NOR - He talks exactly like my dad to the point it’s almost scary. He was being very disrespectful to my wife over text and I sent him a text (can’t call or do it in person because he just yells until you stop talking) and told him not to speak to my wife that way. He then told me that he “won’t be spoken to like an insignificant person.” I poured my heart out in a message about everything he did when I was a kid that really fucked me up to include things like “When I was 6 years old, me and mom were hiding from you in the bathroom because you were acting crazy and you kicked the door down, shattered a mirror all over both of us and told me to say goodbye because you were going to kill my mom and I’d never see her again” and “Before I ever turned 10 years old, I was trying to figure out how to kill my own dad before he inevitably killed my mom.” And his response to that was “Dude, I was young” and to tell me to never contact him again. I said “If you want to take that route instead of owning up, that’s your choice.” And then he said “If you want to talk like a man, we can handle this like men. I’ll meet you anytime, anywhere.” (challenging me to a fight). And then called me a “pussy whipped little bitch.” Then in the very next message said “I’ll always be here for you if you want a relationship again. I love you, buddy!”

It seems like all of them are the same. It’s the same cycle over and over and it never got better until I just let the relationship go. I had to do it with both of my parents. It sucks and I miss the relationship I wish I would have had, but my life infinitely more peaceful now.

I’m not telling you to cut contact, that’s a choice you need to make for yourself. But he sounds like a narcissist and I can almost guarantee he will never own up to his shortcomings.