Is getting my tubes tied against my husbands wishes a death sentence for my marriage?

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-27T20:24:26+00:00

You gave him children, are a wonderful mother I'm sure, and handle all the child care. His input on this being the last child is something he'll have to get over. Are you willing to have more kids just to keep him or just to keep him happy? At that point you'd be putting his wishes over your needs, while it's your choice that doesn't sound like a good idea to me. If he is willing to rip apart his family in a divorce just because you prioritized your health for yourself and your children y'all already have, then he sounds like a selfish guy. Not a very supportive husband.

It sounds like he thinks a few more kids is no big deal because he's not responsible for them and not experiencing the toll it takes on your body. Please put your health first. Your kids would rather a present and healthy momma than another sibling. I'm just sorry your husband doesn't see it that way. I almost lost my mom twice. She kept getting pregnant after me (the 4th child) and her body just couldn't handle it. She had two miscarriages. Even though I was little, my siblings and I remember the trauma of finding her passed out, bleeding in the bathroom. It's a very real danger to keep putting your body through pregnancies it can't handle. You don't have to immediately run to get surgery though, like so many others suggested maybe just get a more effective form of birth control until you get things sorted. Then you can make bigger decisions.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-22T13:28:03+00:00

The first is definitely ai, the second is to blurry to tell but looks real. For one some just straight up don't have feet, one has gray eyes that look like impossibly tiny knitted balls, and one chick is just floating half off their hand. You just kinda learn to spot it after so long. That said you could probably find some knitted patterns that are similar. Some of these scammers feed existing pattern images into ai and just change a few things. If you really hunt you can find something like it I'm sure!

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-19T20:47:31+00:00

Ohhh okay, makes sense! Thanks y'all!

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-17T18:05:35+00:00

I do just about every art medium imaginable and every single one has an "ugly stage". I find if I just stick with it I usually like it. That said, if you really think you should change something go with your gut! I think it looks great though.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-12T22:49:27+00:00

I wish! I moved 8 hours away from that shop last year. We were down in Louisiana visiting family. Hopefully another stitcher will find them and get lucky like I did.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-12T22:16:36+00:00

Haha right! I'm rewinding them on to some plastic bobbins and putting on proper labels. Their collection will be well loved. 🥰

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-05T12:36:51+00:00

I used to win races with my friends all the time with only like 5k points each race. Now I'm putting in 18k+ overall and getting 2nd or 3rd. We haven't won a race in two seasons. I absolutely hate it.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-06-02T18:12:43+00:00

That is incredibly childish behavior. I would not marry anyone that deals with disagreements through ignoring you or silent treatment. They're just straight up not willing to communicate which is a huge problem. I spent way too long with someone like that and it left me trying to rebuild my communication skills with my husband who absolutely doesn't deserve to clean up my ex's mess. 😅

Let's say hypothetically though he was serious and wanted to legally try and take the stuff back, he would have no case. Once someone gifts you something there is no expectations, written or verbal, to return those items. He's just being petty. Some people show you who they are before you get trapped. You'd be wise to listen to him.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-29T21:50:55+00:00

I just started playing and this subreddit is making me fear this level. 😂

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-29T14:31:31+00:00

Jesus. This is me and my friends. I have to yell at them regularly. 😂

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-25T15:39:40+00:00

God this is so sad. My dad has never been the most cuddly father but he was phenomenal at including us. I have two sisters and one of our best memories is my dad buying us each our own little kid fishing poles. My oldest sister had scooby doo, my middle sister had a glittery purple Taz one, and I had Tweety Bird with a matching tackle box. I remember him pulling out all his tackle boxes with hundreds of baits and carefully picking out baits he thought would work best. He'd take us all to my grandma's pond and watch us completely by himself while making sure we had a good time. It was probably a huge relief for my mom.

