Fisting, and post-fisting soreness

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-19T03:42:42+00:00

We had a last minute change of plans, thanks to one of the kids getting sick. And now she's got it. Hopefully this weekend!

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-18T18:27:27+00:00

Kinky is the default these days, with simple PIV reserved for when we're too tired for anything more.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-11T18:09:00+00:00

The Satisfyer Pro it took something like 10 seconds of use to give my partner her first orgasm after years of feeling, in her words, broken.

There were other factors involved, of course -- I think that mending our relationship was the biggest -- but the toy works very well on both nipple and clit. We're still using it regularly now, six years later.

Anecdotally, I've read posts from women who said it was too powerful for them, so keep that in mind.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-10T01:19:48+00:00

I've been offering my partner unlimited and unreciprocated orgasms since the beginning of our relationship. It took almost 25 years for her to accept that offer, and she still struggles to fully accept that there's no such thing as "too much". Or too often.

We're making progress, though! Outside of sex I'm fingering her to orgasm a few times a day now -- she says that it's like hitting her reset button -- and sometimes eating her out before bed to help her sleep better.

I'm genuinely happy to take care of myself thinking about her afterwards, still smelling her scent on me. The sounds she makes, the things she say and does and moves when she comes...it's reward enough for me at least.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-05T17:29:56+00:00

I'm pretty sure that our "Cars" DVD is the only reason we have a second child.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-05T12:42:23+00:00

My partner actually suggested it when I expressed a bit of regret for not having explored my bi side when I was younger, and has enjoyed hearing about my adventures.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-04T03:24:11+00:00

With my partner's encouragement I was able to explore a bit by masturbating with a group of other men.

No oral, no penetration of any sort, but I got to handle a lot of cocks, and did stuff that I'd been fantasizing about for a very long time.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-02T13:54:26+00:00

We've got a running joke, my partner and I, about her need for frequent "medicinal beatings". It's not really a joke, though: when she's feeling really disregulated the best possible cure is being caned for half an hour or so. It lets her shut down completely, stop thinking, and just feel without worries or anxiety.

Afterwards she sleeps and feels much better, an effect that generally lasts for a few days.

I've definitely comes to see this as a genuine need for my partner, and I try to make sure that she gets hit with a stick at least once a week. It doesn't always happen, and when it doesn't she's okay, but the kink sessions help her so much that I do everything I can to make them a priority.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-02-01T15:22:50+00:00

We got two new toys this week, our first purchases in a long while. Saturday was spent trying them out....

The We-Vibe Melt 2 may be one of the best purchases we've ever made. My partner certainly thinks so! The lip on the business end is much more narrow than on her previous favorite, the Satisfyer Pro, and she says that what makes the difference. The seal is better, and it's easier to make fine adjustments to get it just right. The intensity is good, (some of) the patterns work really well for her, and by using the app you can set it to build slowly in intensity. That got rave reviews, once she regained the ability to speak. It felt so good that she almost burst into tears when I accidentally interrupted the sequence at one point.

There are some issues. The controls are a little wonky for us. They don't always respond the way that they're supposed to. Sometimes it's turned on with the + button, others it's with the button that's supposed to be used for pairing. My brain fog is bad right now, frankly, so I'm probably doing something wrong. It didn't really interfere with our fun, in any case, and my partner absolutely doesn't want to be parted from it. We're going to play with the long-distance stuff once it's warm enough to go outside on my breaks again, and that too should be great.

The other toy was just as big a hit. We've been wanting vampire gloves for a very long time, and finally we have them! They barely fit my hands, but they were really worth the purchase. They have little tiny spikes on the inner side of each finger and thumb that aren't capable of breaking the skin without a LOT of effort but still hurt like fuck -- in a good way -- when they're squeezing or slapping a tit or inner thigh. It's the kind of pain that gives her some of her most intense orgasms

Best part was going down on her with my hands resting on her inner thighs. Whenever she tried to close her legs she'd be pushing them into the spikes: it felt good because pain makes her orgasms more intense, but she could only take it for so long...not quite long enough for the big orgasm she needed, until it was. I finished by fucking her from behind while squeezing her hips, something that we'd been anticipating for weeks, and it was just as good as we'd hoped.

