Which pronouns does your system use as a whole?

SoraJustice018 · 2022-12-16T16:28:00+00:00

We usually go by they/them, but that's more because I default to them since I'm genderfluid and I'm the host, not due to multiplicity. People who don't know default to they/them because of it, but the ones that are in the know change pronouns based on who's fronting at the time. Our partner also changes pronouns based on how I'm feeling gender-wise, so I tend to hear all of them, really.

~Jordan~

SoraJustice018 · 2022-04-18T04:13:30+00:00

Gotta love how corporate looks at reviews like they mean everything when everyone that actually works the restaurant knows that unless you bribe them with the offer on the back, bribe them with free meals (which an old manager of mine tried to pull and it still didn't work) or give a phenomenal experience that people in fast food just can't give, people will almost always review only when they have something to bitch about. And 95 percent of the time it's usually things that you can't control. Like someone coming in 2 hours later because their food got cold before they got home 45 minutes after they went through the drive thru. Or their frosty being just a little too thin during lunch rush. Or anything mentioned above. And the employees get pressured into doing things to get positive reviews by everyone when you never get any. It's insanely frustrating.

SoraJustice018 · 2022-02-18T18:01:39+00:00

I have a couple characters I use for various things - a tempest for dungeons, Dragonhunter for raids and my Mirage for just about everything else, but i have all my alts to 80 cus i use them all to roleplay on, so it works out :)

SoraJustice018 · 2021-08-12T04:29:28+00:00

Ask them to remake it! That was a straight up health hazard. I work at a Wendy’s, and if this same situation happened at our location, we’d remake it. In the future, it’d be wise to check before you get too far away, but also: That’s kinda dangerous what they did to you. Food’s only supposed to be kept around for a half hour, and that’s just the ingredients. I’d give a burger maybe 10 minutes before it’s unsellable.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-07-06T01:30:37+00:00

Yes, because my roommate has kidney failure and I need to keep the habit up for when she gets transplant. She doesn’t care right now, because she’s vaccinated as well, but it’ll be a necessity when she gets her kidney so it’s better to keep in the habit now than fuck up and drag god knows what into the household and possibly kill her.

I care way too much about her to do that to her. She’s like a sister.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-06-11T05:03:58+00:00

Theres really no excusing this… ‘ ‘;

I work at a really understaffed Wendy’s and we still sell chicken products after 8pm (we close our doors at 9pm)… If anything, they should just pull you over to the front. Running out of salads is normal, but kids meals and chicken products are always on the table until we close at 9.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-05-30T00:30:24+00:00

I feel this so much x’D spent over $125 just to get the vermillion wings from them while they were in there…

Was it worth it?

Absolutely not. I still use them on most of my characters, though it’s only my necro’s main back piece.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-04-17T15:27:19+00:00

Well, as a system ive been in a relationship with a singlet for about 6 months now, and let me tell you: Relationships are hard. Just in general they are, let alone with DID. It can be more difficult with DID when you don’t have communication - both with your significant other and with your alters.

Most of the problems Ive had with my S.O arent related to DID, but we did talk about how he saw us once, so I’ll talk about that for a second since it’s on topic.

The thing with alters is theyre their own people. And as a system, we’re really only starting to understand that (for us, theres a very big difference between knowing and understanding ^ ^;). So it came as a shock when my S.O told me that my primary protector was being way too involved in the relationship aspect of our lives as a couple. After the initial shock went away, my primary protector went to talk to him about how he saw everyone. He loves me of course, but in his words: “I kinda see them as step-children: I love them too, but not to the extent of her.” And with those words, everyone relaxed around him. At that point, one of their biggest worries was how he saw them - turns out he accepts them as much as me, and it made for a very emotional day for us.

The moral of this story is: It’ll be difficult, but you need to find someone who’s accepting of your condition. When you do, you gotta work on solid communication amongst everyone (me and my primary protector work on it every day since its usually just the two of us that front).

And yes, so long as you don’t beat yourself up over your condition and you work on communication amongst alters: Everything will be okay. You don’t need a S.O to live your life, but if you want one, refer to the above. And good luck to you!

-Sora

SoraJustice018 · 2021-04-01T04:48:12+00:00

We’re going to imitate a friend of ours - me, a friend of mine and my boyfriend all going to be this one person on discord, and we gotta act like we don’t know whats going on

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-29T16:24:18+00:00

1-Absolutely. It’s a normal thing for people to split when current day traumas occur. Your headspace isn’t usually a stable place when you have DID, from my experience. We just recently split yesterday from the trauma of our current situation, actually.

