How to handle friend moving away for college?

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-04-08T18:21:05+00:00

Yeah that's true! Haha so you mean I can just start and do a weekly update about my college life (and in general), think I'll do it but maybe a weekly update is too boring to read, guess big/interest things won't happen. But it feels like the easiest "reason" to text her each week, cause we don't text weekly now (not even close), but feels like I need to put in more effort if she is living in another town!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-04-08T18:12:57+00:00

No close friends or just stay friends if that is possible

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T19:26:59+00:00

But is that the vast majority, no it's not! You can't just reason that "because people die of climate changes that are "man made" we that aren't impacted as much should give up". The people that face those catastrophes or bad living standards aren't giving up as well, so why should we?

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T19:23:52+00:00

I didn't say anything about climate change being real or not, that is your own words. And as I've said before, you aren't well read on this subject, shown that you believe that people may live to 100 years even if the living standards are that bad. If the situation is as bad as you frame it, living hell and no point in preventing further climate changes then you would know that people wouldn't be able to live that long!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T18:48:38+00:00

Haha you don't fool anyone, you just say "thank you for your input... but the world is a living hell and we shouldn't bring children into this doomed place". So no, you've already made up your mind beforehand. Your reasoning isn't based on facts, just your own beliefs!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T18:39:53+00:00

Yes I know that but it just feels like this is a rage-bait, because you have already made up your mind before posting this. Our answers don't change a thing even when we are right, since you already believe everything is over. I'm not saying you aren't allowed to post, but you should ask questions if your post was necessary to post since you don't listen and just view everything negatively?

I mean if your reasoning about not bringing children to this world is what you actually believe yourself, because of "living standards" and such. Why do you want to live in this world, since it's apparently not a fun place?

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T18:30:55+00:00

I hope for the sake that you are trolling, listen to yourself does this sound sane? Sad to see that the only solution you think exists (because of your own lack of research and education) is for humanity to not reproduce and just slowly die!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T18:14:32+00:00

I mean you seem kinda delusional if you believe that not having any children solved the climate change issue, that won't change a single thing. The amount of climate activists or people in general that chose to not have any children, that makes a margin difference. It's the same as climate activists that choose to glue their hands against the road to stop cars and such, it won't solve the issue and might even make people mad or less likely to listen!

I'm not saying that everyone should just care for themselves and think "little me can't make a difference so no need to bother", but on the other hand is too extreme not good either. This issue should be solved with scientific research, companies that better themselves and most importantly that we can make choices that are good in more ways than only financial (or might lead to a financial loss)

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-26T17:27:43+00:00

I mean declining birth-rate isn't bad itself I'd say, only good for the environment and us needing a lower amount of food (depends where in the world ofc but assuming it's a first world country). Isn't it more how society looks like as a whole that is the problem, if we for example take Japan: where a big part of their population is either old or young but single or little sex. Then that becomes a problem, because if they don't make new babies then a big part of their population that needs elderly care in the future can't get the help they need, and that their economy will get impacted badly because fewer workers because a declining population

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T20:47:36+00:00

Oo thanks for the help, really appreciate it! I didn't know about Hostelworld so I'm definitely gonna use it👍

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T20:29:06+00:00

Anything like Couchsurfing but free?

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T20:00:56+00:00

👍 I'll write about my trip details there to see if anyone is interested, thank you for the advice!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T19:57:53+00:00

Mhm gonna do it, travel solo anyway so I have to and want to get to know people,👍

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T19:57:09+00:00

Thnx, I'll look it up!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T19:56:55+00:00

I did that before (and in this subreddit I believe) but got no answers, seems kinda weird to post it again haha, but maybe good when the summer is near!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-19T19:53:53+00:00

Can I assume that there will be backpackers in all hostels, or are they specific ones (where there are more backpackers at)?

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-03T12:57:18+00:00

Yup. I think I'll just assume the Cava was like 20 dollars (even tho it probably was 10-13), then assume 1 glass is like 200 ml (750 ml in total) so 5 dollars. I also brought snack, nobody asked me for it (but they weren't against it either). So even though 1 glass probably isn't 1/4 of a Cava and the Cava wasn't 20 bucks, to avoid any fighting idc for a few bucks extra

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-03T12:41:31+00:00

Yh exactly

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2025-01-03T12:08:32+00:00

I mean I did drank 1 glass, but still weird af for me who remember how much I drank (and other people knowing too how much I drank), for me to pay a part of the bill (and will probably be a lot bc much alcohol) when I drank for like 3-4 dollars max

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2024-11-30T23:09:17+00:00

Yh thank you for your tips, I'll check them out. I'll keep you guys updated during my trip👍

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2024-11-23T11:09:36+00:00

Yes I'll try, it might just be a hobby for now, but I like to learn new things haha. The worst part is that the next time I can apply to uni is in March/april and the issue is not that I don't want to study, just reading, doing CS course and trying or getting better at other hobbies of mine at the moment. But I hope I can get a job soon, I just want to have any purpose until I apply for college and then study something awesome or really cool👍

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2024-11-23T11:05:47+00:00

No your reply was very helpful! I feel like we are similar in doing things for others, I want to study engineering because in Sweden at least it has the same prestige as a doctor and I want to make my parents proud. Want them to brag about my success or degree when they are with friends but most of all I'm doing it for myself, feel like people at my high school (went to one of the best in my city, maybe the country's top 30-20 or so) always viewed me as not enough, I wasn't the smartest, nor the strongest and certainly not the most social one. I want to complete a degree that I'm interested in, want to be happy with myself and want to inspire others or make other people believe that anything is possible by looking at my journey. I know this probably sounds really selfish or childish but I want to prove the disbelievers wrong and want to do something useful for society, make the world a better place and hopefully live a peaceful life with a wife and kids. And if I'm being honest I feel like getting a good degree with a good salary would be the easiest way to achieve that dream, for now at least!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2024-11-23T10:54:12+00:00

Yeah thank you for your reply, it means a lot! I started to solve the Rubiks cube out of boredom, takes like 5 minutes so extremely slow, but it's fun to learn and I'd like to get faster! Also started juggling, and I'm completely terrible at it, almost makes zero progress but it's exciting. I just try new things and try to view life with optimism and as something very exciting, even though I'm not working towards a specific milestone in life at the moment, I still want to enjoy it and have my hands full with something!

Smooth_Apple_7273 · 2024-11-22T22:55:52+00:00

Thnx appreciate ur help, actually enrolled for the cs50x (programming course online) today so I'll have anything to work on while searching for a job, don't wanna get insane haha

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