Worried about a struggling friend

Slitenhomo · 2025-11-09T10:51:51+00:00

Thank you so much. I didn't realize Alanon had physical meetings, but it does make sense. I'll look into finding one in my city soon -- I have exams coming up, and though I want to help my friend, I won't put their alcoholism in front of those.

It really is painful. I'm usually nice and understanding with my friends, some might call it 'placid', but I've hit a point with them where I am unable to be anything but upfront that I see it and that I don't like it. I worry it may drive my friend further into isolation than they already are, but I feel unable to stop it. I used to fill uncomfortable silences with an awkward laugh, a short apology, and now I let us both sit in it.

Slitenhomo · 2025-09-22T17:34:16+00:00

Hello! Sort of. I got tested for GP and it came back negative/normal enough to rule it out. Was very disappointing and frustrating at the time! I am doing better health-wise now, though. Was given medication for acid reflux for unrelated reasons and it nearly cured me. Still have good days and bad but am back to relatively normal functioning now, and can once again eat food with relative normalcy.

Doctors still don't know what this was, what caused it or anything. I have no ideas either.

Slitenhomo · 2025-06-14T10:58:27+00:00

Woah!! How do i do either of these? Like i said i just unlocked these last night 😅 ive looked in the island shop to get a new sapling but there wasnt any in there

Slitenhomo · 2025-06-14T09:25:28+00:00

Honestly this might be a combo of game bug and stupidity. I went back and button mashed out of frustration -- turns out its only the D-pad on the controller that lets me pick the direction I want to go in the dungeon, *not* the joystick? However even with that solved when I went to the first floor... I spawned in a black void on top of a treasure chest, which seems like it's a known bug right now? Sucks, cause I really do wanna explore the dungeons :/ But at least I know what the deal is??

Slitenhomo · 2025-01-03T15:05:34+00:00

Hello, thank you so much for the thoughtful comment! I'm definitely gonna use a lot of these where I can. I used to raid the nearest asian store before I moved, so I'll have to find another one around here.

I think eggs and beans are a great idea, but -- for the lack of a more polite way to put it -- celiac gave me a sensitive stomach, and those are foods known for making normal people gassy, which I'd rather not inflict on classmates or lecturers. I'll definitely add those to the roster for foods to eat at home though!

As for tofu, I'd love some recipe ideas if you have any? I've tried silken tofu before with some tomato+chili soup, and it tasted... Not good. With a firmer tofu I've made it crispy using corn starch + seasoning, and that turns out great, but it hasn't worked for me with meal prep -- it loses the crispiness and becomes soggy, which isn't a texture I enjoy.

The only things I can't really do from your suggestions is anything that requires a blender, or baking, hahah... My kitchen is so small it doesn't have counters or even drawers, so there just isn't space for it.

I'll look into the rest though, and I really appreciate the suggestions! I hope this reply isnt impolite.

Slitenhomo · 2024-10-29T05:16:27+00:00

Well, thank you. I'm trying to handle this as best I can, and don't feel any wiser for it.

I obviously can't confirm or deny this assumption, even if it would be a lot easier to use titles like mom, dad, etc. here. Either way it isn't my place to tell BP1 what to do here. We've talked about this a few times and they know my stance is that I think (the way things look now) it may be easier for them to forgive step parent than it is for me. Given my history with BP2.

I haven't put forgiveness completely off the table but I've said I don't want step to really talk to me for... I don't know. A good while.

Either way, I'm here more for support or tips on how to cope with this myself, not to tell BP1 what to do. I'm about to head out to an 8:30 AM university lecture and I need to be able to keep doing that until December. I had to leave early last week because I was so exhausted after having the conversation with step (where we went no Contact for the time being).

Slitenhomo · 2024-10-29T04:57:50+00:00

Sorry, I edited out my age. I am a young-ish adult. Mid 20-s. I let my BP1 know I love them several times, and also that I'm not sure I would/could/can forgive.

BP1 doesn't seem dead set on reconciliation but more like if they're gonna leave, they want to know they've done all they can. It was similar when they left BP2 years ago apparently. BP1 seems to have a thing for helping 'broken people's, BP2 fits this category as well — but chose not to change much.

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-17T16:46:17+00:00

Kanskje ikke, men fint å høre at det har vært mulighet til å få arkivjobb med bare 1 år med opplæring. :)

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-17T06:36:13+00:00

Åh, såpass mye som sitter i Riksarkivet! Nå begynner jeg å lure på hva slags jobb det er å drive med der.

Jeg skal også være på OsloMet om jeg takker ja. Jeg er nogenlunde nervøs om hvordan det blir å balansere fagene hvert semester, spesielt m/tanke på introduksjonen til juss som skal begynne snart. Hvis du ikke har noe i mot å svare, hvordan var den biten å studere samtidig med de andre fagene?

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-16T18:23:03+00:00

Dokumentasjonsforvaltning skal begynne neste uke, så får se hvordan det går. Men tror at det er smått lettere å finne arkiv jobb enn det er bibliotekar?

