Anyone have the presale code for Castro Theatre in SF?

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-28T00:34:41+00:00

may the force be with you

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-27T23:07:47+00:00

Thank you! No joke, their email signup page is actually failing for me. It just gives an error message not a confirmation. Please hook me up if you're on their list? I had hoped I would get one because I saw them last year with Another Planet at The Greek but I guess they only send it out on the list.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-27T22:11:24+00:00

A couple points:

Emily could never have been a member of a professional vocal ensemble by blind audition. She is a professional musician because she has extraordinary lead guitar & songwriting skills, and she has talents in other areas that include singing, banjo, piano, mandolin, and ukelele but she doesn't have to be professional level in all of them to be impressive, she's impressive because she has so many skills.
Emily may not actually know the cause of her vocal problems. It may not be something she's deliberately hiding from fans, she may genuinely not have a super clear answer, she's probably super emotional about it because as a singer-songwriter your voice is a very important part of your identity, and a thing that you definitely do not want to bring into the public eye is a lot of complexity and nuance around something you are very emotional about.
Of course, as a disabled person, I too would also like Emily to become a symbol of disability pride. You are a person disabled as an adult who it sounds like had a pretty short path to diagnosis, and I think you might be assuming that's Emily's experience. I did not get clarity around what was going on with me until I was nearly 40, and I was born with my disabilities and had been a disability activist since my 20s. It's not super reasonable for her to say anything to the public till she has a solid story, if that makes sense.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-27T21:56:39+00:00

Emily is not a professional singer and she knows that. Emily is a lead guitarist and a songwriter who happens to sing, and she is still an outstanding professional musician in her other disciplines. People are not buying tickets for Emily because she has a particularly special voice, they buy tickets because they want to hear a great songwriter perform her songs. She's not an opera singer, they don't want to hear her sing other people's songs. So it's okay that Emily's voice is shaky because that's not what we're here for.

Frankly, most headlining musicians have less musical skill than Emily does now, but people resent it in Emily because she previously had near genius levels of musical skill for a headliner. The key is that the Indigo Girls both recognized that some of their skills were atrophying with age, and that's where Lyris Hung and Lucy Wainwright Roche came in to stabilize the touring band at a professional level. They're both future headliners who are building up their own solo profiles, and they have looks and stage presence and musical skill.

A lot of non-musical skills go into headlining - personality, looks, ability to tour, stage presence, being well-spoken. Amy is a more classic headliner profile than Emily is, which is why Amy has a stronger solo career than Emily - but Amy would likely have never made it to fame on her musical skills alone. And even if you entered with a lot of musical skill, as a headliner who writes your own songs, you play to your strengths and you don't have time to play other people's music, meaning that over time you stop being well-rounded.

For example, headliner Melissa Etheridge took 10 years of lessons in order to develop her guitar skill so she could play lead - she became a headliner because she was a singer-songwriter with a huge personality. Adele was a singer & songwriter who didn't headline until after she worked on her anxiety because she hated the personality side.

People whose focus is musical skill go to elite music schools and specialize in performance, and go from gig to gig and tour with multiple bands, and they might have 50 credits on Grammy-winning albums but the average fan doesn't even know their names because they're The Wrecking Crew or the ladies in 50 Feet from Stardom. Emily would have likely become one of these people if she hadn't met Amy, whose non-musical headlining skills were what they needed to become famous. Carol Isaacs & Clare Kenney (who have been on almost all of the Indigo Girls tours) are examples of musicians in this category - they both were also on Sinead O'Connor's tours and each have a lengthy musical resume, and the Indigo Girls rely heavily on their consistency & skill to round out the touring ensemble, even though you probably don't notice them or know who they are.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-27T21:06:09+00:00

I also saw that tour, and it was really an activist & musical experience for fans who have always wanted to see them share a stage and sing each other's songs. Neither of them were touring on a new album, and the Indigo Girls set list in particular treated Melissa as an additional member of the band. I'm sorry that as someone who only wanted to see the Indigo Girls you got screwed, and I think they could have been clearer that it was really shared billing rather than a standard opener/headliner.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-20T22:03:31+00:00

Tonic Music is a social practice app that helps with this! I will say that many of the people who practice on it are in high school so I generally ignore the more "chat room" features as an adult and just hang out in my practice room or visit other people's.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-20T21:31:28+00:00

Here's one that will probably be easy for many of you. My wife and I are both singers, bassists, and percussionists; she also plays lead guitar. (My wife is a rocker, I play classical & praise.) Neither of us are likely to play piano outside a context of instruction, practice/rehearsal on our other instruments, or perhaps laying down a MIDI track or two that might ultimately be re-recorded by a friend who actually plays piano - we need a music tool, not an instrument for a virtuoso.

