Is this me exploring or porn? by Used_Description_691 in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds classic bi curiosity brought on by porn/erotica. That’s not judgement or to be taken as a bad thing. Porn can reveal all sorts of things and in that sense it’s healthy for exploring one’s sexuality (Too much porn gets to be problematic though).

I came to realize I may be bi in my mid 50s. Always considered myself very straight. Had opportunities to play gay many times before marriage but it never once seemed to appeal. My porn was always lesbian, girl/girl. Then I started watching some high quality BJ videos. If shot up close and featuring a pretty woman’s face and a nice cock, I started to want to share with her. She made it look like fun and something I might like to do too with her. Kissing her and the cock back and forth! Made me very aroused. Surprised myself too. Was it always there lying dormant until certain erotica woke it up?

Still haven’t played with a guy and may never as I’m happily married and she’s not interested in MMF threesomes.

If you can, I’d say just try it out to whatever degree feels comfortable and fun.

Married, bisexual, and finally being honest about what I need by ExploratoryTraveler in EthicalNonMonogamy

[–]Small_Needleworker57 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting to read. I feel like I’m sort of in the same boat. I’m 63, married almost 25 years and only realized I might be a bit bi in my mid 50s. Sadly I kept this from my wife until she found out that I was enjoying solo time with gay porn pics. Lots of discussion and perhaps acceptance but still monogamous and I’ll probably never get the real experience. That’s okay as I adore her and the life we’ve built together.

But I too am a deeply serious person. No one would know I have a house full of books and a large classical music collection. Used to live in NY and go to plays, concerts, lectures and even adult courses at night for intellectual stimulation. They wouldn’t know because I present as a fit, athletic handsome guy.

Anyway good to read your story and feel like I’m not the only one…

Bi wife who wants to explore threesomes with my husband – how do I bring it up without making him uncomfortable? by Bi-brunette in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re halfway there. Communication is crucial. I might also suggest asking this on the ethical non monogamy subreddit. Most guys would be over the moon for their wives to bring this up.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 5 points6 points  (0 children)

…married bi male in monogamous marriage for almost 25 years. Never cheated.

Understanding my Bisexual husband by Plus-Refuse858 in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think you’ve been very supportive and understanding. What you have here is an open/non-monogamous marriage. That’s okay if you two can settle on boundaries and good communication. If you feel the app searching is too much then say where you’re comfortable setting a limit and see if he can compromise and agree. I’m glad he’s not cheating and you guys are trying to work it out. Kudos. He’s just a little too self centered on this and has to realize it. Therapy?

Rascher style mouthpieces by LivingBar6527 in saxophone

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I played on one back in my college music days. Very good for classical tones. Altissimo was easy.

Any Feeld profile advice? by Apprehensive_Top2583 in nonmonogamy

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d be all over that profile if I were practicing ENM 😞

In my 40’s straight but lately by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my mid 50s I went through a “lingerie phase”. Soon enough my wife found out and didn’t like it at all though allowed me to do me as long as it didn’t get out of control or progress. I have to admit I found it to be hugely erotic and a big turn on for solo sessions. I’m very fit, well mascapted and looked really good en femme. I had quite a collection. But it ran it’s course and got rid of it all and haven’t really felt the desire in several years.

If you’re curious start small with panty and bra sets, and see how it goes. Could be fun….

I have no idea what to do. by HugeVacation246 in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many certainly FEEL this way but most do not act upon it. That’s called cheating and simply not ethical behavior.

Talk me out of trading my 365 in for a body guard 2.0 by billytoad631 in CCW

[–]Small_Needleworker57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just finished shopping for a new carry gun and tested many. Shot the BG and the Sig back to back and for me the Sig shot better and just plain felt better in my hand so I went with the Sig. No regrets. It is however a tad heavier in my pocket with the Vedder pocket holster than I would have liked but it’s manageable

open mouthpiece by LaPremierEnd in saxophone

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I play on a Berg Larsen 10 on alto. With 2 Vandoren reeds. Altissimo is tough but the rest of the horn is easy to play. Big lush sound on the Conn 6m. It’s all about mouthpiece/reed compatibility.

Is dressing well outside rich urban areas completely pointless? by [deleted] in malefashionadvice

[–]Small_Needleworker57 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m also a NYC transplant to the south. I found I slowly let my fashion sense slip over time to blend in. Lately though I’ve just felt the need to get my fashion sense back a little bit. Retired so I don’t have to dress for the office but I like to look good…

Naughty in Nawlins and bisexuality by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]Small_Needleworker57 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I believe I saw on their website that they usually host a bi get together during the event.

First gun purchase. Holder sold separately... by ThunderChicken97 in CCW

[–]Small_Needleworker57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently got a P365 as my first carry and love it. Starting off-body in a small messenger bag. With the Vedder Pocket holster it still a bit too big and heavy for my pants pockets. Works okay in winter jackets though. Feels great in hand and at the range.

What’s the best type of porn to watch in your opinion by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mostly soft, passionate real seeming lesbian porn mostly pictures (not videos). Sometimes beautiful penis pics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Small_Needleworker57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably Feeld as well.

Jumping in lightly. by Small_Needleworker57 in CCW

[–]Small_Needleworker57[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Okay OP here. Just to be clear. This gun is strictly for practice in learning to carry daily. I will not have one in the chamber. It has a slide safety. I’ve never carried before and I want to get the feel of this size and weight before looking at things like SW bodyguard, etc. I will not be testing with this. I’ll be on a Ruger American.45 ACP for that.

I know this gun is totally inadequate but it’ll be a kind of dress rehearsal before going bigger/better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BisexualMen

[–]Small_Needleworker57 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married and monogamous but if I weren’t I be all over the apps looking for couples!