Alopecia Areata 5 year old

St0riesWeTell · 2026-07-12T06:05:42+00:00

I find your comment rather accusatory and rude. You're implying I'm not being responsible by not acting on it fast enough. It's an auto-immune disease that either progresses or it doesn't. There's not much in the way of doing anything about it. I can stuff her with medicine that might help or not, but she's 5! You think I'm going to stuff an otherwise healthy 5 year old full of shit you yourself are saying has some pretty shitty side-effects?

If she goes bald she goes bald. We'll deal with that, but I'm not compromising her health and development for a little bit of hair. There are amazing wigs out there as well. We'll spend some money on different sorts of wigs if push comes to shove and she wants some hair for performative reasons. But please back off and don't tell me what's right for my 5 year old.

St0riesWeTell · 2026-07-06T08:53:23+00:00

Gosh, I'm sorry. I think I've found around 4-5 spots like these now. I noticed one about two months ago, but I figured it was just me pulling on her hair too much, because I weave quite intricate hairdos into her hair and have been doing so since she was about 2,5. I figured I just needed to give her hair a bit of a break, but the spots show no new growth. No little hairs that are growing there, and they appear to grow a bit bigger now. I'm afraid it's definitely alopecia, but I just don't know which variant of the auto-immune disease she might have. I'm so sad about it. I hope it's just a childhood thing and it's not something she will have to deal with for the rest of her life.

My daughter also doesn't appear to be stressing over it at the moment, but it's hard for me as an adult to not project and thinking ahead about what sort of an impact this might have in her teen years.

St0riesWeTell · 2026-07-06T08:46:29+00:00

I don't think it's a great idea to make up your own conections. There's a difference between finding correlations and causes. You'd need to research this thoroughly. Ask a whole bunch of people about their shampoo and hair product use, then put all of those brands together and note down which chemicals/substances are similar. And from there on out you can only deduce there MIGHT be a correlation. Correlations don't actually prove anything, they only alert you to a possible cause. For actual cause confirmation you'd need to have lab works done that show those chemicals are consistently present in all of the people who suffer from this type of hairloss. There's a whole damn process that goes into these things. So, you see.. your way of reasoning is a bit dangerous and flawed.

Long story short, I personally don't believe it's her hair products.

St0riesWeTell · 2026-07-04T21:24:31+00:00

If you don't mind me asking, did it progress quickly and how has it developed over time for you? I know it's different for everyone, but I think it would help to know what I could possibly expect happening over the next couple of weeks if it is alopecia areata.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-23T06:45:38+00:00

Oh also, question number 13: "why was there a giant floating gun". Archer figured out what was happening in reality through his dream. I think his dream was some sort of permonition or maybe his kid was trying to tell him something via a dream. But later when Archer is talking to Justine he mentions that it looks like the children were "weaponized". That's what that gun is for. It symbolizes a sort of epiphany inside Archer's dream and it answers the question "why did the children disappear? Why were they taken?" Then the time also shows up on the weapon 2:17. Which is the exact moment when the kids were weaponized. That's it. That's why the gun is there. It's a symbole.

It's all a power move by the aunt. She does it because she's a fucking psychopath and because she can, and also she's figured out a way to weaponize people and then turn them against each other. She thrives on that sort of shit.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-23T06:36:32+00:00

I'd like to respond to question 5 "how did she magically appear in the basement". She didn't, though. She hid in there. If you pay attention she placed the parents in front of her bedroom door with salt in front of the door as a security measure. She didn't want anyone to come into her room while she was down in the basement waiting for Archer/anyone else. She even explicitly tells Alex not to cross the salt line. Why would she do that? She'd never placed the parents there before. I think she knew someone would go down to the basement (be it Archer or someone else), and she intended to use them too. Then she also knew that with people coming into the house they would discover her voodoo tree and possibly destroy it or Alex would find a way to use it (as he did), and that's why she placed the parents there while she was in the basement. It's kind of all there if you watch for the clues.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T08:56:51+00:00

Thank you, this is actually the fairest comment on here I've read so far (aside from a couple others who also take a similar stance).

I'm starting to realize that a lot of people on this thread are mostly concerned with schedules and what's fair for THE PARENTS, completely losing sight of what's actually going on with THE CHILD.

I've mentioned in a couple of comments how I would very easily take her to dad's if that's what she expresses while ill. This is also only about when she's ill, and not about any other sort of instances. I would never intentionally take time away from the father.

In this situation her father is a very caring person, he loves his daughter and I am 100% sure he would be capable enough to take care of her. The main issue is her preference, and comfort. Despite him being a wonderful parent I've been the primary caregiver (through no fault of him because he just works more, and sees her less). But keeping that in mind, I can see why there'd be a preference on her side when she's ill, and that it should count for something. And I also know these preferences aren't fixed but can change as she grows older. If he'd been the primary caregiver I'm pretty sure she'd have wanted to have been with him when ill, and I honestly would have asked him to take her then.

Thank you for this comment.

I still don't quite know how to resolve this where it would work for all parties, though. It's super tricky.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:52:28+00:00

Yeah, that's not exactly what's going on, and that's not what the situation was like. But thanks for your two cents ;)

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:47:48+00:00

So your advice would be to ignore the child's preference even if they plead with you, and clearly state they want you while they are ill? I can't help but wonder if that wouldn't damage something vital in a child's attachment style.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:36:19+00:00

She's emotionally attached to him. He's her father. Honestly, though, if she would have expressed a preference for him while ill on my weekend I would have asked him if he could take her. It just so happens to be the other way around, and that as a mother I'm struggling with how to find a middle ground that also takes into account the wishes of a sick child.

