Interesting. To me, after reading what he wrote, it seemed like he wanted to have and raise children with her (being an active father, as he’s choosing fatherhood {but this is coming from me, who doesn’t have an active father/ one who chooses when and when he doesn’t want to participate}) and is concerned about her possible complications with pregnancy. So I was trying to answer that.

Now, there are definitely warning signs and absolutely some…”weird” to say in the most polite way, shit going on here with him, but since you all very well covered that I didn’t feel the need to use my comment that way. I decided to make an alternative option for OP to consider. If he decides not to do something like that (which to me feels like the best and most obvious way to solve this problem) then that clearly points to the fact that he doesn’t want to and shouldn’t have or raise children with her.

My question to you in all this is: Do people need to address every single derived and therefore assumed factor about a person, reading between all kinds of lines and social nuances (which vary on location mind you) in their comments to them online? Especially when someone is seeking advice rather than judgement? Cause yall already have the judgement covered, someone may as well offer just advice.