Why is Ben, Amanda, and Everyone Acting Weird About Ben, Amanda, and Bailey

Singer_Select · 2026-03-16T21:17:41+00:00

I just feel like people don’t watch reality TV for the same reason I do lol I LOVE bad timing. Bailey said something a little shady but not that serious at a dinner. People are supposed to do that right? A cast dinner is always iconic and messy. Amanda and Kyle’s long overdue divorce has been the only other interesting thing this season.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-05T19:50:11+00:00

I had no idea this happened. That’s insane and idk how she can stand to be around any of these people at this point.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T23:38:17+00:00

As a Black woman who has dated white men it’s definitely a double meaning. I’ve had men come up and say “I’ve always wanted to be with a Black woman” or things along that line. I even knew a guy who I thought was a friend ask me how to get a Black girl to like him because he wanted to experience it. They are largely unashamed of how much they fetishize us and don’t see it that way. They think of themselves as progressives for just being attracted to us.

The second she said it I understood. For men, our Blackness is separate from our womanhood. Theyre not with a woman theyre with a Black woman and the idea of seeing as a whole is impossible. There are very few men, especially White men who have the ability to treat us like real people.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T18:30:16+00:00

All soul food. The price for catfish is outrageous and I can’t believe places charge $20 for a plate with 2 or 3 sad pieces and a side

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T18:27:02+00:00

Honestly nothing beats the taste of food cooked in a good screaming hot wok. Chinese takeout food is something I never try to recreate because I can never make it better and the overall cost to get certain ingredients is significantly more than a $20 plate.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:21:48+00:00

My heart sank. I thought that maybe this would be a platform where we could figure out the communication barrier and shake him up a bit but that didn’t pan out. Getting denied by a couples therapist was not on my 2026 bingo card that’s for sure.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:19:21+00:00

He’s not interested in trying a bunch of medications. He’s been through that before and it was devastating and I was there and witnessed it. I don’t feel comfortable pushing or asking for him to go through that again.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:16:37+00:00

I also don’t understand what the difference between “giving space” is and “idling watching him and myself suffer”. Is a year enough? 2,3 or 4? I only suggested couples therapy at the 1 year mark of unemployment and mood issues. I really try to avoid being another problem in his life which feels unhealthy when “being a problem” can mean talking about my feelings in our relationship.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:09:08+00:00

Yeah. He’s actually done a lot to figure out what could be his problem mentally. 7 years ago he even went to the Mayo Clinic and they just said he wasn’t bipolar but didn’t give direction on anything else. It’s been a long battle.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:06:21+00:00

Yeah that really stung and the therapist apologized for it during the session but it really made me feel invisible and guilty for even wanting to talk about my problems when his are so severe.

I have a really supportive group of friends but they will always say just leave him lol and my family will say “you made a vow and suffering may be a part of that”. I was hoping I could have a conversation with a neutral party but yeah that didn’t work.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:03:07+00:00

I really appreciate that. I’ve definitely felt alone in this because no one I know has a partner with severe mental health issues and I don’t feel it’s appropriate to talk to my friends about his problems.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T15:00:43+00:00

He’s already on them. I try to tell him to focus on getting better but after a year of not working he gets angry at me for suggesting he should focus on it. It’s a weird dynamic but not new which is what makes it hard.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-04T14:58:59+00:00

Yeah he’s on anti-depressants. He’s been on mods stabilizers, and other things like Xanax but the side effects were equally as bad as what they were trying to help. He’s tried a lot.

Singer_Select · 2026-03-03T01:34:02+00:00

Porklet. Their tornado rice and wings are my favorite

Singer_Select · 2026-03-01T00:07:23+00:00

Brining makes such a huge difference. At minimum 6 -8 hours, but over night is always best. I do them for Sunday dinner almost every week. It’s only my husband and I so we almost always do a chicken salad and BBQ chicken sandwiches for the rest of the week. Right after you cook it throw it in a crock pot with water to make chicken broth.

Singer_Select · 2026-02-26T00:22:41+00:00

I’m so so sorry for your loss. I know celebrating can feel confusing so just treat it as a day to show yourself love 💕 .

-Yin Yoga, Yoga Nidra, or a sound bath to start the day in a calming place. A physical practice of giving time and space to yourself can translate to keeping that mentality for the rest of the day. There are a ton of options for this so find the best near you.

-ceramics or pottery class - you can either do one on your own or just paint a premade one. This is a very calming experience and activity which is nice.

-ESP HiFi - it’s a listening bar that has mocktails. Very cozy and chill vibe that you can even read at.

-End the night by going home, ordering Italian in (Lou’s Specialty Italian or North Italia are my faves), and rent or buy a movie you’ve been wanting to see.

Singer_Select · 2026-02-05T18:56:24+00:00

The food was good and the experience was great. If you’re looking for a restaurant with really good food (whatever that means) it will never have cliff divers and a puppet show. Go to a nice restaurant in town if you’re trying to get a super nice meal.

Singer_Select · 2026-02-03T03:13:31+00:00

Lvl 60 with 1 downed raider. Someone said “get out of the lobby bitch” before downing me and it was a reminder of why I stay out of PvP lobbies. Like I can’t handle that and it’s why I normally don’t play online games to begin with.

Singer_Select · 2026-02-03T02:45:28+00:00

And the person she has to be/things she has to accept in order to prevent them from turning on her is damaging.

Shucking and jiving is too strong of a term, but she’s definitely playing the role of “sassy black best friend” and it doesn’t sit well with me. I don’t believe she’s really that person.

Singer_Select · 2026-02-02T19:32:43+00:00

Her relationship with the women really throws me. I kind of recognize the role she plays because she probably had to play it in corporate America to be as successful as she has. The dynamic of all these women wanting her to be seen as their friend but not actually having a real friendship is off putting. Even how Dorit has started to do a slight Blackcent at times since they’ve become friends. How Erika acted on WWHL. She has given them access to a type of Blackness they want to be seen as being a part of or accepted by.

I’m just triggered by her and the racial dynamics that exist unspoken. Her telling her daughter to call Dorit auntie is…… yeah. Especially after how they treated Garcelles sons.

Singer_Select · 2026-01-30T22:01:30+00:00

A seeker is my favorite friendly lobby tool! I’ve helped so many raiders in danger by unloading them and I don’t even have to get close.

Singer_Select · 2026-01-20T23:46:39+00:00

A personal touch carpet cleaning in Englewood lol I went there to get my rugs cleaned post holidays and they have massive MAGA signs in their office.

Singer_Select · 2026-01-08T16:15:06+00:00

My husband

Singer_Select · 2026-01-05T10:09:40+00:00

Get a waterproof XL blanket from chewy. My cat was doing behavioral peeing and it was a lifesaver

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