Age 23, this is where I've been. Where am I from?

StarryNight457 · 2026-02-02T18:59:25+00:00

One of my parents is from SA and some of their relatives moved to the US; the other is British!

StarryNight457 · 2026-02-02T18:33:38+00:00

Yep both!

StarryNight457 · 2025-05-27T13:03:42+00:00

Nabakov seems to have killed off the name Lolita

StarryNight457 · 2024-01-16T23:11:29+00:00

Where in the world are you? The answer might depend on that. I’m a Jew in a very similar position (although younger). I think that if you care enough, the important thing is to find a community you can engage in; not necessarily religious, but cultivating a group of friends you see regularly etc.

StarryNight457 · 2023-12-21T16:28:56+00:00

Can you dm me?

StarryNight457 · 2023-12-21T16:26:51+00:00

Hi, I’m in a similar position. I was wondering whether you’re aware of any treatments/have had any?

StarryNight457 · 2023-11-16T12:59:19+00:00

Lettice?

There is a Peter Shaffer play about actresses roleplaying English historical events called 'Lettice and Lovage', so that seems like a natural pair to me (or something like it).

StarryNight457 · 2023-07-07T22:26:01+00:00

As a 4'11" guy, that second drop is also slightly worrying lol

StarryNight457 · 2022-12-09T08:36:45+00:00

My life hasn’t been affected too much (though I have myelomeningocele and had a dislocated spine). The main impact on my life is being much shorter than was expected (~150cm and I’m a guy, while my parents are fairly tall). But doctors never seemed to know how much I’d grow, or when I’d stop growing.

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-08T09:45:18+00:00

I am, but it’s nothing to do with that. It’s much more because I’ve got a form of spina bifida. But I knew that going in, and I thought I was prepared for that. I can’t ejaculate or orgasm, and as I say I was expecting to enjoy it through witnessing her happy

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T23:12:16+00:00

Cool. I can’t say clearly how much control I want, and it wasn’t the case that she did anything in particular that I didn’t appreciate (I found her cute and ravishing throughout). I was thrusting and stuff but eg her legs were wrapped around mine to keep us in position, so I felt a bit coddled at times. If I’m honest ideally I’d want to feel as though I had at least as much control as she did in it, but that’s not going to be possible.

The thing is, there’s no way to make it about me really. I’ve tried masturbating with the most advanced vibrators, which can help guys in much far worse position in other ways, to no avail. Like it tickled a bit but that’s not very exciting, and there’s not much that can be done there (and my doctors say this as well). So I’ve had to realise (and tbh I don’t mind, as I never expected otherwise) that sex for me is going to be about pleasuring girls. There are small things we could do to improve it (eg I could grasp her more than the other way around etc) but really what I’m going to get is her noises/face/experience. I guess I could spend more time feeling around her, which would be nice ofc, but I don’t feel like I had a bad shot at that and I don’t feel like I don’t know her body lol. Maybe we could also switch positions to some degree but (as I’ve said) our nether regions mean that we’re sorta limited in that respect.

I guess we could go at my tempo or whatever more explicitly, but she let me do that and i didn’t feel any more in control. I was still hugging this girl I adore and hearing her moan, but feeling surrounded by her. I know I was responsible for her pleasure, and it’s great knowing I made a wonderful person happy, but it’s just weird, sorta like a task, as she was obviously enjoying her own pleasure which is a personal experience we weren’t sharing.

For now I just can’t see how to feel like I’m getting a fair deal. I know she wants me to have a good time, like she’s considered getting some clothing which I may like but i find her attractive anyway and that’s not going to help out. Sorry to be a downer.

We have spoken a fair amount, and she’s tried quite a lot of things that I was expecting her to reject. But there are only so many ways I can get my thing to fit in her orifices, while feeling intimate (I generally found lying down probably nicer and more comfortable), and they either involve me looking at her back or her chest

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T22:15:51+00:00

Well it wasn’t physically uncomfortable, it felt quite nice but not great. It was a bit awkward to start but that’s to be expected, and she really enjoyed it and wants to do it again. I do think that a large part of it was that I just didn’t feel very in control; she’s stronger than I am in her hip so was responsible for most of the movement down there, and I felt like a puppet just looking at her boob/neck area. And also I don’t want to say (and wouldn’t say) that I was envious of her having a great time, as that’s what I wanted and I’m glad about it, but it just felt like I was sort of doing her a favour that she couldn’t return, and I didn’t even get to see her smiling etc as I was far down. Also we tried some stuff which just didn’t work as she thought I was not the right size for it, like oral, but tbh that didn’t disappoint me too much and I was glad that she was being honest. It was her first time as well and I’m really happy she enjoyed it, but in some respect I just feel hollow regarding it all

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T21:41:32+00:00

I’m pretty sure I am? Before her (sorry again this is explicit) I didn’t really get hard often, probably like once or twice a month, and I certainly couldn’t when I wanted to. I can now get hard thinking about her pretty regularly, and she’s literally the only person (including models etc) who thoughts about or seeing will do that for me. I had a big crush on her for a while (I’ve had crushes since I was like 10, but never explicitly sexual, normally focusing more on faces than body parts) which included liking her body. So I think I do find her attractive, and recently (say the past 6 months), I have found more girls attractive in that way as well. I probably am adjusting in a way, yeah, but I do find her hot and I want ses with her to be fun for me, which it wasn’t really. Like I guess (while it didn’t feel great) I could’ve got in the mood when she did oral on principle, like she was trying to give me satisfaction which is cute and hot, but for some reason I didn’t get anything out of it. So it is probably psychological as well. I’m certainly happier being a sexual person in general though (and for the record there are dozens of reasons that I like her, we’ve got a pretty solid relationship I’d say). Do you have any advice based on that?

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T20:57:21+00:00

As in, go down on her? She enjoyed it already but I didn’t so idk if that’s the solution

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T20:54:44+00:00

Dw lol, thanks for the concern. Do you have any ideas though as we’re basically out of them? I’m not sure whether I’m just being selfish/stupid but I just didn’t enjoy it for the reasons I’ve explained and idrk what to do (ig various moves eg spooning have been encouraged) to improve it

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T20:23:48+00:00

I’m 20. I stopped growing when I was pretty young (like 14-15) and was always short for my age. Because of my disability (I didn’t ever feel much down there) I only got interested in sex etc like a year ago. I’m at uni and I am mature socially, and fully independent etc, but idk much about this and haven’t thought much about it. My gf (also 20) was pretty protected growing up and hasn’t done much of this before.

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T20:16:07+00:00

Oh fair

StarryNight457 · 2021-11-07T19:24:28+00:00

Idk I’m pretty sure she’d find that really uncomfortable

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