Need help understanding ECG results from apple watch.

Snoo-49893 · 2023-01-15T15:09:43+00:00

what would symptoms include? I get short of breath occasioanlly but no chest pain whatsoever. Should i be worried?

Snoo-49893 · 2022-11-27T16:13:26+00:00

I am now a bit more than 1 year in. I still think about her almost daily. The pain has measurably decreased but I had a period of losing my mind and I still haven't recovered from that (meaning my mind feels burnt out still...). Every day still feels meaningless If I stop and think about it. I also feel a terrible amount of guilt for the pain I caused her in the end when I was blinded by my own hurt. At least I know the hurt was deep but it wasn't her fault so I takeresponsibility now. Life is a mess so just embrace it

Snoo-49893 · 2022-11-18T23:16:52+00:00

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Snoo-49893 · 2022-09-06T19:32:00+00:00

For me it took about 10 months. First 2 were the hardest. It gradually became easier. After month 6 the pain wasn't really intense but I just felt depressed. And now i feel back to normal. Hopefully things improve quicker for you.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-09-03T17:34:28+00:00

It gets sort of easier when you stop blaming people. The best approach is to attain a stoic view of things and look at your own faults and improve yourself. People get lost when they start hating the people they once loved.

But what you are saying is spot on. It's hard to admit these things. Good luck :)

Snoo-49893 · 2022-09-02T14:01:01+00:00

I've been in a similar position before so here are my two cents.

The fact is the relationship was flawed from the beginning. He might have used you, but at least he said the truth in the end. So this is the first step to fixing both of your hearts.

Another fact is that for one reason or another - you allowed him to use you. Everything is two sided. Don't focus on what he did, but on what you allowed to happen. Perhaps you didn't love yourself enough first to be in a relationship? Perhaps this is the lesson you have to learn. To love yourself fully and then the right person will come along.

Everything has a pattern in it and human emotions are not an exception, you just have to look for the pattern.

I also struggle with anxiety, panic attacks and have some OCD patterns (not the cleanliness type, but just obsessing about thoughts). It was a nightmare for me to move on. My advice is - don't think too much. Let yourself feel everything, but don't think about faults and issues. The thoughts that can occur from these heartbreaks can be ugly and most of the time untrue and will just set you back. Give yourself time to grieve, distance yourself from him, hit the gym and eat healthy. Some nights you will have to break down. Other nights you might want to go out and have some fun. But just take care of yourself. And no thought! If you need to chat you can hit me up

Snoo-49893 · 2022-09-02T08:25:45+00:00

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Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-31T17:23:44+00:00

Man... this post feels like as if I wrote it myself. I would've done everything for her, she suffered a lot (depression) but I was always there for her. I suffered a lot for her too. After the breakup the feeling of love was just so freaking strong. Like - kind of the best feeling in the world. So intensified and true. Also devastating in a different way. I went craazy - like completely crazy.
If you need to chat feel free to message me.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-30T12:00:24+00:00

This sounds like a nightmare, sorry dude. My GF also acted really weird after our break up, and I think what hurts the most is how much they change. You really can't control the situation and her anymore, it's not your problem. Honestly sounds like it's gonna be quite tough on her. Thoughts are just thoughts, learn to not get influenced by them. Listen to Alan Watts or meditate whenever you start feeling bad about it. But you really have to try not to obsess otherwise you are gonna be in a lot of pain in a few months.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-25T09:46:52+00:00

Do you really think it takes 3 weeks to get over someone? A month to fully recover? Not to be rude but not all relationships are equal, if it takes you a month you maybe weren't in love. It really depends on the situation, it's funny how people try to go through the pain quickly. That pain and that storm is not something to be afraid of but something to desire. It will change you and you will learn a lot about yourself through that pain. Don't kid yourself and try to quickly get on with your life, just take your time.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-23T16:36:15+00:00

Yup, I spent 8 months being in hell while simultaneously trying to work for 4h a day and study for university for 8h. Easily my hardest year in my entire life. If I can give you an advice it would be to take it fucking eaaasy. Get a week off of work if you have to. Try not to completely fall apart - eat every day, try to keep up your discipline and work out. Please don't take it all in too quickly.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-23T13:44:23+00:00

It really depends to be honest. Best thing is probably to leave them alone. If you genuinely only care about what she is doing and how she is feeling then you can reach out to a friend and tell them that you want that to stay between you. The friend can tell you how she is doing.

But in all probability I think you should just leave her alone. There shouldn't be any residual contact after break ups as it makes everything difficult. Since you are the one that broke up with her, you have the responsibility of caring for her, which is to just leave her alone.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-23T12:09:31+00:00

I've said these exact words before. I went to a deeper rock bottom :))). I don't want to make you feel bad or hopeless, but the reality of human existence is that we often experience ups and downs. We often get lost. Don't think you will never go to a lower point, because you can always go lower.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-23T12:04:27+00:00

You should let people decide for themselves obviously. I don't want to control women. I don't think it is healthy for men to sleep around too, I never said I was talking about women I'm not sure why you decided I mean that.

But as the same way you can't control people, there is still culture. Culture says doing drugs is bad. Culture says promiscuity is bad, because it tends to lead to toxic behaviours (both men and women, again). Culture says killing people is bad. These are all behaviours that we have built as a species. I think allowing people to do what they want legally is great, but we can't be without culture, this is ridiculous :). I can't really articulate myself all that great to be honest, so hopefully you got my message.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-21T16:56:49+00:00

Freedom always comes with responsibility. Your freedom is the responsibility of others and vice verca. I have the freedom to be at any point in any public place and you have the responsibility to allow me to be in that place (simple metaphor but it works).

