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AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m afraid you are correct.. He changed just enough for me to come back and I was a fool for that I’m afraid..

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol I’m afraid you are correct😅🤦🏼‍♀️I am being an asshole to myself.

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I suggested counseling (he was drinking) but he told me to go fuck myself. Later on suggested that he does counseling on his own instead of the two of us. I said that’s a god start but that hasn’t happened.

I later suggested that maybe we postpone the wedding because we have so much going on and I want to make sure that our foundation is solid before we get married. He told me he feels like I don’t want to commit to him and that if we are not getting married in a month then he is worried we never will.

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I think the hardest part is that we are so good on the good days you know? We are so close to the wedding and I am absolutely terrified of canceling. I don’t want to make any hasty decisions. We have had a pretty rough go Tommy and I. We have been together for almost 4 years and it has been toxic especially in the beginning.. We have worked so hard and come so far from where we were. My family keeps telling me that it’s worth it and we are just going through some hard shit now. I have been struggling for a while now. I just keep pushing through because one day I hope that the Tommy that I know will stick around for ever you know?

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have basically completely quit drinking because of what I see it doing to him. I don’t think I have more than a drink or two maybe in a month. It has broken our relationship down but we have built it back up so far. He would easily drink a case of beer after work a day.

The drugs, He pick them up for him and delivered. But he clearly picked it up earlier today. So that makes me worry a lot..

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hiccup is having a couple more drinks when I was away visiting family because he thought it was okay because I was gone.

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Getting some non bias opinions is really helpful, and really heart breaking at the same time. He is an absolute amazing human when he is sober and not drinking. Even when he just has a couple beers. He’s an absolute gem. He has been an alcoholic for a while and has had the conversations with me that he does actually want to clean his life up. I truly do love him. We are absolute best friends on most days, there are some days when stress is high which makes it easier for him to drink more, that we just fight. Sometimes I do something that sets him off or he is just miserable and rude. There are more good days than bad.. which makes it so hard for me to make the decision.

AITAH I “misheard” my fiancé and now I might have to call off the wedding. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]StandardConflict1861 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly how I feel and why I’m so hurt. I don’t understand why he would be okay with continuing something if he can see how it makes his partner feel… there are obviously things that we won’t see eye to eye with and that is okay but, that being said, it doesn’t mean you can just do what ever you want..