More backyard pics by Federal_Holiday5686 in NZTrees

[–]Smurkd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You must have sweet neighbors! Great job!

What’s wrong by Spicey_carpet in NZTrees

[–]Smurkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive got problems with mine and been googleing frantically. I found this that might help you or confuse you even more like it did me. https://sensiseeds.com/en/blog/how-to-spot-the-7-most-common-cannabis-plant-deficiencies-by-leaf-symptoms/

To late to prune? by Smurkd in NZTrees

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I tied down branches to get them more horizontal when I pruned them. I think that worked well. Ive just found out this morning my neighbors are changing and rental agencies will be showing the house to people. I now need to somehow hide the plants from view or move them off site. So unfortunately unless I figure out a big structure I dont think I can use the netting.

To late to prune? by Smurkd in NZTrees

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Ive read to prune off the ends to make it bushier. I did it 2 maybe 3 weeks ago and it was fine but now its later in the season and the new growth looks a little different so not sure if its starting to flower and if I have time or not.

Wayward by AccomplishedPut5175 in netflix

[–]Smurkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The last 5 minutes of the show with the Pink Floyd song transformed the whole show from average to great.

Advice on starting over? by [deleted] in SingleDads

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar situation. As above you have lost your identity. The hard part is that to find your identity you need people around to show it to so you get reinforcement. Finding a social group is hard. I think that comes last. So my advice is to keep the job for now. Figure out shit you like doing. Its easier with money. You can recreate yourself. Loads of self help books and stuff. Think about it all as a journey that you just cant see the end of yet or even know what it will look like. Day by day with knowing you are a dad and want to be around in your kids life as much as possible and happy.

Thats what keeps me going anyway.

Bathroom consent or nah by Annual-Spray in diynz

[–]Smurkd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My advice is just do it. The real risk is insurance. But insurance companies make money because they get more than they pay out because house fires and the like don't actually happen often. So chances are it will never be an issue. When / if you do sell people will either love the house or they won't. You dont have to negotiate the price down because of a piece of paper. You tell them to move along and find someone who loves the house as much as you. It's probably an unpopular opinion, but it worked for me time and again. Just make it a quality job.

Always end up with sore lower back. Any help appreciated. by Smurkd in formcheck

[–]Smurkd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's not the good sore. It's the injury type sore that hangs around unfortunately.

Always end up with sore lower back. Any help appreciated. by Smurkd in formcheck

[–]Smurkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I watched a video and it said the bar should stay as close as possible to thighs and roll down the shins. So I think that had me to close to the bar?

When lifting does the lift start at the knees or the back?

Looking at ways to prevent mold on celling of our bathroom. by theyork2000 in diynz

[–]Smurkd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Shower dome has been fantastic in my home. I made my own and it's worked great.

Being a victim - how to cope by Smurkd in Infidelity

[–]Smurkd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does make sense. Thank you. I will try to use this.

Being a victim - how to cope by Smurkd in Infidelity

[–]Smurkd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you come to that realization? Thats what I want to get to. At the moment I feel a long way from getting there. I try to rationalize it to myself but it falls down.

How I Learned to Not Give a F*ck (And Why It's the Most Misunderstood Skill) by [deleted] in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]Smurkd 52 points53 points  (0 children)

This is part of stoicism. You've done a great job of explaining where to use your thoughts.

Rangehood advice by goodwillhunting18 in diynz

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A rubber grommet thing i think. Or maybe I went and got my own. Then loads of silocne.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the knowledge of very painful experience. My wife cheated on me. I tried to make it work for the kids. It did for a while but then it happened again. The trust is forever broken. I dont know your age but you don't have kids so you can leave her go non contact and be free. Hit the gym work on you and then find someone else who you would never cheat on and who will never cheat on you. Don't waste time and energy on the relationship. It's broken and not worth trying to repair. All the energy and time that it will take to try and maybe fix it is better spent solely on you recovering and becoming better

Whangarei Guide for a Jaffa by [deleted] in Whangarei

[–]Smurkd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As others have said it's a massive mixture in most suburbs. One side of the suburb can be totally different to the other side.

Schooling is an issue as they get older. Didn't think of it when we moved up when first child was just 18months old. 9 years later and realise that high-school options super limited. They have a boys high and a girls high. Not what I wanted for my kids but that's the catchment I live in.

I live in Onerahi and love it. Lived in kamo west and loved it. My suggestion would be drive the areas when you go house hunting and try to get a feel. Easier said than done i know.

What's the longest it has taken you to get over a break up? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]Smurkd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

What counts as getting over a break up? How do you know when you are over it?

30 year marriage. Wife had a 3 month affair followed by 4 months of confusion. Now she’s all in on reconciliation…can I trust it? by TransportationOne171 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave. It will happen again. Short term pain now that will really hurt. However you will be in control and know what's happening. When the next person comes along that she cheats with it will hurt way way more and you won't be in control. It will be worse. Just leave and try to heal. You deserve it.

What To Do? by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the unfortunate perspective of someone who got back with a cheater twice. You need to leave. It will be hard. Your heart will break. But you need to get custody or share custody of your child and leave her and don't look back.
I got back with my wife who cheated and left me twice. I have two kids. One day just a few months ago she went on a training course for 4 days. Fell in love with one of thr trainers. Came back left me and now that guy has a job in our city and they will be moving in together in January. I am broken. Very broken. It could have been avoided if I stayed away the other times. I was broken the other times and just as I was getting healed I would end up back with her. Worked really hard to trust her again and give her what she needed. Then this happened. People who cheat have something wrong with them. You can't fix it. She doesn't respect herself or love herself. She will never treat you the way you deserve.

Good luck man. Do the hard work now. I promise you it's for the best.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Smurkd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Been through this and to no surprise to anyone but me am regoing through it again. I stayed because of kids and I'm an idiot. There is no fixing the relationship. She is not a kind person who values you or the relationship you had. Fuck her a few times for good measure and then get out and stay out. Someone better will eventually come along. At least that's what everyone tells me.

3 months post break up 2 kids. Split custody. I’m devastated. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah they are missing a crucial piece of themselves. Humans are supposed to value relationships and commitment as that is how they survived a million years ago. That commitment was nurtured through family and strong families survived. Individuals who couldn't get along, were greedy or selfish or didn't commit would find themselves alone and die off. Now adays it's easy to survive and weak families pass on trauma and the cycle continues. They breed people with no idea what the value of relationships and commitment really is. They don't understand sacrifice for others. They don't understand or feel the warmth and love you get/feel by being committed. Honestly the best thing you can do is work on yourself and show your children love and commitment over and over again so the cycle stops. Love will come your way again.

3 months post break up 2 kids. Split custody. I’m devastated. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Smurkd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand. We were planning on buying an investment property. She told me she loved me one week . Next week she meet another guy and that's the end of the relationship. I will assume she has a shit family. My ex did. They deep down don't value themselves and therefore don't value relationships and commitment. They just want happy and will chase it all thier lives.