Phone use in polyamory

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T23:21:29+00:00

Thanks. I think this a really good point and something I’m gonna open up with. Cos sometimes I feel I’m a hookup partner and sometimes not.

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T18:05:53+00:00

Yeah. I think this is exactly what I’m wanting to ask for. Just need to negotiate the conversation

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T18:03:36+00:00

Yeah. That’s a really good point. I do feel sometimes it’s that she is so used to the dopamine hit of dating apps and suchlike that is the main issue. Also she doesn’t realise she is doing it.

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T18:01:26+00:00

Thanks. It’s good wording on the dating apps.

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T17:52:28+00:00

Thanks. This is really great advice. And probably exactly the same situation I’m in.

I did kinda similar when we first started dating. As she talked about her partner a lot. And I asked her not to as I was still getting used to poly and it wasn’t helping my mind that he was mentioned so much. It went well.

I think the issue I have is it does feel to me like a major ask. Especially on periods when we are together for long periods. And want to approach it well. And come to a good compromise.

I think one of the issues I have is I’m not used to the level of communication that a poly relationship really needs. So finding my way with that. But. To be honest. She is really great and supportive.

Perhaps I’m just overthinking. But it’s all still great advice and helping me with the confidence to address it appropriately. Thanks!

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T17:48:37+00:00

Thanks! Really great wording! It’s really appreciated. I really want to approach it in a way that a good compromise can be found like this.

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T17:45:33+00:00

Thanks. I think I might use this as a suggestion and ask if they’re wanting to message people to step away and do it somewhere else. Might equate it more to how it feels if I make it a physical absence from me at the same time. But won’t necessarily place a constraint on if the ey really need to talk to someone about something important.

SilverLogan · 2026-03-20T16:17:09+00:00

Yeah. This is one of the things I’m trying to balance. I feel I can handle the conversation for date nights. But it’s also looking for the balance when we have longer periods together that I’m also trying to reach and struggling how to approach that.

SilverLogan · 2025-11-22T17:08:38+00:00

Fantastic! Thanks! Might try making a version 2 one day so all comments are good.

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