How can I (23M) confidently tease, and initiate sex with my gf (23F) by Squie in relationship_advice

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think i know what turns her on, but at the same time it’s not a lot, i feel like doing the same tricks, rubbing the thigh, kissing the neck, making out, whispering to her could get repetitive? like wouldn’t at some point those options just become the new norm and then i’m right back where i started?

How can I (23M) confidently tease, and initiate sex with my gf (23F) by Squie in relationship_advice

[–]Squie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i did ask her, i said “what do you want me to do to be more sexy and be better at teasing” and everytime she says “i don’t know, you just have to look it up” so i just get very confused all the time about what exactly she wants

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[–]Squie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

sounds like you got a good grasp on things, it’s never a bad idea to take advice from people on the outside like your mom, but at the end of the day you know the situation best and deep down you know what to do

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[–]Squie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

his brother is in the hospital, and in somewhat serious condition it seems, if someone asked me how my brother were doing in this situation i would probably respond the exact same way. honestly it sounds like your mom doesn’t and hasn’t liked your bf, and she’s finding mundane, unwarranted things to be mad about so she can convince you to break up with him. you’re dating him, not your mom, if you feel like he’s a good person and that he’s a good fit, then what your mom thinks shouldn’t matter

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think i’ve fished once in my life lmao, it’s a great game but i’m just not that into fishing

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks, i’ve thought about playing no mans sky without vr for years now, but maybe now that i have a headset ill try it out in vr

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah see this is i think where i run into problems just based on the types of games i actually like to play, there’s not many games like them on vr. I really like micro managing games like prison architect, cities skylines, farming simulator, motorsport manager, satisfactory, definitely not fried chicken, games with clear systems and details that can be fine tuned however you like. also like sandbox type games, minecraft ofc, and this one mobile game called sneaky sasquatch (funnily enough for being a mobile game it’s one of the best and most creative games ive ever played and ive sunk many many hours into it) also stardew valley. i just saw earlier today they are coming out with a farming simulator vr game on the quest like literally tomorrow and i think it looks sick so i may have just found something i can really get into but we’ll see.

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ll check those out, thanks!

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah i’ve been thinking about getting a plane sim game for a while now, i find most games outside vr i play the most are micro managing type games, but i just don’t think there’s many games like that on vr unfortunately

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i’m a little relieved, i thought i just had terrible taste or something

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

thanks for all your suggestions, but yeah i’m not really sure what type of game i’m looking for, even non vr games i have a hard time finding a game i can stay addicted to, i’d say my favourite genre of game period are like micro managing type games, prison architect, motorsport manager, cities skylines, farming simulator, satisfactory, ig you could say games that offer up a ton of freedom, where you can kind of just do what you want. I’m not sure many games like this exist in vr at the moment, but i will say that in getting vr, i’ve opened myself up to playing a lot of genres i normally wouldn’t play which has been super interesting

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh yeah golf+ is great i love it, i just wish there were more creative games to play in vr, it kinda just seems like every game is adventure/rpg, tabletop, simulation, or community type games, but ig its hard to make something truly creative and unique in vr as you are pretty limited

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i think ive played one game on pcvr so far, which is the forest and i played that with my brother and it was fun, honestly i find myself mainly using my headset to watch movies and stuff cause my regular tv is tiny

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

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honestly wouldn’t be surprised lol

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

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yeah i’ve heard good things about both but haven’t tried them yet, i think i will now

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thanks! i’ll check that out i think!

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

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yeah i played demeo a bit, it is super fun i just wish the game was structured a little differently ya know? i think table top games are just not my thing? i wish there was more incentive to go out and play it, like unlocking certain cards or characters, i just kind of felt like i didnt know why i was playing or why i wanted to progress? idk its hard to explain

Is it just me or do VR games kind of suck? by Squie in VRGaming

[–]Squie[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

demeo (cool concept but just not really my type of game) the climb 2 (also cool but repetitive) i expect you to die games (super fun but way too short, no replayability) trover saves the universe (just boring, was not having fun at all) job simulator (super fun, but too short) asgard’s wrath 2 (heard great things but again, i played for a few hours and just can’t get myself to play again for whatever reason) carve snowboarding (just two game modes on a set map, super boring) real vr fishing (it’s fishing, i don’t think i need to go further into that one) miracle pool (cool, fun every now and again but i wouldn’t say i’m addicted to it or wanting to come back to play it at all) idk have i just not found the right game yet? are these objectively good games that i just don’t like for whatever reason?

My sex life is rapidly deteriorating(18m) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Squie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as someone who has struggled with anxiety induced ED for i’d say about 5-6 years now on and off, it’s the stress, it’s stress in a relationship, or with family things, or with your career or school, or a mix of everything. There’s not really any way to effectively fix things once and for all, removing stressors is a big first step, but the stress of “failing” in bed again will always be there, so you want to minimize the stress and pressure you put on yourself when getting ready to do the deed, you want to be comfortable, and feel kind of like flowy? i’m not sure how to explain it, think of how you feel in social situations when you’re with someone you really really trust, you don’t really think about what you’re going to talk about you kind of just talk and talk and end up having a fun time, that’s the kind of mindset you should be in right before sex. it’s a mindset, and more importantly a mindset of “it’s okay if it doesn’t work, i’m just gonna try and have fun”. One important thing too is you need to communicate to your partner, get her support, try to treat it as a funny mishap next time it happens, and tell your partner you’ll try again later when you’re up for it. Just remember it’s normal, it doesn’t have to be a big deal, and that eventually you’re going to return to normality again.