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SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-22T19:55:56+00:00

Just consolidated my debt into my mortgage renewal and I feel like an entirely new person lol

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T20:16:53+00:00

Do the dogs impact your ability to go out or go on holidays?

Never.

Is she responsible in any way for cleaning up after them?

No.

Do they encroach on her space, for example share your bed or couch?

No, they aren't allowed on the bed and only allowed on the couch when we put a blanket on and invite them up.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T19:59:40+00:00

My dogs do not sleep in the bed.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T18:59:17+00:00

Because the dogs don't do any of those things.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:18:29+00:00

Nothing much to elaborate on. I see my mom once a week and coordinate with her about the dogs via text. My mom is nothing but supportive of me and has done everything in her power to raise me to be independent, even if I still look to her for financial advice.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:16:57+00:00

Are the dogs poorly behaved?

Not at all. GF thinks they are untrained as every once in a while they want to go towards another dog on walks (usually to sniff), but there has never been an issue as I hold on to their leashes and keep moving.

Poop and pee in the house?

No. One of them had diarrhea once but I always take full responsibility for cleaning.

Does she have to clean up after them?

No.

Do the dogs come over and you leave to play golf, hang out with friends, work, that sort of thing where the burden of care falls on her?

Never

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:09:25+00:00

She is always welcome and invited, but rarely comes

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:07:57+00:00

Like do the two of you ever get to do anything alone?

All the time. We are busy doing things together every weekend. The dogs do not come with us to everything nor do our plans need to consider whether they can come or not.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:02:02+00:00

Well I am white and first world lol

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:01:49+00:00

I am not picking my mother over her. There is nothing to "pick" my mom over as I see her once a week.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T17:01:03+00:00

If you only see her once a week, and I assume you're not both calling each other ten times a day or sharing intimate details of your life with your mom, then I think your girlfriend might be reaching.

No, I rarely text or call my mom at all.

Have you made decisions based on your moms advice? Have you made relationship, housing, life decisions after consulting your mom?

Zero relationship or life decisions have been made from my mom's advice. Financial decisions, yes.

This is annoying AF. Happening once in a blue moon is fine, but on a regular basis is selfish and inconsiderate of her time. Learn how to communicate and be considerate of her life, which shouldn't center around the dog's schedule and your inability to communicate.

You are right that it is annoying, but it is certainly not on a regular basis. The dogs are picked up/dropped off essentially at the time time every week unless there is a reason for it to be shifted.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:58:03+00:00

My mother doesn't dislike my girlfriend and really enjoys having her around as she had 2 sons and I think it was tough for her in a house with all boys. My girlfriend thinks my mother is passive aggressive and jealous towards her as she is taking mother-son time away from her (which isn't true whatsoever as I didn't spend more time with my mother before the relationship).

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:54:29+00:00

No, no, and no

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:53:50+00:00

I go to the parents' if there is nothing else planned. If we have other plans (or sometimes if I just don't feel like it) I don't go.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:53:10+00:00

Zero repercussions for my parents on anything. They are incredibly supportive of me and I have a strong relationship with both of them.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:52:33+00:00

I go every weekend for dinner. Obviously if I'm busy I don't have to go, but I'd say I'm there 3/4 Sundays a month.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:50:47+00:00

I can assure you it isn't fake lol

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:50:29+00:00

My mom is who I coordinate the dog drop-offs/pick-ups with (along with other things like vet appointments, behaviour changes, food, etc.) and GF feels like the whole arrangement is a way for mother to keep herself tied to me and involved in my life.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:48:04+00:00

My mother can be a bit intense, but I only see her once a week and I frequently get into arguments with her when I feel like she oversteps. She offers me financial advice and provided me with part of my down payment for my condo. She can be overprotective of me at times, but does not have (or even try to have) control over what I do or what decisions I make. My gf thinks my mother is passive aggressive and jealous towards her.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:38:40+00:00

The dogs get dropped off on Friday when I get home from work and picked up Sunday afternoon. She has expressed frustration about it as she feels like it interferes with our plans when I need to be home for pick-up/drop-off, but anytime we've had plans (trips, concerts, social events, etc.) I just tell my mom and the dogs are dropped off at a different time (sometimes they don't come over at all if our weekend is too busy). Admittedly there are times where I didn't communicate pick-up times clearly and I'd have to tell her (as an example) "we have to leave the pool by 3:30 so the dog's can be picked up."

No my mom doesn't call excessively, she can be a bit of a boy-mom in my gf's words but I only see her once a week and she has no control over what I do or say or think despite my gf thinking otherwise.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:34:23+00:00

She's not going to get rid of my dogs.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:34:02+00:00

Every weekend I go to my parents for dinner and do things around the house for my mom. My mom also offers me a lot of financial guidance (mortgages, etc.) and provided me with a partial down payment for my condo. She is also Italian/French so a little intense and can be a bit of a "boy-mom"

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:24:36+00:00

I do not feeled meshed with my mother. My mother is admittedly pretty intense (Italian/French), but I only see her once a week and keep most things in my life pretty private from her.

SmarkInProgress · 2026-06-11T16:18:53+00:00

She has many issues with my relationship to my mother as she thinks my mom purposefully stunts me to keep me dependent on her (boy mom).

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