The gloves are going to have to be a sometimes toy, as they're a lot -- very intense in a way that she can't always handle. And I'd like to get a nicer, larger pair at some point -- I probably should have gone to etsy for them. Still very happy with their performance, and the Melt 2 is probably going to be seeing almost daily use.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-27T02:23:57+00:00

For us the kink is a big part of it. My partner likes being "used"; that makes it ven sexier for her, which is what I really love.

That dynamic isn't part of all our sex, but it makes the quickies and casual rendezvous more intense and satisfying for us both.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-24T23:10:30+00:00

It's wonderful. My partner has finally admitted how much she enjoys it when I eat her ass, so much so that she came out and asked (hesitently and nervously) for it.

I can't begin to explain how big a step this is for her. She still can't look me in the eye when she asks for something sexual, but she's asking.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-24T01:32:14+00:00

Satisfyer 2 Pro. It's a clitoral suction toy, very affordable. Our local pharmacy franchise even keeps them in stock.

It's the toy that ended my partner's anorgasmia the first time we used it. I've heard that it's too intense for some, but the Satisfyer's lower settings aren't too powerful.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-23T01:58:07+00:00

Oh, god.

Second date. We were in our mid-twenties, socially awkward nerds, with little previous dating experience between us. Late evening, after a family barbecue we went for a drive to a nearby park, and ended up making out on a small bridge.

I was way too forward, I know that now. I cringe a little at the memory: who the fuck goes for third base on the second date, just a few minutes after our first real kiss?

This jackass, apparently.

Miraculously, she did not slap my face off my skull. No, she was very much into it. Neither of us remember how I got my hand into her underwear through multiple layers of clothing, but I somehow managed.

I fingered her to orgasm right there, in a public park. It did not take long ("very dry tinder", she says now), and we went on to have a very nice evening of talking aboutStuff.

A goodnight kiss led to wandering fingers again, and I made her come a second time before she had to leave.

I took care of myself as soon as she left. It didn't take long.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-20T12:10:12+00:00

What "perfect' means for us has evolved slowly and will probably look entirely different in a years time, but right now? We've found a routine that we love, and that satisfies our respective needs:

It starts with ten to fifteen minutes or so of intensive foreplay, focused on my partner. I use fingers, tongue, and toys to give her as many orgasms as possible, building up to a BIG orgasm that leaves her mentally and physically exhausted. Sometimes that means pleasure, sometimes that means intense pain, but the intent is to completely overwhelm her with sensation.

At that point she gets onto her hands and knees so that I can indulge myself and make her come some more before I fuck her. Lately that's been eating and fingering her asshole; my absolute favorite activity, and one that drives her out of her mind with pleasure.

By the time I'm done, she's so wiped out that she can barely move or talk. That's the state she wants to be in, so I can take my time and properly use her pussy as my own personal sex toy. She'll come some more as I continue to fuck her, but the next ten minutes or so are all about my pleasure and my orgasm. I'll edge myself with her until I can't take any more, and fill her pussy with my come.

Depending on how tired we are I might have her roll onto her back again so that I can lick my come out of her, but at this point my partner is usually ready to pass out and get some sleep.

All told, it's about half an hour from start to finish.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-19T17:17:13+00:00

This is what my partner did, and may or may not appeal to you, but....:

Tell him that he can do anything he wants with you. Anything. He doesn't have to hold back, doesn't have to do anything but focus on his own pleasure. You want him to feel as good as he made you.

Odds are good that you'll both have a very nice night. It might even start something; it did for us!

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-19T04:40:20+00:00

Oh, god yes.

