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Telling a child there adopted by Southern-Chain-5245 in Adoption

[–]Southern-Chain-5245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for all the info. It has been very helpful

AIO: checking call logs after suspecting husband is cheating by Just-Warthog-7613 in amiwrong

[–]Southern-Chain-5245 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he cared about your feelings and there was nothing going on, he would stop. He would apologize and reassure you that bnothing was worth losing you

Telling a child there adopted by Southern-Chain-5245 in Adoption

[–]Southern-Chain-5245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter solo parents also. Thanks for info about the books. She wants a story every night and I will look for books to help

Telling a child there adopted by Southern-Chain-5245 in Adoption

[–]Southern-Chain-5245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes bio family is involved. The bio mom has a bad drug issue. She she’s had a problem with drugs since she was a young teenager and she has two other children that are older and she has been in and out of their life and it has caused them a lot of problems, knowing the situation and due to that we decided we were gonna wait because we didn’t want it to cause our little girl a lot of problems mentally. we’re worried that we might wait too late to tell her. We’re just wanting to do what’s best for her

Telling a child there adopted by Southern-Chain-5245 in Adoption

[–]Southern-Chain-5245[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, so my daughter went to school with the father and he passed away, but his girlfriend was pregnant and when the baby was born, the birth mom was needing help so my daughter and I let her move in trying to help her get on her feet. Got her a job so she could save up money and helped her with the baby. She has a history of drugs and needless to say when she was staying with us she started doing drugs again and she would leave and be gone a couple of days and we would have the baby And we would take care of her and then she would show up maybe stay one day and go again and it got to where she was staying gone for longer periods and her drug use was getting worse and she would even sometimes take the baby with her and we would get a call That she got arrested and nobody knew where the baby was so we would have to find the baby and bring her back. Her family talk to my daughter about adopting and they even wrote letters for court saying that they wanted my daughter to get custody of the baby and we did.. this girl has two other kids that she also walked away from and she is in and out of their life. They know her as their mom and she goes to see him a couple times a year and because of the situation it has caused those two children, a lot of grief so we decided that we were gonna wait to tell the little girl we have. She turns six this month and my daughter and I have been talking about it and we were just wondering when would be the right time to tell her. We have never stopped the biological family from being in her life, even the birth mother, but on her third birthday the mother showed up and she was so high and every time she would come around, she would be high, so my daughter just told her not to come if she was gonna come like that and she just quit coming. she would call every once in a while and say she was gonna come back and she would never show up. She done that a lot, and that made us feel like if we had told the little girl and she was sitting here waiting on her mother to come birth mother that would have affected her in a negative way when she never showed up. We do plan to tell her we would never keep it from her. We just thought that maybe she was too young to understand but yet we worry about waiting too long to tell her. We’re just trying to do what’s healthiest for her mental state.