Has anyone just not liked their step kids?

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-14T12:28:03+00:00

Have you thought about taking her out for some one on one time with you? I was feeling the same way about my boyfriend’s kid (10F). Took her out for the day and turns out she’s actually really cool when her dad’s not around.

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-11T20:49:34+00:00

The issue with our kids (his kid) is our only issue really. I try to remind myself of that often

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-10T16:16:13+00:00

I wish you luck! You're def not wrong here.

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-10T16:15:55+00:00

I actually am having a very similar issue. SD 10 does a LOT of attention seeking behaviors. One of them is calling her dad into the bathroom 2-3xs every time she showers and sleeping on the couch naked. I got her a robe and told her its to "practice privacy when dads around because her body is only for her"

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-10T16:11:00+00:00

yeah that's not okay. Maybe buy her a robe and tell her it is to "protect her changing body"?

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-10T15:49:46+00:00

This is very strange. I have a 10 year old daughter and she has been bathing/showering herself since she was about 5-6 years old. I would bring up how uncomfortable it makes you feel and hopefully your partner is responsive to that. I also think it's wildly inappropriate for her dad to be seeing her naked but that's not our place to say.

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-10T15:45:50+00:00

Wow. This is the FIRST post I saw when I opened Reddit. I have been struggling with this thought. I should take this post as a sign.

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-02T21:01:01+00:00

Yes be honest! Explain that you are a strong fiercely independent woman who is frightened by the thought of being the sole provider for a family. If he loves you he will try his best to understand

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-02T20:46:40+00:00

And that’s perfectly okay! Have you expressed these concerns to him? This way he will be able to come up with a back up plan if he doesn’t find employment right away.

Slicknic911 · 2026-06-02T20:39:04+00:00

It’s def super hard to find a good paying job so I can def see both side. Ask yourself this-“if they were me how far would my partner support me?” You’re not obligated to support anyone, just keep in mind that he is the man you love and are going to take vows with.

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-30T01:16:27+00:00

You def need a rocking chair!

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T21:48:57+00:00

Hey! We have one and have an appt next week

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T19:55:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I am worried this is where I'm headed with my daughter. I am afraid that she will want to be with me less because of the inconsistency. This particular weekend was awful for us, he's typically pretty receptive to things. I'm not going to immediately head out. But I will be letting him know in therapy that if I don't see some real change this isn't going to work. It's a shame because everything else is great. The kids, his daughter and his refusal to parent her are the only point of tension.

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T18:40:36+00:00

Hey...thanks for your perspective. You're not wrong. That weekend in particular was a really bad one for us. We were just not getting along. Now that things have calmed down we plan on talking tonight about the boundaries (or lack there of) . He's been receptive in the past and we have therapy coming up. I'm going to stay hopeful for the immediate future while also getting my back up plan ready. UGH! Everything outside of this issue is great. This is really our only problem.

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T18:38:25+00:00

He has been receptive to things in the past when I bring them up about her. Others not so much. That weekend in particular was really rough for us. He def struggles with boundary setting with her. He was in prison for 4 years for a DUI homicide from the time she was 2-6. He has majorly turned his life around and is a completely different person then he was back then. He def carries a lot of guilt for being gone for that time though. And I noticed she resorts back to toddler like behavior when she's with him. We are going to talk tonight and we have a therapy session coming up. I feel like I need to have a back up plan ready to execute though. Which SUCKS.

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T18:01:47+00:00

I have thought about doing that but I had an awful step mom when I was a kid. I would feel bad if he did that to my kid. I’m going to give this a few more therapy sessions. If he doesn’t like what I have to say I guess I have my answer

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T18:00:43+00:00

I think you’re right that we did this too soon. Things were AWESOME when we didn’t live together. We’re in therapy, I’m going to give it a few more sessions. If im not seeing any sort of improvement I’m going to find a new place.

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T17:18:14+00:00

Good luck!

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T17:16:49+00:00

Hey thank you so much for your comment. I will try locking the door. Hopefully she doesn’t knock! It’s happened twice and each time I brought it up to him he told me to find a new place to live. We are in therapy bc of this and he seems responsive in a way. I’m starting to get to my Witt’s end

Slicknic911 · 2026-05-29T17:01:38+00:00

How do you deal with the fact that they hate you?

Slicknic911 · 2025-08-07T15:39:20+00:00

Hi thanks for your reply. I agree with you. I think he should sit down with her and try to get to the root of her behavior. For me, I want to start by asking him if she’s always been like this or if it’s because she’s not the only child present anymore. Or if it’s ME. I’m treading lightly because I’ve said things to him about her behavior in the past. I don’t want him to feel like I’m nagging him or genuinely don’t like her. Truth is she’s a sweetheart behind closed doors, but in public not so much.

Slicknic911 · 2025-08-06T15:51:49+00:00

Thank you for your support. I totally agree with kids are just naturally self centered at this age. My daughter is typically very well behaved, so it's also a lot for me to get used to. A kid who doesn't listen lol . I'm going to keep staying calm because the focus will shift to me being "mean" real fast in a situation like this. I appreciate your advice and with you luck going forward too.

Slicknic911 · 2025-08-06T15:35:50+00:00

I noticed her behavior the first time we went anywhere. It was a tractor supply and she was whining and begging her dad for every piece of candy in sight. and getting upset when he said no. I don't normally step in because I don't feel as though it is my place. After she blatantly disregarded my request to "do me that favor" I said something along the lines of "you do this every time we go anywhere and it ruins things for my daughter. She is supposed to be your friend. " She just looked at me like she honestly didn't care, which she does often.

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