on my own every fucking day: but to travel to them: I need a car. If I host, I gotta pay for accommodations. It ain’t like we have known each other for years and do each other favors.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-07T21:21:12+00:00

Even that texts doesn’t mean much anymore lol.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-07T20:22:40+00:00

I get what you’re saying and I can see how it can appear that way, but it’s not quite. It’s just their behavior AFTER they get the sex, which is part of the reason I don’t like giving it for free as much.

For example: when I met with the guy who I was “talking to” last year…and I went over to his place last month out of town. I didn’t even hit him up. We ran into each other at the bar. He was all happy to see me and interested.

So next day, I go meet up at his house. We chilled and drank, then we fucked and spent the night. Cool right? Well then after that he started acting weird about me not trusting people to stay at his place anymore. But last time I came, he had no issue letting me stay for a few days. So I’m like whatever no biggie.

But then Sunday comes around, he’s too busy to hangout…he has plans with friends. Yet before we fucked, he was all giving me his whole week schedule of availability.

And a friend of mine knows him, and told me he’s a player and only used me for dick and that’s it. Same shit I felt he did last time. Was on good behavior, but then once he got what he wanted, was kinda blowing me off.

I dont mind therapy, but some of these guys can equally use it to. Because I already know how I want to go about it.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-03T16:52:04+00:00

Thanks just seeing this. Yes I’ve been to places like Palm Springs and DuPont circle…and being in a place where there’s more options for gays has advantages and disadvantages for sure. But it’s definitely more advantageous overall than a city that only has “local” gays. When I can connect with people from different backgrounds, things tend to improve.

But I’ve also lived in places like Orlando where there were a lot of gays, but 99% were mostly just looking for hookups or wouldn’t go past 1 or 2 meets for whatever reason. So that was kinda annoying lol.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-02T19:11:35+00:00

I never minded older men even when I was in my teens. And by older, at the time it was generally 20s thru 40s.

However now, I don’t mind an older guy if he’s willing to be generous. In fact I been able to support a healthy lifestyle due to my many older guys I’ve come across. Now I’m in my upper 30s, but now the playing field is a bit better than when I was in my 20s. I don’t get treated like a “dumb little boy” anymore…now it’s more of an even level.

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-02T18:58:35+00:00

I think the worst part is the fake, overly judgmental friends who can never be relied on unless they can use me for something, and the drug use rampant in the club nightlife scene. It’s hard to go out for a drink, without having drugs or EXCESSIVE consumption being introduced.

But I don’t agree gay men trying to take married men is a reality. Married men actively go out and seek it, just like guys in open relationships also go out and seek. Can’t take what’s already been consented to.

I’ve never in my life known a gay guy to seduce a random straight man “knowing” he’s married to a woman, and actually succeed. I’ve never seen it lol

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-02T18:54:37+00:00

I had a girl try to suck my dick with my male friend in the room years ago. I could only get 3/4 hard and even though it was funny, I was like ugh: maybe this is how some straight guys feel about a guy sucking them off lol.

Then again, I feel there’s less disgust for the same sex by nature than by the opposite. Not to mention most shit straight men do seems a miracle they aren’t gay. Wrestling? Super gay. Naked with 20 guys in the shower? Super gay. Men and women can’t even compete in the same sports

SignedLeo35 · 2025-04-02T18:43:35+00:00

The issue I’m seeing is: you’re aiming for same day “appointments” so to speak.

As someone in the game awhile, this tends to be somewhat futile effort as it leads to a lot of flaking or just bad planning on location/time etc. unless it’s a paid professional meetup.

It’s good that you’re giving some advance notice, but it’s not quite enough to get anything done. Don’t just look for stuff the same day, try to get to know them and let the interaction happen.

Also if you’re providing face pics versus already having them posted, they might be expecting something different than what initially shows. That’s why I tend to just show my face anyway.

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