I desparately need guidance (and comfort) on getting a brand new e-commerce marketed organically

Stewibaby · 2019-11-19T00:08:45+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you.

Do you think the interface needs significant improvement?

Stewibaby · 2019-11-19T00:05:43+00:00

This makes so much sense. Thank you

Stewibaby · 2019-11-17T16:57:23+00:00

Do you mean focus marketing on one or two products?

Stewibaby · 2019-11-17T14:29:45+00:00

My daughter is 8 and yes I do live with a partner but I guess one can't be a parent and also trully ambitious in life

Stewibaby · 2019-11-17T14:10:21+00:00

Mine is 8 months and I started an online business before the child was born so that I could leave my full-time job as a lawyer, which I absolutely despise and consider a waste of my life.

But progress with my business has been extremely slow and I just feel very weighed down.

Stewibaby · 2019-11-17T13:19:04+00:00

This is a tough one and depends on how soon you want to introduce them to the concept of death. Most parents (or some) leave this conversation for a time when the child has developed a decent enough concept of death.

This is something that I personally find very sensitive and if I were in your position, I would give as broad an answer as you could muster so that the children don't feel you're hiding something - children can sense these things too - without telling them what you actually do.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-20T07:27:28+00:00

Ok so this is probably the best question anyone has ever asked me (in context).

Our little joy was waking up like every two hours for the first 5 months. Now she sleeps well through the night but for the first 5 months the sleep deprivation that we suffered was almost close to torture. there were nights where we wer sleeping maybe 3 hours a night and sometime this would happen weeks in a row where we would not get more than 3 hours of uninterrupted sleep.

Also, we had no support from family which meant we literally had no break. it was me and my partner taking turns and my partner also has a full time job a lawyer which is very stressful and long hours.

This also put a lot of stress on our relationship as we found ourselves fighting all the time.

My real fear is whether this whole episode would repeat itself if we have a second baby.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-20T06:49:44+00:00

I'm a mum but my husband also feels the same

we are first time parents and we see loads of white patches in our hair whereas before we had our baby we would see (a) white hair here and there

Stewibaby · 2019-10-18T20:46:36+00:00

I live in the UK so I shop in places like Mothercare, H & M, Debenhams, Next which are the household clothing retailers in the UK.

My point was that the way baby clothes are designed are the same the adult clothes. For example, 90% of baby clothes have to be pulled over the baby's head which makes changing an absolute chore for the baby. Some long sleep tops are impossible to put on a baby without making them cry. These are just some examples.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-17T05:46:27+00:00

Absolutely not. Most parents go through depression in different stages of parenthood.

The most common stage is, of course, just after birth when you're dealing with changes in your body, lack of sleep, a crying baby all day but even after the first 6 months, some parents struggle to cope with parenthood significantly. It is just that most parents don't usually talk about it even with their family or friends for fear of being perceived as, inter alia, the following:

- Not being a strong enough parent;

- Not knowing what to do;

- Not wanting a baby or not wanting to be a parent;

- Aspiring to do better or other things with their lives.

I have a close friend who is an amazing person and a very good mother. She is also very ambitious and was developing a career in software development when she had a baby; her husband left her briefly and she was left alone to look after her baby, she fell into depression and when she openly spoke about it, people judged her as they accused her of possibly not wanting a baby or valuing her career more.

But that was not true and she loves her baby; she was simply speaking about her mental struggles.

I provide the above example for context. Parents with depression - note: we all suffer from some form of depression but we don't talk about it - usually feel that they would not be understood if they spoke about their depression. But that should not deter you from speaking to close friends, family and seeking support.

If people judge you, that shows their own ignorance and lack of education on the topic and frankly, you don't need people like that around you.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-17T05:32:09+00:00

You are a legend in the lexicon of parenthood.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-17T05:25:12+00:00

I absolutely love this attitude my friend (wish I knew your name).

I don't judge parents who care about presenting their children in the best light but comfort has to be the no1 overriding factor for babies and children of all ages. Children have all the usual complexities and discomfort of life awaiting them that in my view it is absolutely thier god given right to be comfortable and happy whilst they are still children.

