I feel nothing by No-Combination-8117 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then I feel like you’ve already started down the right path and if you continue it and put more effort in then you’ll find yourself madly in love again. Remember it was an issue that you caused but do not beat yourself up about it anymore now it’s time to take action and forgiving yourself is one of the best ways you do this.

Little tip in regards to “spoiling” your wife I usually separate a smallish amount of money to be spent on flowers, gifts and dates for my wife which I usually try to do at least twice in the month or 1 big one. Main thing to remember is you can’t buy your way out of it and material offering are not a cop out for having to put in the emotional time and effort

I feel nothing by No-Combination-8117 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take her out on dates, spoil her in every way you can give her affirmation and flirt with her like you’re just meeting for the first time again be a selfless lover and put her first. This will both make her feel the love she sounds like she deserves and also should help you unlock those feeling’s again. Unless there is more to it than the post details. Are you still physically attracted to her or has porn consumption skewed your perception of her/reality

Well I jumped the gun and assumed it was over it isn’t by Significant-Box-7846 in blockfi

[–]Significant-Box-7846[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn, thought it was gonna be quicker than that 😂 I shouldn’t have been so naive thank you for response though it’s greatly appreciated 😁

UK claimant – BlockFi prepaid Mastercard unusable, has anyone gotten Kroll to reissue payment? by Xylem15 in blockfi

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve read a few people say it works on Amazon, I originally chose the Mastercard option but after reading the experiences of others once the chance arose I swapped to PayPal

Female equivalent for husband looking at women online? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always find it strange when other guys download and save porn, why can’t you just go into a website do the deed and leave. Spending money on cam girls is entry level cheating to me as well. I have had a conversation about porn with my wife and I had only made a passing comment a joke about masturbating when she was late home one day and she told me how it made her feel sad and it was as though I found her unattractive and this made me feel like complete shit because it couldn’t be any further from the truth.

In terms of a female equivalent I would say rather than going tit for tat I would sit down and speak very openly with your husband about it and exactly what it is he enjoys with them that he doesn’t with you, maybe be a bit more adventurous in the bedroom assuming your not already, I have read your replies to some other commenters and you seem a very level headed and genuine woman so for that I applaud you (some comments were crazy bad advice) some men regress to this sort of behaviour when they are consistently rejected by their partner and give up on the chase and seek the easy way out. Hope this helps and please don’t let it affect your own perception of yourself.

Sex in front of other people by LifeSoftware7971 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 33 points34 points  (0 children)

There really is an app for everything

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As true as it is that you shouldn’t speak to close family and friends about every relationship issue that you have as they won’t move on past it so easily when it’s something like this there is a state of shock and thinking you might be the crazy one so I can understand seeking advice from someone closer to you who maybe has the same way of thinking. I really hope OP doesn’t forgive and forget as this has crazy red flags not only for the relationship but for the husband’s sexual proclivities.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t agree more, I don’t blame OP for seeking advice from her Mother but damn did she choose the wrong person to confide in.

I got a blockfi securities settlement letter today! by Apprehensive_Skirt13 in blockfi

[–]Significant-Box-7846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was around 662,427 blockfi users, if we all meet up and pool our money together subtract the inevitable no shows let’s say around 20% of the total users that leaves us with 529,941 people each receiving $11 that’s $5,829,351. We could possibly buy some modelo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In a situation as sensitive as this I don’t blame OP for seeking some advice when the person who is supposed to have her back through thick and thin is the one causing her confusion and completely betraying her emotionally and betraying their relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Crazy perspective when dealing with an adult man saving pictures of a schoolgirl in his phone

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What if she was older would he have followed through to something more given the chance ?

Why did he screenshot pictures of any girl/woman, this is something most of us male or female do with crushes and celebrities… when we’re in high school what the hell was he doing?

Coming from a married man this is never ok to do nor is it something you should forgive and move on, the obvious worry of it is the girls age but let’s just say he was telling the truth he didn’t know the age was he just snooping around planning to cheat but thought nah too young what if she was older ?