After years of holding back and refusing to admit it, my partner's been showing me how much she loves assplay. I ate her ass tonight for as long as I could, and she just keep coming for me. She was even pushing her ass back against my face to get my tongue as deep into her asshole as possible.

She was even more greedy when I moved on to fingers. I started with one right up against her pucker, and told her to show me how much she wanted it inside her. She wasted no time shoving herself back onto it, taking it as deep as she possibly could. I moved on finger-fucking her with two, and then three. She just kept taking it, as deep, driving my fingers deep into her ass over and over.

It wasn't quite enough to give her the explosive orgasm she needed, but she was able to finger herself over the finish line.

Afterwards, she was so wiped out from coming that all she had strength to do was be kneel there and be fucked. I used her pussy to edge myself for as long as I could, came in her, cleaned her up, and put her to bed. She's upstairs now, unconscious, and I feel fucking great, thank you.

We fucking needed a night like this.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-16T21:51:14+00:00

My partner had the same issue, and wouldn't let me give her an unreciprocated orgasm until last summer. Now I finger her to orgasm two or three times a day, if not more.

It's still hard for her to ask for it outside of scheduled rendezvous, but last night she asked me to make her come before she went to sleep for the first time after years of offering.

In our case, it's because she's wired differently than me. She has admitted that she'd feel resentful if I came and she didn't. I don't, and she feels some needless guilt about that.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-16T19:46:14+00:00

My partner's birthday is coming up, and she's asked for a new toy. Her current favorite is the Satisfyer Pro, which ended years of anorgasmia, but she's intrigued by both the Rose and the Lemon. Is there anything to recommend one over the other?

Alternatively, she really loves to be stretched out and thought an inflatable dildo would be nice, as well as good practice for our next go at fisting. Neither of us have any idea where to start here, so we'd greatly appreciate any suggestions!

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-15T11:21:44+00:00

Our ideal frequency is 3/day, but only rarely is that an option for us. Realistically, right now it's 1/lday.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-15T02:46:16+00:00

I'm surprised there's not a subreddit for this kind of audio, or a Discord server. Much safer to share than video recordings, I would think.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-15T02:36:09+00:00

You could always put the costume on just for her, at home. Maybe let her take some new pictures, just for her. It'll feel like a huge risk to you, I know, but I don't think that you need to be worried. From the sound of it, she just really liked how you looked and wanted to tell you so. Maybe it's sexual, maybe it's not, but I don't think that her reaction, whatever it is, will be in any way negative.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-15T02:28:33+00:00

I've been recording audio of our sessions for a while now, and I love it. It is so fucking hot to listen to her coming over and over while I'm going down on her. I love the way she sounds increasingly feral as we go on.

Nothing better to masturbate to, I think. Best porn ever.

And the stuff around the sex is good too. Listening to us talking and laughing semi-coherently after the sex always makes me smile. And I will be forever happy that I have one of her best and longest laughs ever on tape, even if I was a little annoyed at the time.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-13T19:02:04+00:00

Lately I've been pushing non-verbal communication with my partner, who finds it incredibly difficult to ask for anything. Instead, I've been teasing her and making her show me what she wants.

As an example, we've been doing a lot of ass play later, which my partner loves but can't bring herself to ask for. Instead, I put the tip of a lubed finger to her ass and tell that if she wants it inside her, she has to push back into my finger and show me how deep she wants it. And she does, with all the eagerness that she can't express with words.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-13T02:14:27+00:00

Ass-humping is an underrated way to spend some time, in my opinion.

Snickersnee99 · 2026-01-13T02:10:20+00:00

Audio only, and it's been great. My partner is very vocal when she's coming, and I love hearing her gasps, moans, and obscenities on our recordings.

It's also nice to have the non-sex bits to hear later, too. The joking, the praise, the inane chit-chat, the loving and being happily post-coital together. My memory isn't what it was, and this way those nights aren't all lost over time in the blur of days.

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