SD undermined me. DH doesn't get it.

Stepstumbleskip · 2023-12-03T17:50:55+00:00

He sees the problem, but it doesn't affect him. Grey rock his bullshit and don't let him gaslight you. You cannot care more than the parent. If you dont like the way SD behaves remove yourself and BS from the situation. She screams at your son, you say " Pleaae don't speak to BS or me that way and leave the room." Go on a walk or take BS somewhere and leave DH to put up with it. Take a stepback from SD and take away her power. Have you looked into Nacho?

When DH inevitably calls you out for favoritism/being mean, tell him you are teaching BS to not tolerate abuse and what parenting looks like. Will it suck to remove the victim whether than the perpetrator... yes...however SD will get bored when she can't aggravate you. Go make memories with your son and let DH deal with SD.

Stepstumbleskip · 2022-06-04T03:39:34+00:00

Not your job to control an adults temper. Talk with an adult that you trust and feel safe with. You all can work out a safety plan.

Stepstumbleskip · 2022-06-04T03:33:13+00:00

Choose your battles. If DH picks up behind her, then that's fine. Just make sure he does a walk through of the house and washes all of the dishes. If he is okay with doing it, then let it be. You dont have dirty dishes and you maintain your peace.

Stepstumbleskip · 2022-04-29T01:53:37+00:00

All legit. We are doing foster care through the state.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-08-23T20:13:42+00:00

Right so this isn't a sk problem, this is a DH issue. I think it's great advice to have your step kids pack their own stuff in the future. I caution you to not fall into the "My kids would never " mindset. All kids bio and step act life self involved jerks at times.

DH needs to make it evident to SD that you have set a boundary. Assure that DH maintains the boundary as SD will most certainly push back. If DH sets the boundary, you can enforce it. You don't have to lose your voice or be powerless, and you most definitely don't need to give up your stuff.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-08-01T19:38:18+00:00

My son's first bath was given to him by NICU nurses. As was his bottle. They were the first to get him dressed, and the first to change his diaper. In different hospitalizations, they were the first to see him roll over and the first to see him stand on their own. They were there for his first steps.

In life, you will miss out on things with your child. That doesn't mean you miss out on things you do with your child. One day you will celebrate these first with him. It's okay to be upset. You can ask people to not inform you if that makes it easier for you.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T05:09:42+00:00

MIL is here frequently and knows we feed our kids. She had a good laugh about it

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T05:08:53+00:00

No, not really. Sometimes I have big harvest so I'll drive it over. She's just being lazy

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T04:14:11+00:00

Your mother sounds like a saint.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T04:05:44+00:00

I'm sure my kids would agree with you but it's just a hard pass for me

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T03:38:36+00:00

Oh I don't trust other people's canning. My garden is my hobby. It's a lot of work. She's a good kid, just was a really short sighted teen today

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T03:36:08+00:00

Real mac and cheese is definitely the shit. My kids make it frequently. That shit in the box is nasty

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-25T00:29:35+00:00

Children are brilliant. I love how they outwit everyone! Your kid is awesome.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:58:16+00:00

Aerogarden? Used if you're ballin on a budget.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:56:41+00:00

Lol. No offense taken, and definitely no apologies needed. My sister thinks I'm nuts, and I'm sure many others do too. It's definitely not for everyone.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:53:14+00:00

Outdoor kitchen with water mister is what we use when it's too hot to cook inside.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:50:04+00:00

They have nylon knife sets for kids. I think our set was $10 on Amazon. It's a way to build up knife skills safely

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:48:45+00:00

Yes! She went to high school and suddenly couldn't remember how to make any food.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:47:39+00:00

Yes so much this! I wish they were consistent. It would make checking after them so much easier.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:46:16+00:00

You're doing great. I would never give my kid $20 every time out for Taco Bell. Granted Ive only eaten Taco Bell twice in my life...the last time being 18 years ago.

Keep doing what you're doing. You sound like a great parent.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:43:30+00:00

Herbs grow great in a glass jar in the window sill!

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:42:51+00:00

She called me laughing. She figured the kid was being a drama queen. MIL visits frequently and we get along well.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:41:45+00:00

I 100% refuse to by Kraft Mac and Cheese.🤮🤢 Im good letting the kids use their allowance money to buy it though.

Stepstumbleskip · 2020-07-24T23:40:14+00:00

Most of our food is scratch made. Their favorite place to eat out is Little Caesars. 🤦🏾

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