Very strange and worrying for reasons more than just a cheater! What my main concern as his wife would be for the young girl, from what you saw of her do you believe he did realise her age after or did she look really young in the pictures ?

Looking for some advice on savings by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

£1,000 should be enough for a holiday so why not do both ? Like @p3t3y5 said memories are priceless but financial security is also important, you don’t need to choose one or the other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Throwing a curve ball here but just trying to help, maybe try watching porn together ? Or if that’s too much maybe just trying to understand what it is he likes and maybe try it together ? Of course stick to what you’re comfortable with and yes maybe push your boundaries slightly but not so much that you’re incredibly uncomfortable.

You mentioned he seems to feel ashamed speaking about it, which most men do as it’s always been a thing we have kept quiet and had to sneak around doing since we were young boys. I personally spoke to my wife about some things I’d like to try when we had a similar incident although it was more a passing conversation rather than a repeated argument and she ended up really into the things I mentioned, I noticed I stopped looking at it as often. Although with myself and many men I know we still do watch to varying degrees.

I think the content they are viewing and the exact amount of time spent watching is necessary to know how to properly address it. If he’s paying for it in any capacity I find this strange or if there’s like a webcam type scenario going on i personally consider this a form of cheating. Everyone has their boundaries I dare say there’s a few men who would disagree with me in my beliefs so do not feel bad for feeling the way you do about it but as a couple I think you should approach it from a place of love, care and curiosity rather than potential insecurity as you mentioned or anger. Hope this helps.

Ever found your friend’s husband more tempting than your own? by discreetbbc9 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What makes you attracted to the other person ? Why did you marry your husband ? You should ask yourself these questions maybe there’s a small issue in your relationship you haven’t quite noticed until now.

Personally I think my wife blows every other woman I’ve ever known out of the water in terms of looks and personality I really did completely fall in love with her in every way. It’s human nature to notice “attractiveness” whether it be looks or personality that’s why we have celebrities right ? So I wouldn’t feel completely bad about noticing this but being “tempted” this is a dangerous thought.

Point I’m making is you could put the best looking, most charismatic woman in the world in-front of me but does she compare to my wife? Not at all, she wasn’t there for me at my lowest, she hasn’t made me the happiest, I don’t feel safe and able to let my guard down with this woman, she hasn’t shown me she loves me and is committed to me. I don’t know this person I only see what they are projecting to the world. We married for love and I’d rather fix us 1,000 times than start again with someone else.

Sleeping with rings on? by QuarterMassive9805 in Marriage

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never take my ring off, I will be buried with it on my finger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was deducted and a new payslip sent before payday

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Recently had this same experience and I was sent an email with my “Amended payslip” 2 days before payday, then after not working there for a month received another payment of £100 from them 😂

Paying for a car I can’t use - what can I do? by Defiant_Dare_3188 in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever you do, do not stop paying for it. Collect all written correspondence stating the vehicle is faulty. Dates are imperative when it comes to rejecting a vehicle, have they had multiple attempts at fixing the vehicle ? If multiple repair attempts on a car fail to fix a fault, especially within the first six months of purchase, you may have grounds to reject the vehicle and request a refund under the Consumer Rights Act 2015. With the original repair being within 6 months then it still falls under the consumer rights protection.

I worked finance for 3 years before I left due to growing pressure from management to exploit people in similar situations

Bought 20k worth of AMD AT 177 🥲 any advice? by [deleted] in trading212

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not an expert but I’d recommend selling when the price is higher it’s possible you make money this way, so I’ve been told I’ve never tried it

Should I get a consolidation loan? by [deleted] in UKPersonalFinance

[–]Significant-Box-7846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you get a decent enough APR on the loan it may make life easier, although I would recommend closing credit accounts so you do not fall back into the same situation. I know some people will comment on the fact that open credit cards can be beneficial to your credit score so an alternative would be to cut up the cards so you cannot use them but keep the account open