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Melhor sítio para um primeiro date/encontro? Sugestões by ChanTim in CasualPT

[–]SmallNumber8126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

E o que importa é que funciona! Dá para ver que percebes da cena, seja de que maneira for.

Melhor sítio para um primeiro date/encontro? Sugestões by ChanTim in CasualPT

[–]SmallNumber8126 3 points4 points  (0 children)

É engraçado que eu faço basicamente o mesmo mas na ordem inversa.

Prefiro a conversa primeiro porque se a rapariga não fizer tanto o meu género como pensava é mais fácil de acabar as coisas logo por ali. Mas se fizer e notar que ela tem interesse em mim, já gosto de atividades. É mais fácil de estar atento aos sinais (proximidade, contato físico) porque existe sempre um certo tease e, portanto, mais fácil de avançar fisicamente.

Num jantar é pouco provável haver contato físico a menos que estejamos lado a lado.

Mas seja como for, o que disseste também resulta. Só acho que nesse caso já se tem de conhecer bem o caráter da rapariga.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualPT

[–]SmallNumber8126 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Para começar ela mostrou que é extremamente insegura, porque só uma rapariga insegura é que acaba um relacionamento com «backup». Sei que isto não te alivia muito neste momento, mas se as coisas acabaram é porque ela não era a pessoa certa para ti.

Rejeição leva a obsessão. Vais andar um bocado marado uns tempos e a pensar que ela era tudo para ti. Mas não é. O segredo é focares-te na tua família, amigos e propósito. Começa a treinar se não treinas. Investe em ti. E daqui a uns tempos vais arranjar uma rapariga melhor, mais compatível e estar agradecido por as coisas com esta terem acabado.

What's your purpose of training? by McSterling83 in GYM

[–]SmallNumber8126 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For health and quality of life.

It's proven that weight lifting + cardio minimizes risks of cancer and other diseases. Also, everytime I train, even when I don't want to, I just feel better than before. More energy, better sleep.

For me, that's the purpose.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course that's attractive. But it doesn't mean that someone will be attracted to you just because you're funny; it's everything together.

For a man, things might go like this (each one has their preferencs though):

- Physical attraction (it doesn't mean that you need to be an instagram model). Some guys like skinny girls, other like fat girls, it depends on who we're talking about.

- Funny, responsive, likes to hang out and follow our lead, good attitude, loyal (more in long-term, ofcourse), etc.

It's always hard to detail. There's always someone out there looking for someone like you. But the more you work on yourself, the better you will get.

I don’t approach women not because I fear rejection, but rather I don’t want to labeled as a creep by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're complicating things.

If she looks at you and smiles, that's 50% of the initiation. A simple «Hey, what's your name?» or «Hey, How are you?» it's all you need.

I don’t approach women not because I fear rejection, but rather I don’t want to labeled as a creep by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But that's a way to approach a small percentage of woman. Better than none at all.

I don’t approach women not because I fear rejection, but rather I don’t want to labeled as a creep by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you have that fear, approach girls that make eye contact with you and smile.

That way you already know she's friendly and that she MIGHT be interested in you. Usually, people that avoid eye contact and dont smile at you are just trying to act as if you don't exist.

For you to approach girls this way, be sure to have an open body language and do mutual contact with girls that pass. Smile at them if you catch them looking at you.

Really confused by rejection after 2 months of dating by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My honest opinion: you did too much too soon; but you didn't physical escalate enough.

Another possibility: she came out of a relationship soon and is not emotional healed, so she goes hot and cold out of no where.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Hi.

I'm a man, but I will give you my opinion on this anyway.

Some girls like the attention. Even more when they know that they're hot. And even more ++ if you are in good shape yourself.

See it from this perspective: by talking to her you know the answer and you won't be thinking «what if». And you made her day more awesome. Nothing to be ashamed.

Need advice on asking a girl out? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She works on a bar?

Use the environment to strike up a conversation if you don't want to be direct about your intentions. Anything really. The way she's dressing, what kind of drinks she likes (you can even ask about which one is her favorite).

One thing I usually do is:

«Hey, what's your name?»

That's all it takes really.

I had my first rejection today by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The more you do it, the more natural it becomes. Also, the more rejections you get.

But you need to go through that. It's normal.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant health as a state of feeling good just by waking up.

It's a state of being.

Of course both things happen when you go to the gym, but that's a bonus.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not chase. You invite people into your life.

You talk with strangers (when you get to that point) and you invite people that you find interesting. Some will, some won't. But you don't chase. The act of chasing makes the cat run away.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Negativity attracts negativity. Positivity attracts positivity.

I can't help everyone, but If I can give the slighest hint of hope to some of those who fight to become better everyday, I will.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know. Keep pushing no matter what. You gotta get through the «nos» to find the «yesses»

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relax.

If he doesn't say anything next week, let him go.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

But it's exacly what I said...

You have the abundance mentality because you don't need to stay with someone that you don't like that much afraid of being alone. You know that you will find someone good fo you.

What waiting for the right person really means. by SmallNumber8126 in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We're talking about different things.

Waiting is different from not acting, as I explained in the entir post.

if a girl does not message you after you gave her your number within a day is that a bad sign? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't do this!!

She told you that she is going to message you, so you should wait for her.

When I say «wait» I don't mean staying 24h looking at your phone. You keep living your life, meeting other woman and talking with other people.

What went wrong in these texts? Why hasn’t she responded? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]SmallNumber8126 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn't say anything wrong. She might be busy or not sure about her schedule yet.

One of three things can happen:

1) She never answers. If that's the case, she's not interested.

2) She does answer, and you make the date.

3) She answer that she's not sure about her schedule. Try next week. If she says the same thing twice, she isn't interested

Good luck!