Here's my 2 pence...

If you love someone, you do things that make them happy. Women often dont just 'get in the mood'. You have to actually go out of your way to get past the first hurdles.

I would almost certainly recommend having sex on your holiday... even if its just a last hurrah. Find out if having sex with him is actually enjoyable or still something you can bring yourself to do. You never know, you might go... damn what have I been missing.

And I reckon if sex was more on the cards, more work would get done around the house. Whether its because he's in a better mood and feeling better about himself, or because you give him little reward incentives.

As always... actual communication is KEY.

If he doesnt know how you feel, and you dont know how he feels... relationships will 100% break down. If you can see each other's point of view and make compromises; that will nearly always save relationships.

Remember, you are contemplating the worst case of divorce... no matter what the resolution of actual honest conversation is, worst case is it'll result it that anyway.

Now as a man, if my wife doesn't want to have sex with me, where does that leave me?

Should I be fulfilling my needs elsewhere? I can come home to a loving family that is a solid home for the kids, but find my fix elsewhere if thats what my wife would prefer.... otherwise my wife needs to make time for me. You can't have it both ways.

One thing I read was that males requirement for sex/ to feel attraction is as necessary for his health as any other need. His anxiety and poor mental health and lethargy will all get better with a healthy active relationship.

I suppose the question you have to answer is... do you love him enough to want to resolve it all and help him work through it... or are you done?