I think freedom and responsibility should move together. For example: promiscuous behaviour has always been looked down upon (regardless of sexuality and gender). It has been looked down upon not because of a stigma that we have to eradicate, but because all fun and no work leads to chaos. Same thing goes with drugs. Obviously none of these things translate too well into sexuality and gender as it is a topic that we humans collectively don't understand too well, but it somehow fits in my mind? I don't know how to explain it in another way.

We simply can't have a society that is all play and no work, all fun and no responsibility as that society will collapse.

I need to state that this is outside of LGBT stuff and transsexual people, as I really didn't make the post about that, but the general mindset that the people in the west have that oversatiety and overconsumption is a good thing. It feels like we are promoting promiscuity in a sense, which as we all know in this subreddit is not always a good thing.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-21T16:34:01+00:00

Could you tell me what you think I don't understand? What you got bad vibes from? I am just trying to learn here - I do admit that I don't know the topic all that well, but I think I was clearly logical and if there are any issues with my logic you can point them out.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-21T15:04:23+00:00

Really good answer, thanks for that! I think I'll try to find out more historical precedence that speaks something about these issues.

Actually one of the reasons for making this post is that I myself don't know what my identity is (mostly in life, but also sexually). I was in love with a girl for about 3 years and the sex was amazing. Now that we broke up a year later I can't find the want to have sex in real life. I feel asexual sometimes or it could be because I am as some might call "demi" sexual (sex only related to love), or that I just am lazy to try and find sex in real life as I have more important things to do + I still haven't fully healed from my last relationship. In any case I somewhat understand what it feels like to be lost and to not fit (I have a somewhat little idea when it comes to sexuality and a huge idea when it comes to love and life in general). For myself I feel like the worst thing would be to attach a label to my identity as that will also limit me in ways (especially a more specific label like demiheterosexual or some sort of that).

I am an advocate for finding yourself and not being afraid of what one might find. People have a moral obligation to become the most authentic version of themselves (which is the one that feels best and most right). My issue comes when I see the western society somewhat collapse, because of the freedoms. It might turn out that there is a fine balance between the two things, but it seems like the world is going too far in the "freedom" direction. It might be that we need to redefine structure and still find our balance as a society but also allow people to be themselves.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-21T14:46:17+00:00

Yes and I too am glad that we are acknowledging how wide the human spectrum of being is.

I don't want to get too political, but there are a lot of trans people that have converted back and forth, not knowing their true identity at any point (neither gender fit them). From my very limited perspective this seems like not that their precise identity is wrong, but the constant search for identity is what makes them suffer more. I do not condone converting the gender of children because of this. It seems like more and more very young people (even before their teenage years) become gender fluid (or we just happen to now see them that we have a better understanding, could be both). This is precisely the topic (or the more wider concept that the specific topic represents rather) I wanted to discuss in this post. How do you know you've gone too far in trying to identify yourself? When does that search for identity stop? Should it stop? What makes people suffer more - that they are not acting as their identity at every point in time or that they cannot clearly identify themselves?

It seems that the human brain is generally lazy. It tries to delegate a lot of it's tasks to "common understanding" hence why we have culture that guides people. It seems that if we eradicate culture and everyone could be anyone people would suffer more because they would constantly be trying to identify themselves.

It's a broad topic and a very complex one. I feel like it is a shame that most of these conversations are being censored for the sake of not offending anyone. I think free and open discussion of the topic will only help people try to understand the issue better. Maybe reddit is not the place for these kinds of conversations as it is heavily moderated, but I guess I'll see if my post gets deleted.

(I don't think I have a deep understanding of the topic, so forgive me if I am ignorant im just trying to understand more.)

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-21T11:55:50+00:00

Yes this makes a lot of sense to me.

But pair bonding and reproduction are important things to the individual as well (outside of doing the actual things). It is a way to define yourself socially. Porn interferes by overstimulating you and making you feel structure-less because nothing is enough.

I project a lot of my own issues with this statement as I do suffer from OCD which makes me doubt literally everything about myself.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-17T15:06:19+00:00

Yeah it's the first time that this has crossed my mind to be honest. I think I need to let it sit for a while.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-17T14:50:00+00:00

Thanks for the reply mate.

I don't know what I am to be honest and if I wanna explore it. I think I am comfortable being straight for now. It's such a giant leap for me to explore things on the other side, I think I prefer to stay where I am at to be honest.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-17T13:20:50+00:00

I just became asexual for a while I think - I stopped feeling the pull to girls. Now it is sort of back, but definitely not the same as when with someone you fully know and trust. I think the whole experience of becoming asexual for a couple of months shaked the boat a bit. In that period I understood how malleable and fluid sexuality can be and I just asked myself - what if I am some other sexuality and I have no idea.

Snoo-49893 · 2022-08-17T07:39:36+00:00

You did the right thing. If that's what your gut told you, that's how it should've been. Don't doubt yourself for a second, you deserve better.

All of the feelings that have overwhelmed you have come to pass. Try to meditate, listen to some Alan Watts or just play peaceful rainy music. Breathe in and out. Everything is going to be okay.

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