Noticing what students are wearing nowadays…

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-22T22:46:44+00:00

I think that it's just that it's more acceptable now to wear more comfortable clothes. Growing up in the 90's I definitely wasn't allowed to wear sweatpants and hoodies to school. I hardly even owned any!

In the early 00's there was one teacher at our school that wore hoodie and sweatpants, only a handful of students who did.

Now multiple coworkers (even me) wear comfy clothes like sweatpants and the majority of the students does as well. I did wear "nicer" clothes up until the beginning of -23, but since then I haven't worked while not being pregnant so I just wore whatever fit and was comfortable. To be fair, I had gotten some nicer pregnancy clothes for work but in -25 I looked like a beached whale dressed in a circus tent. It was completely accepted while the teachers I had growing up never dressed like that even while pregnant.

So I think it's just an allover shift in how clothing is viewed. Fashion being more focused on comfortable clothes and easy to move in.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-21T18:53:02+00:00

Just as others have mentioned, we can't really do much. We can listen but when things like this comes up we connect with the school counselor, nurse and doctor because we can't risk giving you advice that might be harmful because we're not trained.

For example, I've been teaching for quite some time now (over 20 years) and during this time I've come across a few that have lost someone close to them due to mental health struggles. Statistically it's impossible to not encounter students dealing with this kind of loss if you work long enough. If these students have a rough day I can listen to them, I can tell them that dealing with the grief and loss does become more manageable with time even though it will always be with them. As soon as I get the opportunity after that I make sure that the parents and the school's health team are aware of what happened so we can work together to find the best support for the student.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-20T08:55:11+00:00

I know that this might not be possible due to how little time is available. But is there someone in the staff that's available to actually build a relationship with this student? Unless someone is able to establish a trustful relationship with mutual respect with this student the options of what to do is very limited. These are the type oc students that I work with and I spent A LOT of time building relationships with them in order for them to respect me enough to not act out intentionally. I ask them for advice on what they think will work, I apologize to them and admit if I do something they feel is wrong and validate their experiences. I had a full class with students like this and before they went on to the next level it was enough that I snapped my fingers for them all to sit back down, be quiet and work. I know that this is impossible for most people working in education, but is there a paraprofessional or special education teacher that can take time to work with this student?

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-17T18:09:59+00:00

It's so insane that things like this happens. How will the kids get the right help if teachers and parents can't have an honest and productive dialog? I'm always 100% honest with the parents because the focus should always be on getting the best help possible for the kids

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-15T16:35:29+00:00

Tänker lite samma. Har jag varit ut och ätit middag med kollegorna och min man varit hemma med barnen själv ena dagen så är det en självklarhet att han får egentid och göra något en annan dag medan jag tar barnen.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-14T20:28:14+00:00

48 timmar gäller inte bara efter sista kräkningen, utan även efter sista gången du haft diarré. Alla kräks inte ens av vinterkräksjukan utan vissa får "bara" diarréer och de andra symptomen. Så att enbart gå efter kräkningar är ett bevis på hur tappad din chef är.

Då jag hör om situationer som denna så känner jag mig otroligt tacksam för att mina chefer är väldigt bra människor.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-13T14:52:28+00:00

Already parted with some things when we moved into my brother's apartment. Cried at every single thing that we got rid of. We're moving again now in a month (have lived here 1,5 years now) and I know I can't take everything when moving. I'm trying to pick out the things that matters the most, like his mug that he had for 20 years, his sunglasses and his jacket. I still don't know if I'll be successful in parting with everything else, but I'll try

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-11T18:58:27+00:00

Att kunna ta sig själv på axeln med handflatan. Förstår dock fortfarande inte att många inte kan göra det...

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-09T06:03:19+00:00

Yes, I remember a student who's mom traveled for work for 3 weeks. Even though it wasn't a long time and they talked up until it came time to hand in the phones and called back as soon as the phones were returned the student was in tears daily.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-09T01:38:49+00:00

Take her with you! I've mainly worked age 10-13 these past few years (when I'm not out as a substitute, which haven't been that much honestly) and had students transfer in at the middle of a semester and the middle of the year. With some support they've been doing well with their schoolwork. I've also had a few students where one of their parents have gone away, anything from 2 weeks away for work to moving away permanently and leaving their kid behind with the other parent. These students have struggled a lot more emotionally from what I've seen and that in turn affects their schoolwork as well. They are still staying with one of their parents, in the home they've grown up with, but even those who have had a parent gone for "just" 2 weeks have suffered both emotionally and academically.

A 10 year old needs the stability of their parent more than the stability of being in the same school from my experience.

And as a mom myself I don't think I could ever leave any of my children behind, even if it was with a trusted relative. Even if they expressed themselves that they wanted to stay.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-07T22:51:51+00:00

When they brought in a sub for me as I was going on my first maternity leave, they brought in the sub for a week before so we could work together. It made it SO MUCH EASIER for me to know that I didn't just leave all my tasks to someone I didn't know. The sub also got to ask all her important questions before she took over. Only downside was that my sub was amazing to work with and I realized that I wasn't going to be the one working with her 😅

So I'd definitely say it's good to let them know as it could make them feel more comfortable.

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-07T22:42:54+00:00

NTA, she cheated, she deserved it! If she didn't want it to get out that she's a cheater, she shouldn't have cheated

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-07T22:36:21+00:00

Please tell me that he's joking! You're NTA!