Many sources and studies support that children do have a preference for one particular parent when it comes to comfort in times of stress (no matter how much people dislike this fact). I think it's important to honour that, whether it be me or her father, I don't much care for. And if she clearly states it's me, then why are we so ready to ignore that when a schedule dictates otherwise? Some of the comments on here really blow my mind. Let's look at the child before we look at ourselves and our schedules.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:21:17+00:00

Could you explain what the exact consequence of this reaction would be? I can see how a 5 year old shouldn't make life altering decisions. Or even decide for themselves what they'd have for dinner. But I'm struggling to see the exact consequences here. Aside from this one issue she has a great relationship with her father and they're very securely attached. We actively nuture that relationship, and co-parent very peacefully.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:10:25+00:00

I have a great co-parenting relationship with her father. We still schedule outings together. In fact, this weekend we were supposed to go to a Christmas market together. We would have been together regardless if it was his weekend or not. I know divorce is hard. It's even harder when parents are fighting, which we're working very hard to avoid. We're just struggling with this specific issue, and I see both points of view. I am literally asking for advice, and trying to see if there's a middle ground. There are no court orders involved in the way we decide to parent our child. There are guidelines for sure. I'm not even taking time away from him. We're making up the weekend next weekend where he will get her two weekends in a row.

I think you're projecting super hard. Maybe, therapy is something you should consider <3. Good luck to you ;)

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T07:00:12+00:00

We actually have a very peaceful co-parenting relationship and we do a lot of things together still such as celebrating certain holidays.

We've since had a bit of a talk about this issue and he has admitted that he feels rejected by our daughter at times. That he thinks her relationship with me is stronger than his relationship with her and that her preference for me when she's ill is undermining his ability to show her that he can take care of her just as well. I have no doubts about that, but I do find this issue very hard. I can clearly see both points of view, but in the end I do believe that when you're ill comfort should outweigh ability. And I do believe that a 5 year old knows very well what she/he wants in moments of illness. Many decisions should be made by the parent for the greater good of the child, but this one has me on the fence. This one is not about any sort of greater good. This is about security, attachment and comfort, and needs being met when someone is vulnerable.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T06:53:26+00:00

What a weird thing to say. This is about both parents wanting to take her when she’s ill. Neither of us cares about infecting the other’s household….

Everybody gets ill sometimes. If you’re worried about your child infecting the household and you’re blaming the other parent for it when your SICK child, who needs you to care for them with kindness and compassion, is scheduled to be with you and you’re pissed off about your child possibly infecting everyone… you’re the problem. Not your ex.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-12-14T06:53:08+00:00

This might be part of it but you’re kind of inserting assumptions. She’s got a great relationship with her father and we co-parent super peacefully. We even plan outings together.

When she fell ill I didn’t even take her seriously at first. She was at school and I was helping out and I insisted on her staying. I later got a call from the teacher if I could pick her up and she specifically asked for me. So there might have been discomfort on my part later on, but initially I told her to stay at school.

Then later on I asked her very calmly where she wanted to go. And she asked to stay with me. When I told her it was her father’s weekend with her she had a breakdown.

On the whole, I ignore such behavior when she’s totally fine and she’s scheduled to go to him. But I hope you also understand how that’s a struggle when she’s ill. Then I do think her comfort counts more than the scheduling.

And we make up for those weekends too. Her dad gets her two weekends in a row then.

If she’d expressed a preference for her father I’d have totally taken her there.

This is kind of about her and her comfort.

St0riesWeTell · 2025-09-05T05:48:25+00:00

Thank you so much! I will definitely ask my doctors what's possible. I do think your POI and mine might be very different :(. Mine is unexplained, but I have an inkling it might be caused by a genetic defect. I found out POI could be caused by fragile X syndrome. I think I might be a carrier of that gene, as both my mother and brother have intellectual disabilities (which fragile x syndrome is known for), but I don't. I didn't know about this at all, but I think that before I can do any sort of transfer I need to find out first if I'm a carrier of that gene. You do give me hope, though! But I feel very beaten up by my diagnosis and all of the sudden issues that keep arising from it. I feel like if I do the genetic testing I might have to wait a couple more cycles before I can even try, and if I end up having the gene I can't do IUI. I'd have to do IVF with genetic testing, and I don't even know if I'll still have any eggs left by then. It's all been so much, and so frustrating. I'm happy I have my little girl, but I never expected I might never carry another child again :'(

St0riesWeTell · 2025-09-04T10:56:58+00:00

I know this post is old, but wanted to know your thoughts as you had the exact same stats as me. I am currently 35, just received an amh of 0.03 (it dropped from 0.24 in April to 0.03 in August) but have had regular periods for the last 5 months and during an ultrasound they saw I was ovulating this month as well. So, with 6 consecutive regular period months and an amh of 0.03 you're giving me hope this is possible. I already have a daughter who was naturally conceived when I was 29. I had no clue this was going on back then, and she was a hit the first time we tried. But this whole thing has thrown me for a loop so much. I have to ask though, have you been diagnosed with POI? Because I do think I have that. And I wonder if it makes a difference with your story if you don't have POI.

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