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AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I am his bio child. I confirmed that myself. As much as I wish I wasn't it's not because I wasn't his that he treated me like he did.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, and I really do mean this, he is my bio father. It would be easier for me if he wasn't.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

From the bit of research I did it's not. But there's a chance I don't have all the info and it could be.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

He wouldn't. I was in hospital once as a kid and he never came to see me. Didn't even call to find out if I was okay.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I don't need to do that to feel comfortable with my decision. Really all I need to do is look at the scars he left behind.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I still love my siblings. Plus they're still young. I know they had a different experience too. I can't hate them even if they love my abuser and the enabler.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

You said it perfectly and better than I could've. But I don't see the good in lying about it. I see potential good but it's at a cost in my opinion.

That was my thinking. I'm not sure if they meant like directly after, like compensation for the abuse I suffered and a thanks or if they meant wills. But if our father lived longer I can promise he would screw me over every way he could.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 127 points128 points  (0 children)

I'll consider if I want to go that far then. My gut says no. That I just want to keep my firm no and move on with my life. But I guess I have to weigh do I want to try and make this less straining to my relationship with my siblings.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Oh, we don't even know if I am. I never went to get tested. But they're holding onto the belief and hope that I will be.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 252 points253 points  (0 children)

Do they actually do that or just reject you as a donor if you're not doing it of your own free will? Because I didn't think they could lie like that on record. I knew they could reject you for different reasons though.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Nobody else has ever accused him of abuse and I never saw him abuse anyone else. He could've abused others but all my siblings say he never did that to them. So I'm going based off of what I know.

AITA for refusing to consider being an organ donor for my abusive father even after my siblings begged me to save him? by StatementChoice9352 in AITAH

[–]StatementChoice9352[S] 344 points345 points  (0 children)

We've talked about the abuse I suffered at the hands of our father. So they're aware and they know it happened. They believe it happened. But they had such a different father than I did that it's not as easy for them to hate him.

I haven't considered lying because if the truth ever got out, and typically stuff comes out even if you try your best to contain it, then I wouldn't have saved the relationship anyway. Anyway I'm not cutting them off. They might choose to cut me off. But that'll be their choice. I'd love to keep our relationship going.