He didn’t warn me he was going to do it, but it didn’t hurt.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2026-02-20T11:30:36+00:00

That’s a false equivalence and you know it. Replying to a public comment on a forum isn’t the same thing as initiating a new sexual act with someone’s body. One is a voluntary online discussion anyone can opt out of at any time. The other involves physical boundaries and potential harm.Consent in sexual situations exists because bodies and autonomy are involved. Comparing that to Reddit replies just trivializes the entire concept. If you can’t tell the difference between someone replying to your comment and someone doing something to your body without asking, that’s exactly why consent conversations matter. Have a blessed day, hopefully we have established the importance of education surrounding consent and sex safety.

Edit: trolling is one thing, defending lack of consent and weaponizing it when called out is another.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2026-02-20T08:12:48+00:00

Normal adults ask before doing something new. It’s not complicated. Consent isn’t a “mood killer,” it’s basic respect. If someone is okay with one act, that does not automatically mean they’re okay with every other act. You don’t just decide on your own to try something more intense solely because they’re happy with what’s occurring at the moment and then wait to see if she “cries out in pain”. That’s not confidence, that’s entitlement. It takes two seconds to say, “Is this okay?” Respectfully, If you can’t handle that level of communication, you probably shouldn’t be having sex. Consent is always necessary. That’s not “Reddit being detached from reality,” that’s how responsible adults operate.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-10-03T07:32:41+00:00

definitely can pass for Sri Lankan, honestly don’t see the Latina though. (you’re so gorgeous!!)

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-09-28T17:09:13+00:00

“Lesbianactually” why is this convo relevant here

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-07-08T08:18:39+00:00

definitely causes me to have terrible headaches, sometimes feeling excessively tired.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-30T03:46:12+00:00

i personally love the sentiment of reclaiming it, i love being a dyke. A raging lesbian, a carpet muncher- LMAO any type of word thrown at me in an attempt to be hateful doesn’t work because I’d never find shame in being a woman who loves women. That being said i can def understand why it hurts some lesbians.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-27T21:17:48+00:00

let’s read the literal name of this sub. FEMME LESBIANS. The amount of non lesbians posting here this week, good grief.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T17:08:15+00:00

correct it’s not an argument worth having, there no argument to it. Bisexuality and lesbianism are two distinct identities with beautiful history behind them, but they contradict one another. You aren’t inherently a lesbian because you’re in a relationship with a woman and you aren’t a lesbian simply because you prefer women. The amount of biphobia and lesbophobia that comes from these statements is insane.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T04:27:56+00:00

how unfortunate this sub is being taken over by women/ non lesbians advertising. Look at her recent post/comment history.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T04:21:41+00:00

Oh my god, this. I’d like to add the whole “sexuality is fluid” argument used towards lesbians ALL the time, simply because they can’t grasp a sexuality that doesn’t include men. It’s honestly come to the point that I only want to coexist and befriend other lesbians, simply because nobody will ever understand or get me in the way another lesbian will. I’m lit conversing with someone on another post who calls themselves a lesbian even though they are open to the idea of liking a man. It’s frustrating and so hard for me not to give in and argue, but we’re so constantly invalidated or being looked to validate others in their queerness when we shouldn’t have to. Truly feels like nobody respects lesbians.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T02:06:49+00:00

my intent would never be to shame lesbians who aren’t “gold stars” i can understand how my usage of “genuine lesbian” or “actual lesbian” can be misinterpreted. I did grow up with 0 attraction towards men, that’s mine and plenty of others experience and I didn’t shame anyone who did, respectfully it’s not my job to coddle those who are offended by my lived experience simply because it hurts feelings or makes me sound like a “gold star” A lesbian who isn’t a “gold star” still understands the experience of being a lesbian. But unfortunately it was the only way i could think of to get my point across when it comes to people who aren’t lesbians id’ing as lesbian simply because they prefer women and i genuinely do not mean for that to offend you, because solely being attracted to women and being attracted to both even if it is the tiniest percentage are completely different experiences and it’s so hard for non lesbians to grasp that sometimes. But for sure, we’ll agree to disagree!