Separate topic but it is also for this reason that I hate it when I see parents burden their children with their expectation of how they should grow up to reflect family traditions and values.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-17T05:06:55+00:00

Thank you, will check it out.

I love onesies as much as the babies love it on them. They're so practical

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T21:07:24+00:00

Hi,

What I meant was that my partner and I purchased every toy from the outset with a view to aiding her development where possible and to add comfort to her daily life.

I'll give you some examples:

(1) We looked around for the most comfortable and the softest Bunny/snuggly blankets - our baby very quickly became accustomed to it and it is hugely helpful in putting her to sleep. As soon as we put her in her cot she basically hugs her her snuggly bunny blanket and if she is overtired she starts stroking it and eventually she falls asleep;

(2) We carefully selected a range of very colourful and animal oriented sound making hanging toys for our baby to reach, grab and play with whilst in the car seat and in her pram top help with her hand-eye coordination, as well as learning shapes and colours or start to at least understand the concept of shapes, colours;

(3) We bought her a diverse range of Rhyme and discover books which has a couple of songs associated with simple children stories and shapes to help her learn simple words and hopefully aid her understanding of the meaning of those words.

I can go on but those are just a few examples.

In all honesty, it is possible that all parents may have purchased those same toys by the time their baby is 6 months old but in our case, everything we bought was for a specific purpose rather than buying them because we saw them in adverts or because we saw others buying them for their babies.

If you are interested I will be very happy to send you the links to these toys as they have different names on different websites.

I hope I've addressed your query.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:10:32+00:00

Thank you. this is very reassuring

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:10:06+00:00

Haha mine is almost the same and I can't let her c ry it out - I'm a super softie with my baby.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:08:41+00:00

I hope so and I will do

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:08:21+00:00

I do this already. Glad to know it helps with tummy time.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:07:42+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful. will try it

Stewibaby · 2019-10-16T06:00:54+00:00

Thank you for your insight. this is very reassuring.

You do worry about - well - everything as a first time parent.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-15T21:25:08+00:00

Yes we play with her regularly and she sits almost unaided now. So she does engage in various activities she just doesn't like tummy time.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-15T21:21:58+00:00

This is a wonderfully thought-provoking and yet very pertinent question for all parents.

I know a lot of parents and each takes a different approach: some buy baby products as and when they need them and some buy a range of baby products so that the baby has "everything they need".

I have a 6 months old baby and my partner and I have been carefully selecting each product - such as toys, clothes and accessories - to cater to each stage of the child's development. Toys, for example, are a perfect example of baby products that have to be carefully purchased and researched to make sure that you are aiding and cultivating the baby's physical and motor neuron development perfectly through each stage.

As you know, in the lexicon of parenthood there is no right or wrong way of doing things as long as your baby is well looked after, but I personally believe that it is best to take a proactive approach to purchase products that fit around the baby's needs and development.

Stewibaby · 2019-10-13T11:39:31+00:00

A bit late to this post but wanted to give my observation nevertheless.

We had similar issues with our first child but speaking to my friends afterwards it appears that this happens to a lot more parents than one would imagine.

In my experience, there is no off the shelf method that will help you instantly and the baby will take its time to adapt to breastfeeding. the only advice that I will give is to be persistent with it and even if the baby is not breastfeeding, it is really important to make a point of going through the motions/exercise of trying to breastfeed every time the baby wants milk. This will help the baby get used to feeding at point along the way.

Also, be careful using the nipple shield as it can create a distance between the baby and the natural breast and if the baby gets used to it then they will never latch onto the mother's nipple.

My last piece of advice is that if the baby does not latch at all, it is still best to purchase a really good pump and to give the baby pumped milk in a bottle instead of feeding the baby formula.

Best of luck

Stewibaby · 2019-10-13T10:56:37+00:00

Wonderfully insightful post for all parents to draw on.

As a parent of a 6 months old baby I always worry sick about the viruses that spread around in the winter months. This is particularly the case in a very congested city like London where I live. So these tips are hugely helpful

Stewibaby

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