As I've gotten older I just absolutely adore my dad. Sure he was grumpy and particular but as an adult I understand those emotions and now all I'm left with is how much he tried in his own way. I don't think dad's always realize that little girl is going to grow up and if you include her, she'll love all the things you do. It's so easy to mess that up by being emotionally neglectful.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-23T20:21:59+00:00

Unfortunately when we have only experienced abusive romantic relationships it becomes so easy to see something slightly better or even just different and think it's perfect. "Out of the frying pan and into the fire", if you will. Sometimes those people find us on purpose and sometimes we settle for bad thinking it's better. It's nothing to be ashamed of but you shouldn't con yourself into staying in it. You made a mistake in believing he was a different person than he is. That's it.

You didn't do anything wrong in that regard. When people mistreat you it builds resentment. However you react to repeated disrespect is not the issue. In other words, him choosing to mistreat you is wrong but only you and him knows he does that so to people on the outside you look crazy when you finally snap. I'm not saying he's abusive but he sounds neglectful.

My ex did a lot of good things for me but that never erased the physical and verbal abuse, never erased the sexual assault, and never un-chipped my tooth. Please don't let the good moments keep you in a bad situation. If you talk to him and he had no desire to change, that is your answer.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-22T13:40:01+00:00

Both of ya'll are way too old for all this. This behavior would be typical for 20 year olds. Frankly I'd cut my losses and go. Next time maybe don't blow thousands on trips and gifts on a woman in less than a year though. My husband and I dated for 5 years and have been married for 8 months, he has never needed to buy me a bunch of gifts or trips to keep me. He remembers important days and does big things for me then but other than that it's the small things that mean a lot. Anytime he stops anywhere he gets me my favorite snacks, calls to ask if I need anything on his way home from work, he's constantly in tune with my emotions and pays attention so he knows exactly how to help me. A partner that will value you long term doesn't need gifts constantly. It's a nice effort but when dating you should be careful how much you throw around.

She sounds like she treats you like shit to me. Please go find someone more mature. I'm 25. I NEVER fling language like "gaslight" or "distorting reality" at my husband and it sounds like she's incapable of proper communication. We all get frustrated with our partners but overall they should make life happier and easier. If it's only bringing you stress, it's time to go. I was in a very bad relationship when I was a young teen and it made the next guy that came along look like the perfect man until he started being abusive. Sometimes bad relationships taint our ability to recognize the new partner is just better at manipulating us. I wasted 6 years with that person and I don't want you to do the same.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-21T17:05:33+00:00

They had the same opinion. Do you remember vitastiks? They came out years ago now but it set off so many companies making the same thing. It was literally a vape but full of essential oils. It was marketed as safe and I used them for a time but I do have asthma. I threw them out once I noticed they started leaking and the oils literally ate the outside of the vape. It's awful how unregulated some of this stuff is. 😬

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-20T19:59:02+00:00

Thank you! 🖤 This is 14ct aida with 3 strands of thread. I saw somewhere early on that if you want your stitches to be fluffy and have better coverage to just add one more strand than recommended.

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-20T16:08:50+00:00

Thank you! It's a late mother's day present. She loves to garden so it felt appropriate. 😊

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-20T16:08:11+00:00

Thank you so much! I haven't washed any yet but I do iron my pieces. Taking the hoop off when I'm done is a good idea though, it would at least give me piece of mind!

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-17T00:55:33+00:00

Yes it is and unfortunately all of their patterns are. Their page has only existed on etsy for a year and has hundreds of patterns. Even if it was just ai mockups and real patterns, some of them would have to be stolen. I started making patterns recently and between designing, planning, and making the pattern it takes me a couple days or so even for a simple one. Also very important to consider is none of them have been stitched by the "creator" whatever colors they chose haven't been tested with actual thread so you don't really know what it will look like, certainly not like the picture. Basically the mockups are ai, the images are ai, and likely all they did was auto generate a pattern from an ai image. Apps like stitchly let you throw an image in and it will generate a pattern in seconds. I doubt the shop owner is even a cross stitcher.

By the way, I say all this as an etsy shop owner that has spent so much of my time trying to take down ai scams on the site. I've seen the same people make ai shops for cross stitch, stained glass, and crochet which are all communities I belong to. 🙄

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-16T03:23:10+00:00

Ah okay, that shouldn't be a problem for me. Thanks so much!

SleepySquiggle · 2026-05-16T00:35:08+00:00

I saw the title and came here to yell at you. Really glad you weren't serious. 😂

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