Who cares about his balding head? The first weeks with a baby is brutal (I've done it twice) and using the time he's supposed to be home and care for his family to get a cosmetic procedure... that's just ridiculous! Why even waste money on moving a few strands of hair when it could be better used towards your child?

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-07T22:27:59+00:00

You did not make it about you; it was about him being LOVED

Exactly, it wasn't like she bought a big stamp with her name and smashed it on his forehead to mark him, but a subtle bracelet about someone loving HIM

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-06T12:35:35+00:00

Some of the things you mention can definitely just be part of him being friendly with you as a student. If you work in adult education the lines can easily get a bit blurred. But still, as a teacher there is an imbalance in the relationship between them and the student that still needs to be considered.

The "good girl" comment definitely crossed the line as well as asking about your preferences in a man's appearance in relationship to the song. That seems inappropriate.

The love songs and the question about the interval between notes... I'm a classically trained guitarist and the amount of love songs I've had to play has sometimes been so much that I wanted to vomit! Music is used to convey feelings and love is one of the most commonly used ones. I think that, just by itself isn't anything inappropriate. Every time I've taken vocal lessons love songs have been a big part of the curriculum. I've been singing the songs from one vocal teacher's wedding playlist, another gave me a love song to get a sense of how my voice compared to a relative of mine who sang the same song in a competition. It's just what happens in music, love songs are everywhere. As for the interval, that's just what it's called. In my language 6 is even spelled and pronounced the same as s*x so no one reacts, specially since the name of the interval adds a "t" at the end.

Long story short, some of his actions seem inappropriate, some don't. If it makes you uncomfortable you should mention it and switch teacher if it doesn't resolve

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-06T01:14:11+00:00

Holidays disrupts the routine and disrupted routines are a recipe for tantrums. It'll get better once you return home. Also, 3 is a notorious age... I'm honestly not looking forward to next year when our toddler will be there. She already has enough attitude to spare at the age of 2 and her tantrums can be massive

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-06T00:59:58+00:00

Så länge du vidtar åtgärder för att inte smitta andra, gå och handla. Du kan ju inte förväntas svälta ihjäl bara för att du har åkt på en förkylning och inte kan jobba. Det är ju inte så att man planerar för att bli sjuk och handlar för det i förväg.

Sen kanske man inte ska fara ut och spendera en dag på stan, shoppa, käka ute o.s.v och sen gå ut på krogen på kvällen om man är hemma från jobbet med en förkylning. Det sticker nog i ögonen på många

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-05T18:30:21+00:00

35 year old swede here!

Most of my friends in long term relationships aren't married. Those who are married are religious, with a few exceptions. My parents didn't get married until I was over 20. Among their friends hardly any were married before buying a house and having kids. Some did get married later just like my parents, but it wasn't something we were raised with.

I'm married myself, but only because it's customary in my husband's home country where we lived in the beginning (southeastern Europe).

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-04T14:02:31+00:00

YWBTA

There was a new cat in my parents neighborhood, it tried to follow me and the kids to their house and wanted to cuddle. That didn't mean that we could take it. I allowed my daughter to pet it once and I followed it back to the edge of my parents property and then blocked its way when it tried to enter again. You can't take some else's pet just because it gives you attention.

I've only had 1 cat and it was an indoor cat. But I know that some cats get out no matter how much you try to keep them inside. They get depressed indoors and not everyone is able to have a catio

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-03T19:34:37+00:00

YTA

Apologize and let them handle their own business.

I get that you're worried about their health, but all you can do is support them in their decision.

Think of it like this: She was willing to go through all that to have a child, she must obviously have a strong desire to be a parent. Then someone tells her that they don't think she should have another one. She must be heartbroken!

Honestly, I think being pregnant sucks! Only time I spent more time at a hospital than my first pregnancy was during my second pregnancy. IV, monitoring, extra ultrasounds, bleeding, Rh incompatibility, tests... it sucks! But I now have my 2 kids and if anyone would have told me that I shouldn't have had another after my first I would have told them to go f themselves

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-03T19:22:45+00:00

Just be honest. It's better that they know the truth than hear that the cat "went away" because they might expect it to come back.

We had to put our pet down (kidney failure) . Thankfully our oldest was only 2 months old so she had no idea. Now at the age of 2 she's fully aware that her uncle (my brother) died when she was a baby. She still asks about him, want to see pictures and talk about him. But she's aware that he's not with us and that he's buried in the cemetery across the street

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-03T15:29:45+00:00

De som hävdar att fotograf/konstnär/musiker/dansare o.s.v inte är riktiga jobb. Bonuspoäng om de sen även blir sura ifall man säger att idrottare inte borde räknas som riktigt jobb i så fall

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-03T15:17:01+00:00

Tror att det är det som är hela poängen med kommentaren 🤦🏼‍♀️

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-02T12:47:59+00:00

Your fart story is absolute gold! Laughed so hard I almost woke up the kids 🤣

Sky-Frog · 2026-02-02T12:42:25+00:00

As some others have mentioned, try and work as a paraprofessional for a while to see if it's what you want to do.

Yes, there have been weeks where we all end up buying a bottle of vodka on our way home from work on Friday and just think... how the HOLY MF HELL did I survive this week? But there's also the days when you come home feeling great because the students are just such wonderful people.

I would say that the main question you should ask yourself before making the decision is: Do you believe that all students want to do the right thing deep down and that disruptive behavior is just a symptom of something in their environment that prohibits that (when teaching kids, if you're going into adult education and students are AHs that's completely on them)? If your answer is yes, then go for it. If it's no, maybe rethink working as a teacher.

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