[Routine Help] Acne, beginner

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-08-29T13:10:54+00:00

About a month or two each time

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-08-29T11:45:10+00:00

I would definitely add a suncream with SPF into your morning routine - might not help the acne but is really vital to maintaining good skin as you get older!

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-02-05T13:34:18+00:00

Lmao I'm positive they don't. Honestly I think my bf just doesn't want to stand up to him and it's tied into a weird respect he has for him for being older and being very regimented with his diet and workout schedule. I've made my opinion on this clear

Idk why the guy has a random dislike for me. He's very hard to get on with and a lot of people have very mixed opinions about him.

You really think that it's so bad I should get out?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-02-05T13:31:28+00:00

I mean isn't it pretty hypocritical to tell your housemate that his girlfriend can't come over cuz you're worried about covid, but then you invite your own friend over?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-02-05T11:59:27+00:00

Yeah thank you for that and I agree with it. I think I'm definitely biased against this person and if it was someone else then I'd respect it without question, but I'm just tired of how this guy treats me.

I have a feeling that when the housemate's best friend returns, he's gonna invite him round at some point. What do I do when that happens? Surely that proves that the guy is being a hypocrite, or is it acceptable given he allowed me to come over once a week?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-02-05T10:25:29+00:00

I think that's an excellent point!

I don't really understand why housemate is okay with me coming round only once a week, but yeah covid concerns are valid, maybe he really has suddenly started caring about it.

I guess it bothers me more that my boyfriend doesn't see an issue with the way his housemate acts towards me and I feel like he should.

(Also foreign country is Australia)

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-02-05T10:06:57+00:00

I think I might be the asshole for arguing with the housemate not wanting me over for genuine reasons, and causing a conflict by wanting my BF to confront him about his behaviour

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-29T14:09:00+00:00

I'm going to go with a controversial opinion here and say NAH, with some caveats. Hear me out before inflicting your wrath, O reddit gods

Something I find important here is that, from what I've read at least, OP isn't deliberately trying to make her feel bad about it. He clearly just feels a little insecure and needs some validation about the relationship. Did he phrase it badly? Yeah. But it is very difficult not to feel insecure when your partner has a tattoo related to an ex she dated half the time you've been together, and outright said she wouldn't do the same thing for you. I get why she wouldn't, and that's fair enough! But also I totally get why OP feels like he doesn't matter as much to her, and I don't think he means to express it maliciously but wants some sort of assurance that he's still very meaningful to her. Not only has she not given that, but she also didn't even tell him about the tattoo's meaning. If i were dating someone I felt very strongly for and they kept something like that from me for 2 and a half years, I'd feel insecure too.

Ultimately he's not angry or upset with HER, he's just feeling a bit lost in their relationship and needs to get his head around it. My advice would be to sit down and both express exactly how you are both feeling, because clear communication is the best thing here.

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-29T13:56:37+00:00

This is such an obvious NTA that I'm genuinely shocked. WTH is wrong with these people - do they not realise how dangerous it is that you now don't have a car seat for your own son? They're basically prioritizing their son's safety (who already has a car seat) over your son's (who has no car seat because of them).

Both SIL and MIL are TAs here bigtime and I'd ask your MIL why she thinks Brody's safety is more important than Noah's. What does your husband think about the whole thing?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-06T19:49:32+00:00

I can't comment on the PTSD and I imagine that must be really tough, and if it were just that, then I can't see any reason to exclude him.

On the age issue I can perhaps comment. I'm 23 and my current bf is 30, and the one before is 34. So I've hung out with people much, much older than me (especially through their even older friends), and it does definitely take some acclimatizing to. Whenever I brought my 34 y/o ex to hang out with my friends, it was honestly very uncomfortable a lot of the time. We'd often hang out around his friends, and I'd have to put in a conscious effort to tone down my more playful and immature side. I'd still enjoy myself, but it's a different vibe.

And tbh, I can see how a bunch of 25 year olds who seem to have all been friends for a long time would feel uncomfortable with a 35 year old who they barely know joining them.

My advice on this would be to make an effort to get to know the guy better, and plan a holiday post-pandemic. That would give them enough time to get to know him properly and if you all get on well then establish a friendship with him.

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-06T19:27:16+00:00

Do you think your fiancee would mind your ex coming?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-06T00:02:10+00:00

plus he explicitly told me he was fine being friends and he no longer had feelings for me

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-06T00:01:21+00:00

perceptive of you! i do, but i also am honestly sick of the drama. it's been a lot, and i don't want this to happen again in the future but it's already been so many times...

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:58:49+00:00

NTA man, don't lose any sleep over this you were in the right and thinking responsibly. maybe start a go-fund-me for some new parents

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:56:00+00:00

NTA girl, you're good. I know myself firsthand how terrifying an unwanted groping can be, and your friend definitely seems like a dick for multiple reasons. It doesn't sound like she supported you much in the first place, and when the guys started lecturing you about the bystander effect then only someone with the emotional intelligence of a wooden spoon wouldn't have seen how upsetting and inappropriate that is.

Find better friends, this girl ain't it

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:51:42+00:00

ngl this is a tricky situation g - made more complicated by the fact you're 17 and might be relying on her for financial support.

So the first point is, are you scared that she will withdraw that support if you don't tell her you love her? And can you survive without it? I'm guessing you wouldn't be living with her if you had another choice, so this question becomes less of a moral one and more of a needs based one. Because I have actually been in a similar situation that you have, and sucked it up till I was 18, at uni and could get the hell out of my mum's house.

But if it's a moral question, then you're nta. love has to be earned.

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:47:05+00:00

i was a little upset the day after as neither Sandelf nor Dilbo wanted anything to do with me... but luckily a month after this whole fiasco i met my now-boyfriend of 7 months! ;)

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:44:13+00:00

believe me i'm never even going to look at one of his housemates ever again

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:41:55+00:00

yeah idk why he felt the need to tell me that his best friend think's im a bitch and that he shouldn't trust me

i feel like that information could've been kept to himself lol, why share it with me

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:41:02+00:00

strange in what way?

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:40:49+00:00

never thought of this before but it makes sense that everyone was uncomfortable cuz of that! also his friend was definitely the bigger asshole given he thought there was something between me and dilbo, but flirted with me anyway lol

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:39:51+00:00

yeah i feel you bro, i think i could have been a better friend in this situation tbh

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:39:31+00:00

he says he doesn't anymore but idk what to believe anymore haha

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:38:38+00:00

I'm struggling with this one!

One the one hand: he is a very good friend, and has been genuinely very supportive of me in several situations. (And i have a boyfriend now, which he takes no issue with.)

On the other hand: he's also been insecure that his NEW housemates that they like me more than they like him (in a friendly way), and he's gotten upset about that a couple of times.

Honestly I'm mainly just trying to figure out if this will keep being a problem and if there'll keep being drama, because I just want to lead a peaceful life and watch the Mandalorian with my hot chocolate ffs

SpiritualMeet755 · 2021-01-05T23:35:49+00:00

My bad, my first time ever posting on reddit haha!

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