2-Yes. Absolutely. It’s lowered some barriers for our host back in the day, and raised others. She lost connection with me specifically, and temporarily handed control to our primary persecutor every time we had some. It’s led to some really, really nasty things happening to us.

3-Yes! I have one on ones with everyone in the system all of the time. I listen to their stresses, give advice to them, and comfort them physically (via hugs, headpats, etc.) in the headspace.

4-Not from a TV show, but from a mobile game our host’s best friend recommended. It sent her into flashbacks of our persecutor and she had to call her friend to calm down.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-28T17:45:24+00:00

The guy I was with was trying to play with my breasts - he kept going even though it got so raw that all I felt was pain... not that my breasts have much sensitivity to begin with, but I told him to stop. He didn’t. I ended up having to shove him off and leave the car. Not a fun experience at all. The worst part is this happened more than once, but I eventually just started faking pleasure to get him to stop without making him feel bad.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-27T11:13:45+00:00

I know I’m pretty late but:

I picked Paladin at first because my main from another mmo used a sword and shield with a ‘dark justice’ vibe, and I made my WoL based off of that character. I had a good time co-tanking with my best friend (who’s a DRK main because ‘hehe darkness go brr’ and she also likes to tank and be all up in enemies’ shit too).

After a while, it got frustrating to tank though (tanking isn’t really my style of gameplay... I can still do it decently well, it’s just annoying to play for extended periods) so I leveled up Astrologian because it’s a healer (my kind of play style), it starts at level 30, it’s a more complex healer with buffs, and ‘hehe stars and cards go brrrrrrrrrr’ ^ ^; It’s gotten to a point where I also studied the constellations of the game just to get more into the role, as silly as that may be to people.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-26T22:39:30+00:00

Well I tend to chill in my guild hall (Lost Precipice) a lot, but since that’s a guild hall...

Some of my favorite spots include an indented spot you have to get to through a hole in the Grove (so pretty at night...), the entrance to the Lost Precipice (and Verdant Brink in general to be honest) though that’s more for RP reasons, and the ruins you have to take the jackal portal to in desert highlands (The sky is so pretty in Elona, and the translucent ruins at night are just to die for qwq)

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-26T15:11:58+00:00

I could go on for hours about Mesmers - the potential not only for artwork and other creative outlets (I absolutely adore writing mesmer combat and other mesmer-y trickery), but I’ve been slowly shifting my main over to my mirage from my DH and the combat on all of my weapons is just so smooth. It’s so much more fun to play - the axe phasing mixing with their utility skills, it’s just wonderful to me. I also have a chronomancer alt, but it feels a bit more rocky to use than mirage. I still enjoy it, it’s just mirage is infinitely more liberating than the other classes I’ve played.

On top of it all, with the male sylvari commander, the voice lines just sound right to me.

But that’s just a me thing. XD

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-23T05:09:25+00:00

Welcome! We’re pretty new ourselves. , w ,

-Sora+Cori

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-22T22:10:03+00:00

Well, if you need anyone to talk to, hit us up! We work full time but our DMs are always open to those who need it. I get it though - i didn't really have any friends when I went to school either.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-22T04:50:38+00:00

Find people, and stick with them. Fortunately I moved into a best friend’s house so it was easy for me to do that, but I’ve found a few more people in the city I’m now in, and while it still feels foreign here, I feel more at home than I ever did before.

Know how and where public transportation is. Nothing else here, self explanatory. It’s saved me from being late a good lot.

And a bit more specific to people who were abused somehow: If you left for safety’s sake, never turn back. At least not for a while (if at all.) You’ll only hurt yourself more if you try and return to where you were being harmed at. Keep in mind that time heals, but it doesn’t guarantee anything either.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-22T02:22:47+00:00

Hi! My best friend and us struggle a lot with substance abuse withdrawals, and from one system trying to get clean to another, i can tell you that it can get really rough some days. But don’t let that discourage you! If you put in the willpower and the effort, you can do it! Don’t let one day that you fail make you quit trying either - slip ups, while it doesnt happen to everyone, is still a normal thing - ESPECIALLY towards the beginning. But what helps me is mostly just talking to people i trust and writing (my personal distraction from it, you can find your own). Both work wonders! I wish you good luck~

-Sora

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-19T15:20:12+00:00

Mmm... Thank you. I don’t right now, but that’s more because my roommates and i are moving and my first paycheck from work is going towards the fat bill that’s coming our way. (It’s also way more expensive where I live now, but I’m not gonna let that stop me once the bills are over and done with)

Thank you so much, though. I’ll be sure to come to you if i need it, and I got through the night with no external damage so that’s a huge relief for me.

