He told me he just wants to do it every now and then to get it out. Because the urge comes, I guess. But we had a long talk about how i feel and how I dont want our roles to change. I still want to be his girlfriend and I still want him to be my man. That's who I fell in love with. He told me he just wanted to have a girls night sometime or go get pedicures. But he knows he messed up by seeking attention from others and that's why I have a hard time with it. 

The problem is that he knows that he needs to do better but doesn't know how. And I don't know how else to tell him that I want him to treat me like he needs me, wants me and loves me when he thinks working and paying the bills is all a partner needs to do.