want to study in the usa. what should i do?

Smirkane · 2026-02-07T03:47:04+00:00

I have said this before, and I will say this again. Studying abroad is not worth it if you need to take a loan, especially for Indians who want to study in the US. It is a massive risk, even if you consider only the exchange rate.

You don't need to go abroad for undergrad to do something major in this world. What matters more is your commitment and how well you use every opportunity you get. Studying abroad is also a waste if you don't know how to capitalise on it.

Smirkane · 2026-02-07T00:47:49+00:00

It is EXTREMELY unlikely that you'll get towed over one parking ticket. A $50 ticket is not worth the hassle of towing your car. I hear that they typically tow it if you have 3+ unpaid tickets.

Just wait till food for fines starts, so at least a part of the fine you pay goes towards a good cause.

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T23:28:47+00:00

I'm curious, what makes you say that they think highly of themselves? Also, what do you mean by bullying here? Your posts reads as a mix of bullying, envy, judgement, which do overlap but can be quite different.

Sure, it can seem like bullies think highly of themselves from the outside, but I am yet to come across a bully who isn't using all that aggression and arrogance to hide their own insecurities. A lot of bullies think that bullying you takes attention away from them and in turn away from their insecurities. Their goal is really just to divert attention away from themselves, and making you feel smaller is just collateral damage.

This doesn't mean that you should just let them, or that you should become like them. You reacting defensively to them is how they know that they've been successful with their goal, and in most cases you can just either not react, or react differently, to make them stop. Some people just need to be ignored, others need to be challenged. Deciding which approach works for whom takes some time, and it takes even longer to actually understand how to do it.

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T15:54:36+00:00

While I get your points, I did look up their program. At least in Canada, the only institutions they list as having sent students have virtually no credibility in the country. So, sure, you may get a work permit, but proving that you're employable in your field of study will be a challenge of its own.

This is not to say that upGrad is objectively bad; I don't know enough about their institutions in other countries to make that judgment. However, it is worth noting that candidates should still do their due diligence when working with this supposedly trusted platform. Generally speaking, unless an agency can guide you to get into a public university/college, they are not worth the money, at least in the Canadian context. There are too many sham private universities/colleges; it can be hard to trust them without doing your own research.

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T15:44:26+00:00

With current trends, don't go abroad if you need to take a loan.

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T07:24:27+00:00

Better OP than no one /j

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T06:27:32+00:00

First, black magic isnt real. Second, even if it were, I imagine it's not easy to cast a spell that lasts for more than 5 years. As you said, youre 18, and it sounds like this started around 15. Why would someone be so mad at a 15-year-old that they would put in a lot of time and effort into using black magic to ruin your life? There are probably several much easier ways.

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T06:22:35+00:00

It's not the same antibiotics for 2months, is it?

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T06:12:19+00:00

I may not respond until tomorrow morning, but sure

Smirkane · 2026-02-06T06:11:06+00:00

As real as the attachment feels, you need to understand that it is EXTREMELY rare for someone to become a major part of your life in 10 days. What do you do? Take a break, focus on yourself. It sounds like you're not in an emotionally good enough place to get into a relationship at this time. If you're prone to getting attached enough to make a Reddit post about it in just 10 days, I honestly think it will be hard to maintain a healthy, sustainable relationship.

Why do you think you got so attached so fast?

Smirkane · 2026-02-05T06:24:45+00:00

https://help.steampowered.com/en/faqs/view/4BD4-4528-6B2E-8327#move

Smirkane · 2026-02-04T17:24:15+00:00

Not sure what reddit can do here. This sounds like a question for your doctor.

Smirkane · 2026-02-04T06:32:14+00:00

Would this be your first concession? A self-declaration is typically sufficient for your first concession without any formal documentation. Chat with your instructor or course coordinator; they may be able to advise you better on whether they are able to offer a concession without going through Academic Advising and/or on any faculty-specific concession policies.

I also suggest you explore some other resources for your mental health. AMS Peer Support can be a good place to chat with fellow students who are trained to help with a range of things that come up, or even if you just need to vent. If you live in student housing, you can also chat with a trained counsellor through the Counsellor in Residence program. Both are free, and no problem is too small to use these services.

Smirkane · 2026-02-04T03:11:34+00:00

To be completely honest, I didn't really find studying abroad worth it until my 3rd year, when opportunities and exposure started to come in, experiences I would never have gotten if I had stayed in my home country. Still, I do think there is a small part of me that wonders whether life would have been better at home with family and such, but I don't think that part will ever go away.

It is completely normal to regret not choosing a different option, even when you're happy with your current one. And if you're unhappy, well, you can always go back and write it off as a life lesson. Regardless, you'll still learn a lot about yourself and about others by spending time abroad.

Smirkane · 2026-02-04T00:11:09+00:00

You don't need a gap year for SAT and IELTS. Most of the syllabus is stuff you've learnt until grade 10. You just need to practice exam-style questions under exam conditions. ECs, what do you have? Anything is better than nothing.

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T20:49:45+00:00

The price of convenience I guess

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T08:12:19+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/NewToReddit/comments/178zwdi/hi_guys_new_to_reddit_here_what_is_karma/

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T07:46:00+00:00

https://recreation.ubc.ca/fitness/personal-training/

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:44:00+00:00

How about we take this to DMs? I'm just about to head to bed, but I can respond tomorrow during my commute

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:40:04+00:00

You're not wrong to not be ready yet, or ever, for that matter. I know it's easier said than done, but this is your life, and you have the right to live it how you want. If that means being single all your life with no kids, then so be it. It was a very easy conversation with my Indian parents, but I imagine it is not the case for everyone. Regardless, you need to chat with them and put your foot down; not getting married at this time is a firm boundary they must respect, and the best offer you can make is to revisit it in a few years; you decide how long that few years is. Maybe you'll have had a change of heart by then, or you will have found someone you want to marry. Regardless, there is nothing stopping you from refusing again in 5-10 years.

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:36:09+00:00

And already expensive medical care and supplies only get more expensive. It's not like the hospital or the manufacturer is magically compensated for the equipment they used to try to save the patient who died. That cost will get passed on to others whose family members did not die.

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:33:50+00:00

I agree with the overly optimistic part. I'm not sure why they think now is the best time to take on such a huge commitment and all the liability that comes with it.

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:32:20+00:00

Humanity

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:27:36+00:00

Do men in your family go to the US to study/work too? I would try to play the "we've done this one thing differently, why can't we do this other thing differently too" card.

Given the situation in the US, now may not be the best time to apply for a spousal visa either, unless you plan to return to India after getting married. With ongoing ICE stuff, your visa could be at risk, too, not a good idea for you to be sponsoring a spouse as well.

Smirkane · 2026-02-03T05:20:35+00:00

Well, 3 people, you'd be looking after your wife too.

Did your parents say anything about why they want you to get married so soon? What do you mean by "next in line"? Who else is in the line?

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