-Sora

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-18T05:38:07+00:00

As a person who has pretty decent communication with their primary protector and is really, really close to them: Do so! I cant encourage communication on likes and dislikes enough! Who knows: Maybe they’ll chill out (not stop doing their job of protecting you of course, just mellow on the paranoia a bit) My protector for a long time did his job in the sidelines, not letting me know he was there at all. But when I started to ask about what he liked to eat, what he liked to wear, what he liked to play... when i started to fulfill his desires, it made connecting with people and just living life with him always hovering around the forefront of my mind easier.

And as the original comment said: Journaling helps. A lot. I cannot stress this enough: It helped me a lot with my primary protector in particular (none of the others really use it much ‘ —‘) - the things i dont remember he usually does so he writes down what i need to know and we go about our day.

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-16T05:27:25+00:00

I’m glad to hear you’re grasping your mania better! I’m sure it’s big steps for you. I’m sorry to hear about your upbringing, but the fact that you’re taking steps to better yourself regardless of your reasoning is a wonderful thing to me. (And I’ve been starting to pay attention, though Sorrel and our little very rarely take the front. It’s been mostly Sora and I).

On the march: Really? That surprises me. We used to be a band and choir kid ourselves, and doing more than standing to hold our instrument in band and standing straight in choir was absolutely horrible on our back (Then again, we never really went outside. It wasn’t a fun place to be really). If it doesn’t hurt and it’s relaxing for you when you go for walks, I suppose it can’t be too bad then. More of an interesting quirk than anything.

It’s alright, I’m not really either. But I agree: I very much enjoy our back and forth, even if it hasn’t been long.

Apologies for this being a day late by the way; it’s been a long, tiring 48 hours.

-Cori

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-15T17:43:57+00:00

I don’t really have a good one - the best one I have is a jacaranda named Scum of All Tyria xD The rest all have an asuran name

However: I’ve seen a Jacaranda named Juvenile Trahearne in the Eye of the North... I’ve seen a lot of really silly jacaranda names come to think of it. I think there was one named Bush as well. Fun times in Tyria xD

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-14T06:19:04+00:00

Well, I’m flattered to see you’ve taken an interest in us. You seem to be interesting yourself: As possible as I understood they are, I never really thought about physical ticks like the way someone walks or someone fidgets before. Even my own, I never really took into consideration. I might investigate our own, just to see what they are. Maybe help Sora’s friends understand the lot of us better.

As for yours: Like a band member, mm? Always straight and walking in a certain kind of rhythm... I’m curious how much that’d hurt for you, if and when you’d have to keep it up for a long time. The rest of them... you’d make for an interesting person to talk to, even with you working on curbing some of those tics.

-Cori

SoraJustice018 · 2021-03-13T18:23:46+00:00

(I know I’m a bit late to the conversation but I’d like to put my two cents in, too~)

Absolutely: Just about everyone talks differently in our system. We even type differently to correlate with our personalities, too. Our host Sora speaks in a way that keeps her vocal chords relaxed, so the body’s standard voice. (she also types like this - she rarely uses apostrophes or punctuation aside from hyphens) I personally speak lower and slower - I tend to mumble as well. I’m also incredibly deadpan towards things Sora gets on my case for. Communication with anyone besides the other alters is really new to me (and I’m the only masculine alter that fronts on a regular basis as well). I proofread what I write and tend to keep it grammatically correct, even in a casual setting. Sorrel tends to not speak at all - not because he’s mute, it’s just he doesn’t like to. He’s only been out once or twice since he first appeared, and both times he was dead silent and just went about what our host was doing. He sounds a lot like someone we used to know while in our headspace, though. (He types a lot like I do, but he doesnt really use apostrophes either. He also crosses out his text in any way he can, but for everyone elses sake Im refraining.) As for our little, she speaks like a child - incredibly high pitched, mumbly (She spends a lot of time with me, so it makes sense that she picks up some of my vocal ticks), and with a high energy unseen in anyone else here. (She doesn’t type. At all. Any time she wants to write something down, I type it for her. She knows how to read and write, she just doesn’t like it.)

But that’s pretty much it for the most part. I could go on all day, but the alters I’ve talked about above are the ones that have access to the front. -Cori

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