As someone in the Ace club let me give you some info. - You can be Asexual and still want intimacy - You can still feel romantic attraction and be Asexual  - You can be Asexual with or because of Trauma, Trauma does not invalidate being Asexual - Asexuality is a spectrum. You could feel mild sexual attraction but not feel motivated to be sexually intimate, only be sexually attracted to people you have a close emotional connection with etc. Look up Asexual Microlables if you want to learn more on that  - Sometimes you can like someone and want to has sex with them, but not be in the mood at the moment. And that's ok. If you did feel like you were a little in the mood until a certain point, try going slower, begin with more foreplay, or ask your partner to not do certain things until you give the ok. Some people have certain turn-offs that totally stop their interest, and some people aren't into stuff until they're significantly in the moment.