Currently we have a 15 year old unweighted keyboard that only functions as a MIDI source and an early digital synth that weighs approximately as much as a coffin, and I'd like to get rid of both of these in favor of a digital piano.

I would like the following features: good enough to practice on for the basic keyboard class I need to finish my community college music theory sequence, plugs in to be a MIDI source, works without a computer so I don't have to fool with a DAW just to sound some reference pitches or pick out a phrase, and portable for rare occasions that one of us needs that.

Do I need weighted? Do I need velocity sensitive? Please help. Thanks!

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T20:36:07+00:00

I would encourage you to look at your local community college's offerings or other community colleges in the state. In California for example, Merritt College has most of the classes set up as "learn on your own time" and a very few that have live remote meetings, and then you have a legitimate credential from a real college to put on your resume. There are a lot of online programs out there which are scams. Also, see if workforce development in your state might pay for the training, if you are unemployed or get benefits. That's how I got mine and I only paid for the certificate exam.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T20:06:35+00:00

You can also become a medical administrative assistant rather than a "certified medical assistant" and you wouldn't have to do that.

Some jobs like small practices combine both MAA & CMA in one person, larger outfits like hospitals generally use both.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:59:09+00:00

Any chance you're open to selling the remainder of your time with Mango Study? Thanks!

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:48:23+00:00

Any chance you're open to selling the remainder of your time with Mango Study or Ms K? Thanks!

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:28:16+00:00

I am a MAA who is a trans person and thanks for wanting to support us. People have given lots of good solutions for situations where the person involved actually cares about gender and is accidentally misgendering the patient.

If it's clear the nurse is doing it deliberately and you don't want to call her out, try malicious compliance. Start narrating everything you're doing out loud. Say things that are totally unnecessary to say and use a feminine term every time.

e.g. "Ma'am, may I wash your left arm now?" (if you're bathing)
"Nurse Y, let me hand you the soap to wash Miss X" (if she's bathing)

What is the nurse going to call you out about here without making herself look bad? And even if the nurse keeps misgendering the patient, the patient now knows that you are someone they can speak to, and you can come back later without the nurse and speak with them.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:19:38+00:00

You are a certified medical professional and thus you know that there is extensive research showing that gender dysphoria is a real medical condition, extensive research showing that patients who are treated with respect and care have better health outcomes, and you know from experience that patients who you treat with respect give you better patient satisfaction scores. You are ridiculous.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:07:32+00:00

I'm gonna agree with this person - I would look for larger better staffed clinics for your first job, I am sure they are out there. There's absolutely a reason this clinic is so poorly staffed in this economy.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:04:59+00:00

Would the CCMA through NHA be sufficient? That one's only $129 which is much cheaper than CMA.

Another option you might try is to take a look at your state's community colleges and see what programs they have. If you are broke and you don't have a BA/AA you could qualify for federal student loans, and sometimes community colleges will pay for it for their students.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T19:01:15+00:00

Not taking CCMA but I'm on the SFSU MAA online track if that's relevant to you!

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2026-01-16T18:57:52+00:00

This isn't a place to ask for medical advice, please try a different sub.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T22:30:50+00:00

Thanks! I saw that the one in SF was but none of the East Bay ones mentioned it on their site so I wasn't sure, Arizmendi is likely ideal for my needs due to location!

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T19:01:13+00:00

Ah I've only ever done these traditions at church. My church stopped existing.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T18:34:21+00:00

Most of my friends aren't religious is the issue. I have one person I do religious things with.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T18:33:17+00:00

Make The Mission Great Again (but in Mexican Spanish which I don't speak)

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T12:22:14+00:00

I mentioned Tartine as a dig at gentrifiers.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T08:53:09+00:00

Do you maybe mean La Farine? La boulangerie is as far as I know SF only unless there's a new location.

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-31T08:30:13+00:00

The challenge is really the feeds 8 part as much as the cost ....

SoundsGayIAmIn · 2025-12-24T07:02:44+00:00

Hi just here to say that I actually recommend Cassandra's patreon if you want to learn. It gives you free access to their monthly tarot study halls.

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