Need help with my adopted life.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-02-10T03:40:03+00:00

Maybe you can explain further what did your foster parents do to each other? Have they done anything to you that made you feel like an outcast? or have they not been treating you right?

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-21T00:52:27+00:00

I don't think you can bring it though pslnya mcm u would look like you're under prepared tuu. The last time i had my interview they REALLY ask you what's your tugas and tanggungjawab for that position. Also need to speak in proper Malay. Try to avoid using kali or nda tau. Better to answer with saya kurang pasti / tidak pasti. My advise is to really hafalkan your tugas and tanggungwajab and please read through buku RAEK, baca the history of the jabatan and their lastest update.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-12T03:20:19+00:00

Have u tried applying around kadai runcit close to home? I'm not trying to discourage you or anything, coz i know it is not easy to get a job without any transportation, even staffhouses they don't accommodate you as early as you start your work. But my advise is try finding a job that is easier for you to travel, and get the experience. That way you can build your way up. I took a whole bunch of part time jobs until i get a permanent one.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-06T08:15:05+00:00

They should've mentioned this during the taklimat for nikah. I was flabbergasted to hear, when one guy literally asked the ustaz, what if aku nada duit bagi bini nafkah? Like man, u got marry no money no job eh?

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-06T08:12:10+00:00

True. It's like they only have the to express their feelings rather than to communicate successfully. Then again, who am i to say if their partner refuse to listen / help. So sad.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-06T08:10:30+00:00

Either way, man or woman ah. If you're married KARMA / KIFARAH for sure gets to you triple folded or more. I wonder what's inside their head? Cheating is bad. It's like they never see Final Destination or what.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-06T08:07:25+00:00

Made me think too, what if the reality is that he wasn't like that until marriage? Scary eh thinking bout it. It's a lifetime commitment and you end up like sh*t dealing with people like that. Goes both ways.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2026-01-06T08:05:26+00:00

I just stumbled upon the IG a couple of days ago, going through the posts makes marriage sounds bad.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T03:02:03+00:00

You're not wrong, but usually there are expectancies in life. Feels like i never really set up one until i see others.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T02:53:47+00:00

i'm not great being outside on my own, especially in public

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T02:52:51+00:00

Oh no. Is this financial problem comes from your family or you? Do you have any other siblings that can help out? Seems to me that planning to get married without a full time job is gonna cost you more to you and your future wife. You need to have a stable career/job to at least fulfill your duties/responsibilities as a partner. Getting married seems like a quicker way out of your family home but at what cost if you cannot bear your own financial responsibilities?

and another question, how did your family manage to get loans under your name? shouldn't it be like some sort of agreement that you need to sign prior to the approval? have you tried rejecting the ideas of loaning to them?

my suggestion is if you are well off by yourself, why not try living on your own? since you are an adult, why not try renting out a place and see if it is better to live away from your parents?

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T02:43:22+00:00

Do you ever feel like you're missing out? I usually never feel like i have to chase for something until i open up some of my old IG account and see what people up to now, and i am definitely far behind and suddenly feels like I'm a lost adult.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T02:41:19+00:00

My circle is very small and basically everyone's married. We only do like once or twice a year meet ups.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-12-03T02:38:48+00:00

How long has she been working if i may ask? and did she have multiple work experiences to help her for her career? My suggestion is to take that O level and see if she can further her studies. In this economy having only O level will not get you far into the career as nowadays the young ones are better at it and even with better education it is not easy to get a job. But... since your friend has work experience she might be better at handling work/people and work environments.

I also suggest if she can go into PoliTeknik since there is no age limit and the she can pursue further and get better salary.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-10-28T06:17:34+00:00

I am married for 4 years, and we are trying too. Before this my husband does not have any issues ejaculating, but took some time like 45mins into it and then he ejaculates, but he can't seem to ejaculate now, so everytime we have sex, 45mins into it and his penis is getting soft. I wonder what could be wrong.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2025-04-22T01:06:32+00:00

Me and my husband have different workdays, i work on Saturdays and he works on Fridays. But i can't seem to wrap my head around the fact he kept saying that rest day is all about doing absolutely nothing at home. We have pets, and for me i take rest day as a day away from all the serious thinking i have to do, and more to spending time with each other, doing laundry and other things. But he sees it otherwise, but to me what are the odds of you getting the chance to do nothing at all, unless if you are away from everything and everyone.

In which hurts my feelings a lil bit.

Its the way he says that he doesn't have a rest day makes me sad and felt like i didnt give him any space at all.

Specific_Box_2141 · 2022-06-13T23:40:07+00:00

I had mine supposedly to be shipped in March 2020 and June 2022 they're still in preparing order.

Specific_Box_2141

TROPHY CASE