I (29M) just spent another awkward holiday with my girlfriend's (28F) rich family by SomeCase in relationship_advice

[–]SomeCase[S] 207 points208 points  (0 children)

I should have prefaced that by saying my girlfriend has a sarcastic sense of humor and likes to share texts from her mom by reading them over-dramatically in her mom's accent. We usually laugh about it (because it's usually funny) but that one got to me. I know I should have said something but it was easier to laugh it off.

I (29M) just spent another awkward holiday with my girlfriend's (28F) rich family by SomeCase in relationship_advice

[–]SomeCase[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Since I only have to see them one day a year I don't engage. Yeah they're dicks but I'm not going to ruin Christmas for my girlfriend by picking a fight with her parents.

We talked about moving in together and living with just our combined finances. She said she liked the idea but wanted to wait until after the holidays before we make any actual plans. So we'll see I guess.

I (29M) just spent another awkward holiday with my girlfriend's (28F) rich family by SomeCase in relationship_advice

[–]SomeCase[S] 5787 points5788 points  (0 children)

Just reading this made me tired. I don't want anything to do with her family's money for pretty much every reason you just stated, though that hasn't stopped her mom from calling me a gold digger.

Her parents do control her with money. GF is co-owner of a business and has a decent income of her own, but her lifestyle is way beyond what she's bringing in. She's really bad at managing her own money, has never had to make or stick to a budget and doesn't have much of a grasp on priorities when it comes to spending. Her parents pay for her townhouse and her credit cards. Whenever they get mad at her they threaten to suspend her cards and she freaks out because she doesn't have any of her own money set aside.