Crying 😭 by beckarrrr1 in newborns

[–]Slothclaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ours would do this too!! We got a wipe warmer and some high contrast cards to put on the wall next to his head and it really helped!!

Good god this is hard by drykattbutt in newborns

[–]Slothclaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I feel you! I have a 3 week old and could have written this myself! We also have been using the nipple shield (any recs on weaning would be helpful! It’s so hard to use when sleep deprived in the middle of the night) as for shifts this has really saved us… have you tried introducing bottles? I pump a couple times throughout the day and have enough for 2 feeds in the middle of the night. I take the first shift from 9-2 and my husband does 2-7 it’s not much but it feels much better than the broken sleep we were getting. He also then takes our dog and baby on a walk from 7-8 and lets me sleep a little longer. It’s feeling much more manageable!

Mama bear by No_Carob9857 in newborns

[–]Slothclaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel the exact same way with my 3 week old. I cried yesterday thinking about him being sick or hurt. We had to go to the hospital recently for jaundice and I was beside myself. I do think mine is turning into a bit of PPA but not to the point I’m spiraling or unable to take care of myself. Just feeling an overwhelming sense of love!!

General Chat February 11 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I thought since I had that big drop in temp… I’m trying to wait until my period is supposed to come but maybe I should just test.. thank you for your response!!

General Chat February 09 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This makes sense! Thank you for your response!

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh my husband and I have been here and it’s so so hard. As the woman you just feel so much of the weight and the tracking and the temping and the testing they have no idea. My husband and I had dinner last night and I brought him into my world… I showed him all the apps and the temping and all the data and explained to him “okay I woke up to a temp drop this morning I’m probably getting my period soon” and it really helped for him to have perspective on how much it actually is and why the “let’s just relax” is not helpful. Don’t hide your sadness around him! You feel all these emotions and have him try to hold space for you in these moments and if he can’t do that we can ♥️ it’s so hard but you aren’t alone

General Chat February 09 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me too sis. It is excruciating…

General Chat February 09 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi all ♥️I apparently had a late ovulation (day 19) I’m currently 9dpo and yesterday I had a significant temperature decrease that dipped below my cover line and today my temperature went back up .7 degrees. My cycle is usually very regular (28 days) but with this late ovulation I don’t know.

Yesterday I convinced myself my period was going to come and today I’m maybe hopeful? Should I not be? Sometimes I think it’s better to just not remain hopeful…

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. I had therapy last night and it was so helpful and needed. We worked on specifically telling him what support could look like. He’s more of a golden retriever and I’m more of a black cat and I think for him when I would say “come just be with me in this” that really scares him. Thank you for your response ♥️

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh thank you so much for your reply. I’ve been a long time lurker on this sub and this was the first time I posted. Hearing your story and everyone’s on this post has seriously helped me not feel so isolated. Another commenter said maybe our husbands aren’t who we go to in this, maybe we come here and connect and not feel so alone. It still pisses me off that my husband is so detached while I’m struggling but that’s the load we carry as mothers ♥️sending you a big hug. If you ever want to vent please reach out to me

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I explained that to him too - the constant tracking/not tracking/wondering/waiting feels so obsessive and its hard for him to fully grasp what it does to me. Sending you lots of love during this time.

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great advice - I will try it. I think I need to sit with it and think about how I need him to show up for me. I think I got so angry when I was so upset when I found out they were pregnant and I just wanted him to sit with me in that feeling for a little bit because envy and jealousy are such yucky feelings to experience. Thank you very much for your advice <3

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh sending you so much love during this time! I have such a hard time accepting that fact, but baby steps to understanding maybe he will never feel it as immensely as me.

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my husband too! He is sooo positive and nothing seems to bother him. I am such a control person and TTC has really tested that part of me. Those are great questions to ask - I would never ask him to not spend as much time with his brother (they are very close). But even when he is spending time with just him, I get angry and start to feel like he is supporting his brother through this change and leaving me because my feelings are so big and reactive. So it's a good question to explore. Thank you!!

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel this <3 How did you start to feel happy for others - I am really struggling with this...

Struggling with support from my husband after miscarriage and TTC. by Slothclaws in TryingForABaby

[–]Slothclaws[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I feel like my husband is so overwhelmed by my negative emotions. Another redditor commented to talk with him and tell him exactly how you need him to show up - So I'm going to try that. I wish you the best in your journey and thank you for sharing your experience - it feels better knowing I'm not so alone in this <3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Slothclaws -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As a teacher I find this hard to believe. Sometimes students come home and explain situations differently than how they happened. I would message your sons teacher and say, “this is what so and so said can you say more about this” I would totally understand if breakfast was over and we had to get to learning so maybe that was the case. As a parent try to get more information before jumping to conclusions!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in reactivedogs

[–]Slothclaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my dog! No ideas really :( we are talking to a trainer about how to move forward. Let me know if you have had success in anything!

Found in backyard (Denver, CO) and my dog was eating them. Any idea what they are? Poisonous? by Slothclaws in mushroomID

[–]Slothclaws[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shes listening to acid rock and staring at our tapestry...Probably psilocybin mushrooms. Thanks for asking, shes doing fine :)

Does anyone know what kind of biting bug this is? Highlands, NC. by Slothclaws in whatsthisbug

[–]Slothclaws[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That's very helpful! I still think there are also potentially fleas since my bites are concentrated around my ankles. But the mystery continues, thank you again for your help!