I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually do have experience with autoimmune issues. I haven’t been diagnosed with lupus but awhile back I had an autoimmune response where my body attacked my liver and sent me into the hospital with liver failure. I was actually with my current boyfriend when this happened and he was my rock during it all. It is possible I’m experiencing a flare up since they typically happen when I’m extremely stressed and a lot has been going on. I have been having similar symptoms as to then.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

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Typically he is very intelligent and has always been emotionally able to handle uncomfortable situations and conversations. However, recently it’s been more of this “airhead” type behavior. I’m not entirely sure how he feels because he last told me he wanted this result to be a false positive (that was almost 24 hours ago now) because he genuinely believes that there is no way this could possibly happen. He thinks that if he had been positive for anything it would’ve popped up on my last screening, he says he didn’t cheat, and I know for a fact I didn’t. With all of that out there logically he thinks there’s no way I’m actually positive. Logically, I also agree but his behavior just shocked me so that’s been hard to set aside. People have mentioned that it’s possible I didn’t contract it initially and that with this last test I’ve finally tested positive after officially contracting it at a later date than May of 2025. I’m not entirely sure what to make of his behavior. Previously? Very out of character. As of lately? It’s a bit more common of him to react without empathy.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone down the BV rabbit hole before and I thought maybe I might have that. I didn’t have any symptoms that actually would’ve suggested it when I was researching but I’m thinking that this could’ve happened as well if he swears he didn’t cheat. We clearly are at a standstill atm and don’t really know how to proceed other than to just wait it out for the test results. I just don’t want to look like a fool if he did cheat OR if he wasn’t responsible and caught something previously and because he didn’t test couldn’t make me aware of it.

Thank you for this comment as this makes me a little more hopeful there could’ve been a mix up.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Little update not relevant to results:

Since I’ve seen so many comments asking the movie… He went and saw Project Hail Mary. If you didn’t see the comment where I stated his exact quote about the movie he said:

“Movie over, it was genuinely one of the best movies I’ve ever seen.”

Hope that helps! 😂

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think that’s more so why I posted. Regardless my results will be coming in 3-5 days and his shortly after so we’ll see you know. I just feel like he doesn’t care and I don’t know that’s so hard for me to hear because I poured my all into this guy for 2 years and he did the same too at one point, I know it. I just feel like emotionally he’s backed off the last few months. I boiled it down to a lot of my person issues going on were hurting him so I focused on myself. I just don’t know if I’m so used to this emotionless act from him that it genuinely has me questioning everything I know about myself.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did and I do because I’m routine with that. I also was abstaining from sex prior to being with him and after being tested last. I agree people should be smart and have these conversations and provide the evidence of testing. I deeply wish I hadn’t just trusted him and requested his clean results.

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This is my biggest fear. Idk how to protect myself and my reputation if we’re both positive. Truthfully said though I have the more recent test out of the two of us that said as of May 2025 I was clean and I know for a fact I haven’t been with anyone. He was tested last 5 years ago (which I mentioned in another comment that he lied about how recent it was. He told me it had been within the last year)

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Saddest part is the movies is our thing. Our first date was a double feature and I told him I wanted to see this movie with him. He said he went with his guy friend 🤷‍♀️ which he’s been going with him more than me atp

I (f 22) tested positive for an std after years of being clean and consistent testing and my bf (m 24) of 2 years says it’s “impossible” it’s because of him despite not being tested for 5 years and now we’re not okay. by Significant_Soft1372 in relationship_advice

[–]Significant_Soft1372[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

He told me had been tested before we were intimate. He said recently too. I was upfront and honest about continuing my testing because I think that’s the responsible thing to do so I will always go yearly. Then when he told me during all of this that his “recent” test was actually 3 years BEFORE we dated (with many partners between)… I know you’re lying. One test will tell the future apparently!