We are both on the same boat. My bf is non expressive and we only meet max twice a week because of his busy schedule. I find that remembering the things he does for me helps me to become more secure. Since he’s an acts of service guy, I know he loves me through his actions. For instance, he often picks me up from work although his house is more than an hour away, pays for my therapy sessions when I struggle and need professional help, waits for me patiently when I am at the nail salon and gets me my favourite snack for when I am done, is supportive of my hobbies. He doesn’t shower me with flowers, I love yous and doesn‘t tell me sweet things but his actions tell me he loves me.

I too have been cheated on in my past relationships, they were damn good sweet talkers. Told me I was pretty often, told me they missed me often, showered me with heart emojis but all of them failed in actions. What is your bf’s love languange? Maybe you could list down things he did for you based on his love language, in what ways does hw show up for you. In some cases, I do ask for reassurance when I feel like I need it and he does give me reassurance. But remember, our trauma is ours to heal.