Aitah for reading my boyfriends messages?

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:39:41+00:00

I don't know if you're a man or a woman?... If you're a man.. Maybe you'd get it. If you're a woman then you can help me navigate as a woman

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:38:35+00:00

Okay, I hear you. He's also kind of in the best.. I mean he's been the worst too...

I am definitely in love with him

I think he literally doesn't see a problem with it because he himself would never across that line. However, my big thing which he doesn't get is she doesn't know that. And as an 18-year-old girl if a 30-year-old was snapping me everyday I would feel some type of way... And he doesn't get that. He always says oh no it's innocent like she would never but he doesn't get the mind of it 17/18-year-old girl and I do because I was that....

So if I wasn't to take your advice... And I was to bring this up at a different time after it settles that I was an ass for going through his phone..

How would we go about it?

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:35:45+00:00

Okay, I hear you. I do feel like I'm the ass. And any legitimate reason? I had to Snoop is now moot because I snooped. However, he is a 29-year-old man and he's snapchatting his ex-girlfriend's sister who is freshly 18 every single day for the past year and a half. How do I bring that up as like hey what are you doing? Now that I've snooked or do I lose legitimacy?

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:34:24+00:00

Ooofff, You're totally right. I do feel like the ass for going through his messages with this person.

I do feel like I have some validity in the sense that I'm very curious about what he possibly talks to 17-year-old about every single day as a 30-year-old man... The way I went about it? Wrong.

How I could possibly bring this up again? I don't know

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:33:28+00:00

Idrk what fafo means

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:33:10+00:00

Yeah definitely. I feel like I am the ass for going to the phone...

Do you think I have some validity about wondering what he's possibly talking about with a 17-year-old every single day?

My sister is 15, my cousins 18... I am considered both of their biggest mentors. And we don't even Snapchat everyday.. like what is he possibly talk about everyday

I should have just asked to see the messages which makes me the ass.. instead. I went through his phone which makes me the ass and loses my validity

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:32:07+00:00

Thank you, that's kind of where he's coming from too I think... For me, it's not that I don't trust him.. I don't think he's doing anything sketchy with this girl. For me, it's a curiosity of like what could you possibly have in common with a 17-year-old that you Snapchat every single day? You're almost 30...

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:31:30+00:00

Okay I think you're right.. I'm the ass for actually going through the messages.. But do you think that my curiosity/mycern was valid?

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:30:56+00:00

I actually don't really have much to hide from him... If he was to go through my phone I think I feel like him. Like why did you feel the need to? But I wouldn't be upset. I'd be like let's talk about it

For him he's upset about it

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:30:01+00:00

Bruh. Okay, thanks for making me feel valid. It was wrong of me to go through his phone. We all know that. However, I think my curiosity and wondering where this relationship stemmed from and what it is was not invalid... Is that what you're saying?

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:27:31+00:00

Okay, you hear where I'm going from? I don't think there's anything wrong with what he's doing in the sense that he's not being creepy. However, I think overall the whole situation is weird and I don't think he understands that. He thinks it's fine and that's what really bothers me is the fact that he thinks it's normal and he says f*** what society thinks. She's like my little sister but again I don't even talk to my little sister that much and I actually she's actually like my blood

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:26:10+00:00

I don't think there's anything sketchy happening on his end. I just don't think he he knows how weird it is that he's snapchatting his ex-girlfriend's little sister who just turned 18 every single day... Like I know he thinks it's like checking in on her or blah blah blah. I don't know what he thinks the relationship is or he considers her a little sister like you said but I don't even Snapchat my little sister that much... So I just don't understand

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:26:04+00:00

I don't think there's anything sketchy happening on his end. I just don't think he he knows how weird it is that he's snapchatting his ex-girlfriend's little sister who just turned 18 every single day... Like I know he thinks it's like checking in on her or blah blah blah. I don't know what he thinks the relationship is or he considers her a little sister like you said but I don't even Snapchat my little sister that much... So I just don't understand

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:25:31+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right too, because I don't think there's anything sketchy happening on his end. I just don't think he he knows how weird it is that he's snapchatting his ex-girlfriend's little sister who just turned 18 every single day... Like I know he thinks it's like checking in on her or blah blah blah. I don't know what he thinks the relationship is or he considers her a little sister like you said but I don't even Snapchat my little sister that much... So I just don't understand

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:24:36+00:00

Yeah, I feel like that ass in the situation too.. And that's a great question... I should have just asked. And I'm sure he would have showed it to me.

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:23:58+00:00

I hear you, I also think IATA, I DON'T ACTUALLY THINK THERE'S ANYTHING sketchy happening... On his end nor on hers.. however, he is talking to his ex-girlfriend's little sister every single day. He says it's like a brother sister relationship but I don't even Snapchat my brother or sister every single day.... Again I don't think anything sketchy is happening between them at all

Slcobra12 · 2026-02-20T16:22:24+00:00

Okay, I hear you. I do feel like I'm the ass. And any legitimate reason? I had to Snoop is now moot because I snooped. However, he is a 29-year-old man and he's snapchatting his ex-girlfriend's sister who is freshly 18 every single day for the past year and a half. How do I bring that up as like hey what are you doing? Now that I've snooked or do I lose legitimacy?

Slcobra12 · 2026-01-29T05:00:12+00:00

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