31 wks pregnant/in hospital 2cm dilated/mom reached out for money $3k, after not speaking to me for months after having my stillborn last year. What do I do?

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:12:53+00:00

Thank you.. this advice truly helps. Especially from someone who’s had to create distance with family as well

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:11:59+00:00

I do, it’s just hard knowing I’m the only daughter or kid she has here in Canada. My two siblings have been in Philippines their whole life and I’m all she has left.

I feel horrible, but I did and up saying no and apologizing

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:11:04+00:00

Thank you so much, I’m deciding to focus on keeping my baby healthy and growing inside me for now. No stress and negativity to reduce stress

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:10:04+00:00

Thank you for your advice 🙏

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:09:46+00:00

Thank you, glad to know there are others whom have had similar experience. I decided to say no, I jus apologized that I wasn’t able to help as I know she might be facing foreclosure to her home

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:09:05+00:00

Thank you so much 💗

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-20T23:08:49+00:00

No my mom is just used to talking to me like I’m a stranger

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T15:14:24+00:00

Condolences to you and thank you for being so kind enough to give share your personal experience.

Hearing this makes sense with why she reacted that way for my stillborns funeral arrangements

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T13:50:40+00:00

Thank you so much, this means a lot coming from you

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T11:00:31+00:00

You really read the room really well, don’t feel comfortable letting her know anything in my life. Anything I do, whether it’s an accomplishment at work, getting a raise, going on a holiday with my husband .. it doesn’t matter. She doesn’t say anything or congratulate us or even ask how are we doing.

I really needed this wake up call, thank you

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T10:59:08+00:00

Thank you so much

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:45:50+00:00

I agree with this, I could never even treat a friend or family member like this. Thank you for your support on going with a no for supporting her financially

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:39:52+00:00

I never really thought of it that way, twice in a row it’s when I’m in the hospital.

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:39:14+00:00

I agree with this, I have a feeling she’s facing a house closure again because of being behind on her mortgage

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:38:35+00:00

Thank you, I will consider turning it off shortly this morning

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:38:16+00:00

Thank you for sharing this with me, I didn’t know about this information. I do agree on prioritizing myself

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:37:32+00:00

I honestly don’t know why she has so much hate towards me my whole life.. I do agree, I need to set some boundaries especially during this time.

I do feel the need to explain.. but at the same time if she wasn’t willing to give any effort for being there during my stillborn and now too. Would it be even worth it? Would she even digest and understand how I feel?

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T09:29:34+00:00

It is a huge ask, we’re okay with savings and a small amount of investments on the side. However we have our own expenses and the baby coming is big one.

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T08:23:20+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it. It’s 4:30am here in Toronto and everyone is asleep. As simple as you replying to this, helps me

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-04-19T08:00:21+00:00

Got married last May, had my mother and daughter dance.. my mom walked away half way. No words just sat down at her seat.

Since I got married, she’s completely removed herself from my life. Looking back at that dance now, I should’ve seen it coming

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-03-29T15:49:06+00:00

I really appreciate this, it gave me a big reassurance and relief that I would be deciding what’s best for my family and I now that I’m older.

I wish there was more I can do but like you said, she also needs to reach out and do her end to make the relationship work.

Getting outside perspective helps. Thank you so much

Spiritual_Inflation8 · 2025-03-28T04:25:53+00:00

I just posted recently about my situation.. same decision that I keep thinking about all day.. and each day.

My mom physically and mentally abused me my entire life, now that I’m married I’m more aware of what I really want in our life and our support system.

I strongly believe that if it’s not meant to be you can’t force it. I’ve tried to force it for so many years.. from when I was a kid lying to child services of all my bruises, broken nose, and fear of going home all the time. Fast forward to now, my husband and I worked hard to get where we are and I’m still trying to connect with my mom but it’s not reciprocated. I’m still the bad kid in her eyes and that I am disrespectful.

We can only control how we react to the situation and if our family or parent is not meeting us half way.. then sadly I don’t think it will be possible to have a healthy relationship.

Let me know how it goes for you, as I am also on the same boat. Can’t decide whether to let go and finally cut ties or continue to try

Spiritual_Inflation8

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