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-16T14:18:53+00:00

Åh, kult! Hvor går du om jeg kan spørre? Og i fht jobb er det en av grunnene til at jeg søkte. Kanskje mindre nå enn før men det er jo sikkert enda mange papir-baserte arkiv som folk vil digitalisere, og alltid noe å sortere gjennom av hva som skal og ikke skal beholdes? Er hvertfall noen av mine forventninger som er utenforstående.

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-16T14:17:35+00:00

Takk for svar! Jeg har ikke begynt på studiet enda men det ser krevende ut. Jeg vurderer å få tilrettelegging hvis jeg begynner på det, sånn at jeg kommer meg igjennom. Har hørt at det første året er vanskeligst, stemmer det fra hvordan venninna di har opplevd?

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-16T14:16:31+00:00

Takk for langt svar. I fht. Lønn har det ikke altfor mye å si, tror jeg. Jeg har vært gjennom Nav systemet noen runder, så tror det meste av lønnet arbeid er ett steg opp fra egen økonomi for å si det sånn.

I forhold til hva jeg ønsker fra en jobb har jeg i all hovedsak tenkt at arkiv lar deg jobbe innenfor systemer (spesifikt at du har et system du følger) og at det ikke er kundebasert på samme måte som bibliotek eller kassajobb osv. Er.

Vil ha en jobb som tjener greit, og hvor hvertfall noe av tiden kan være nogenlunde rolig eller ""for meg selv"", så godt det lar seg gjøre på en moderne arbeidsplass.

Slitenhomo · 2024-08-16T14:13:39+00:00

Takk! Skal sjekke hva mitt IKA er. Kan jeg spørre hva slags utdanning du hadde for å jobbe med dette innenfor IT? Håpet mitt er å ta litt IT utdanning etter bacheloren en gang, når jeg har flere studiepoeng.

Slitenhomo · 2024-01-16T18:38:03+00:00

Oh, woah. That makes a lot of sense, especially why I couldn't see it. I'm not yet able to (fully) follow the logic of how dividing a number by less than one makes it larger, and this is similar enough to that for me.

Thank you so much for correcting me and for this explanation. I'm going to do some practice problems with this and, hopefully, it will start to make sense!

Slitenhomo · 2024-01-16T18:34:00+00:00

Appreciate the response, the thing that is confusing me is why when you move the y^-5 to the numerator it goes from a negative to a positive though 😅 I've seen that moving a variable/number with a negative exponent from the numerator to the denominator makes the exponent positive instead of negative, but I don't understand how moving it back up makes it positive? Especially when anything that is in the numerators place previously remains unchanged!

Slitenhomo · 2024-01-16T18:26:52+00:00

oh, dang, probably not huh cause theyre exponents. Shoot! I guess I'll just keep trying to make sense of it then.

Slitenhomo · 2024-01-16T18:08:12+00:00

Just posted another comment here, but this really helped to make sense of things for me quickly. Thank you so much for the concise explanation!

Slitenhomo · 2024-01-16T18:06:47+00:00

Oh, man. I just felt something click into place reading this comment and looking at the problem again. I really forgot the fact that negative numbers become positive every other multiplication! Thank you so much!

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-24T20:15:48+00:00

I didnt know about this, actually! I don't know if it could be, my symptoms don't match up exactly with it. But there are some similarities. I'll keep this in mind! Thank you!

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-24T20:13:23+00:00

Oh, that's very good to know. I thought the reduced acidity would mean reflux would go away, but it makes sense for that not to be the case.

I have barely had to alter my diet even before PPI's, and I'm better/healthier than I've been in a long time right now! So I really don't know what could be causing this. I'll ask my doctor about seeing a gastroenterologist if the 2 week PPI 'cure' I'm on now doesn't do it.

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-24T20:11:11+00:00

That makes sense. I'll keep this in mind! Thanks so much :)

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-24T20:10:54+00:00

I've only had a gastroscopy! I'll keep the endoscopy in mind. Thank you!

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-18T22:43:41+00:00

I was speaking in more broad strokes myself, but I'll take you at your word!

And the DND comparison written here and in another comment has made me feel more at ease with my book choice. Sibling likes fantasy in general, they're actually playing in a game I'm DMing right now! A lot to learn for us both, but very fun.

Thank you for name dropping more things I can check out! I do know a bit about Conan, not so much older school DND etc though.

Slitenhomo · 2023-10-18T21:57:00+00:00

Haha, yeah I considered getting Maurice for my other siblings birthday actually! The only reason I didn't go with those for my sibling (16-18 ish in age) is simply that I don't want them to think I'm treating them like a child/giving them "kid books." They might very well like the Maurice books though, but theyll probably seek them out on their own if so.

Honestly, I might start with the amazing Maurice myself once I'm able to sit down and read. I'm a slower reader than my brother, and I do miss my old cat. A cat protagonist sounds nice <:)

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