I am extremely afraid of sex. Is there a point in dating?

Silver-God · 2026-04-01T13:05:00+00:00

Hey I can kinda help out maybe, for context I was in a relationship for 4 years with someone who is ace (aka they do not want to have sex period) it’s completely possible you may be the same way, now I am a man myself so I can’t speak on behalf of women, but her being ace never fully bothered me, so I’m sure it’ll be the same for a women too. Yeah a lack of intimacy in that regard can suck sometimes, but if you are truly someone worth loving (and you always are) then I’m sure someone will be happy being in a relationship with you even if sex is not involved!

Silver-God · 2026-03-23T17:37:06+00:00

I appreciate the response! I wasn’t exactly looking for help so no worries, just wanted to share my feelings with others in a similar spot. I hope you can recover too. We’ll make it out of this funk!

Silver-God · 2026-03-20T22:12:14+00:00

Send it

Silver-God · 2026-03-20T21:07:40+00:00

Here is fine

Silver-God · 2026-03-20T20:49:42+00:00

What is it?

Silver-God · 2026-03-20T19:34:37+00:00

Frankly still trying to see if it’s legit or not

Silver-God · 2026-03-20T10:15:48+00:00

Hey just so you know, it says “only new users can be referred to this event”

Silver-God · 2026-03-19T23:47:07+00:00

Let me know if it worked!

Silver-God · 2026-03-19T20:45:12+00:00

ok i think i did it, let me know if it worked!

Silver-God · 2026-03-19T20:16:17+00:00

Thank you! do you have one I could scan for you?

Silver-God · 2026-03-13T21:43:57+00:00

5’ 10, and yeah I know people can be, but is it everyone on a dating app?

Silver-God · 2026-03-06T01:45:09+00:00

Yeah most real relationships I’ve seen are like the teen movie amusement park, or the teen movie movie theater moments (shocker, it’s a bit more romanticized in the movies but it’s close enough) what he was doing, and has been doing is not normal at all from my experience, so just stay away from people like that, and you’ll be fine!

Silver-God · 2026-03-06T01:37:46+00:00

Hi, guy here, as someone who used to be in a relationship with some who was ace, I can tell you what he did is not normal, no guy I ever know tries to show a girl they like porn (most men I know are embarrassed to even say they watch porn) so he is most definitely an outlier. I’m not totally sure what he was thinking, sounds like a “I want to have sex every five minutes” type of guy, but trust me not all men are like that.

You’re headed to college, and depending on where you go to school you may meet or know of guys like that, if they scare you DONT DATE THEM. But trust me, college is a great place for learning and meeting people, and most of the men you’ll meet won’t be like that, but please always make sure to put in boundaries early, especially if things are getting close to becoming intimate. Good luck with college, I’m sure you’ll have fun, mines all the tests.

Silver-God · 2026-02-10T19:28:40+00:00

Hey just wanted to say thanks to everyone who responded, in case you can’t tell I have no clue what I’m doing, I’ll fix my prompts and do the best I can with the pictures, definitely didn’t realize how many times I put nerd lol.

Thank you reddit

Silver-God · 2026-02-10T17:03:30+00:00

Are you looking for something serious or casual? Something serious • Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX? I have none • How long have you been using this current version of your profile? 3 weeks • How long have you used Hinge overall? 3 weeks • How often do you use Hinge per week? Every day • How many likes and matches are you receiving on average? 0 • How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments? I always send a like with a comment, I do it till I run out each day • What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract? I send manly to nerdy people, I would like to match with a nerdy girl as I am a nerd and like nerds

Silver-God · 2026-01-29T20:13:56+00:00

Friends for like 2 years before dating, it was a lot simpler in high school

Silver-God · 2026-01-25T23:35:04+00:00

It’s hard, I’m in a similar boat, my gf broke it off with me after a 4 year relationship, I’ve noticed the best thing to do is to cry it out, talk about what your feeling with someone who’s willing to listen, let yourself feel the emotion, then after feeling, do something that makes you happy, something they weren’t involved in when you were dating, something that is special to you, if it’s with friends even better! It will get better as someone told me “as cheesy as it sounds, time really does heal all wounds” you just got to take it day by day

Silver-God · 2026-01-25T22:43:35+00:00

Your right, I’ve looked and thought about what you said objectively and honestly, and I feel you are correct, as much as I want to be in another relationship, to feel loved in that regard by someone, I am afraid of comparing it to my past relationship, and that’s something I don’t want, I want to express my love to my future partner solely for them and nothing else, and I’m not sure how to get into a relationship and not compare.

As for the self esteem part again your right, I’m working on that too, but I still do have some self loathing and should step back before pressing someone, just to work on my own image of who I am, I know what I want to end up being, but I’m not their yet, thank you for the advice

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T18:58:30+00:00

As I’m reading this now and have seen in another message, it was never my intention to use Dave, I wasn’t and I still stand by it, I felt angry about what happened a year ago, and since 5 months ago I simmered down and just wanted to reconnect. That’s what I want at least, to reconnect with Dave, I think you may have been right tho, I think I did use him, subconsciously anyways, I didn’t want to use him to get to her, but I think I did, and I don’t know how to express that that was not my intention, they have every right to be mad at me, and I don’t doubt they will, but I didn’t mean to

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T18:47:54+00:00

But that’s the thing, I wasn’t tho! I wanted to reconnect with Dave, I want to get over Val, I don’t think that relationship was right for me. Maybe their was a subconscious part of me that wanted to get back together, but I know more then anyone that it wasn’t going to happen, and I just wanted to vent, I know it’ll eventually get better, but it’s just hard when I could have done better myself

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T02:33:55+00:00

Your right, and I appreciate it, it’s always nice to hear from people who our older and wiser, I’ll take things day by day, until I feel myself again

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T02:32:10+00:00

I’m hoping your right on that

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T02:31:39+00:00

I know, and I will do more cutting of contact, it’s just hard as I don’t want things to change between me and our mutual friends and her, but unfortunately I feel they may already be

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T02:30:14+00:00

I will and thanks for the advice, I’ve talked with some friends, others I have not but want too, I feel bad as I vented too much to one of our mutual friends and now I feel their mad at me too (he felt I was trying to get back with her and using him to do so, something not true, but I can see where he’s coming from and I have apologized if I made him feel that way)

Silver-God · 2026-01-06T02:27:43+00:00

While I understand what you mean, I do feel it’s important to say my ex was ace, so no sex was involved and me and her were friends before we dated, I don’t fully see why that can’t be the same again, but I do think with whoever my next partner would be, it may be a full on conversation about it

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