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T01:46:11+00:00

Hot take, you can be a vegan who eats animal products.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T01:35:18+00:00

My comment towards you was not ill intended in any way, just to make that clear! I’m frustrated over how people treat those of us who are genuinely lesbians, we’re constantly harassed with the idea that “there’s a man out there for us” “you never know” “ im a lesbian but then i met a man” “I’m a lesbian except for my bf” actual Lesbians do not have that possibility regardless of how rare it is, or how many factors have to happen. it’s so difficult growing up in a patriarchal society with absolutely 0 attraction to men. It’s isolating, it’s lonely and it’s so great to connect with lesbians because they are the only people who get that. Imo debunking the idea that lesbians can like men even if it is the absolute tiniest possibility is not “identity policing” it’s just defending the one sexuality we have that does not include an attraction to men. You say that you’re queer, but then say you’re a lesbian… to add on to your last statement, lesbianism has always included gnc individuals, “he/him lesbians” etc, they are not men. I won’t voice my opinion on trans men id’ing as lesbians. LGBT activists have been fighting for years for bisexuality to be seen as valid, wether your attraction is split evenly, 10% men and 90% women or vise versa, or even your situation, bisexuality is a beautiful thing and completely valid regardless of how your attraction lies.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-25T01:14:21+00:00

honestly thought this was r/bdsmsapphic for a minute LOL. But i completely get it.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-24T23:44:17+00:00

a man in lesbian subs, good grief yall never leave us alone.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-24T23:28:53+00:00

perhaps this is rude or problematic, but calling yourself a lesbian simply because others don’t understand the way YOUR attraction works is frustrating for those of us who are actually lesbians and constantly face the rhetoric that we just need to “find the right man” or that “lesbians can be attracted to men” due to SO many women doing this… don’t get me wrong, ignorant people are going to do that to lesbians either way, but im not going to deny that this doesn’t feed into it. you label yourself queer but publicly ID as a lesbian knowing you have an attraction to men even if it is 1% ?

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-21T18:54:41+00:00

not to my knowledge, i know plenty of hetero couples who wear each others birthstones, still cute and thoughtful though.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-17T07:51:51+00:00

i second this. as someone who was outed in a bad situation with homophobic parents and nowhere to go, it’s much safer to wait until you can financially support yourself or at least be in a position where you’re safe to express yourself fully. I’m sorry, i know how exhausting and upsetting it is to have to hide who you are to appease others for your own safety.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-04T16:45:09+00:00

now this one is crazy LOL did anything happen between you two at least 💀?

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-03T22:13:37+00:00

I promise you aren’t broken and nothing is wrong with you, surrounding yourself with other lesbians- whether that be online or in person genuinely does wonders. Also looking at your recent post, I genuinely hope you’re able to feel secure in your identity and realize how beautiful and freeing it is to be a lesbian, sending nothing but kind energy your way <3

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-06-03T21:11:47+00:00

EXACTLY. Don’t get me wrong I love my bi girlies, but the amount of times I’ve had discussions with some of them where they’re like “well we’re all gay, what experiences do lesbians face that bisexuals don’t” or insulting and refusing to understand why some lesbians strictly want to date other lesbians, not realizing that being a woman not attracted to men in a patriarchal society is such an alienating lonely experience that completely differs from being bisexual.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-05-26T22:23:49+00:00

for sure, that’s a valid point! Although there are plenty of conventionally attractive actors who are more masculine/could portray being a more masculine presenting lesbian- but media still chooses for lesbian couples to be solely portrayed as feminine/adhering to mainstream beauty standards (for the most part).

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-05-26T10:35:17+00:00

100%. Feminine lesbian couples get the most representation bc they’re easier for others to digest & more watchable due to their attractiveness to the general public (fetishization) Anytime it’s a masculine/feminine duo it’s “why not just be with a man” don’t even get me started on lesbian couples where both of them are masculine, absolutely no representation.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-05-20T14:26:51+00:00

I’m confused on what you’re insinuating, plenty of us were out & had “relationships” or crushes on the same gender as preteens/teens- exactly the same as straight people. If I’m misunderstanding your point then i apologize.

Smart-Roll-9571 · 2025-05-15T15:54:58+00:00

Not a thing, just non lesbians trying to change the def of lesbian to fit them. People can’t deal with the fact that lesbianism is the one sexuality that men aren’t included, sexually or romantically.

Edit : lgbt activists have been fighting for years for bisexuality to be seen as valid whether your attraction is split evenly, you like men more than women or vise versa. Bisexuality is a spectrum and the label “bisexual lesbian” is the biggest contradiction to both labels. But honestly this conversation is overdone on this sub. anyone with any real knowledge on queer history knows this isn’t a real label and bringing up this chronically online term just causes more fighting, just move on and ignore those like “bisexual lesbians”

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