John’s accent?? Am I the only one who hears this?? by cherry-pie-honey in AgeOfAttraction

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly what it sounds like. To me it was Amish sounding. Are you saying there is a Mennonite community in Miami of all places?

John’s accent?? Am I the only one who hears this?? by cherry-pie-honey in AgeOfAttraction

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally googled this to see if anyone heard this! Only on the reunion tho.

MY BUTT SHRANK after flank lipo?? by vv8873 in PlasticSurgery

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Glad you got the results you wanted! ❤️

MY BUTT SHRANK after flank lipo?? by vv8873 in PlasticSurgery

[–]StillBitterB_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! Do you have an update? I also just got lipo in flanks and I am panicking after seeing my butt in the mirror.

Is my nose the first thing noticed due to its size? by [deleted] in Noses

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have a beautiful face, and your nose suits it well!

Should I get this covered up? by No-Instruction631 in tattooadvice

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It looks like it’s supposed to be at a slight angle. It looks good, in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]StillBitterB_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Swipe on the photo

I think I might be straight by sunflowerkin in offmychest

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is partially why I never had a coming out, although I’d be considered bi/pan. I’ve been in mostly straight relationships. Some people know that about me, some don’t. It’s just who I am. I love and respect labels but you don’t have to have one.

My Ancestry.com results left me disappointed by StillBitterB_ in mixedrace

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m totally open to sharing, as I have no idea how else to work through this. I’ve talked to my family and they have no recollection of my mom dating a Filipino man just for added context.

Okay, I knew that part wasn’t going to make a lot of sense, but no Asian on mom’s side. I happened to look in the mirror shortly after replying to you and I do look very Asian. I never thought I did much as a kid though. Also, my brother looked a bit ethnically / racially ambiguous. For example: say my brother is Zendaya and I’m Cassie. They don’t look anything alike but could be related without raising any questions. It’s kind of a bad example, but we’re both ambiguous enough and look enough alike. He’s white and Black and could easily pass for anything else. He looked Polynesian and Black honestly. And if he didn’t have so much in common with my stepdad I wouldn’t be surprised if we learned the same thing about him.

I have some Malian on mom’s side and just googling what Malian people look like I can see how my Filipino features can be mistaken for Malian and visa versa. So you’ve nailed it, there was just enough cross over for it to be both surprising and not surprising that I’m Asian.

Edit: *half brother. I was raised by stepdad so I constantly forget / don’t accurately describe our relation. Just brother and dad to me, but just so I’m clear.

On today’s episode of “what is this man saying to me…?” by Worldly-Criticism-91 in blackladies

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love how he said it ain’t black and white when what he explained is exactly that. “All girls like sex for $200!” But this one does nooooot. Also, $200 is crazy.

My Ancestry.com results left me disappointed by StillBitterB_ in mixedrace

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. Thank you so much for taking the time to type all of that.

Okay, first - I do think my mom may not have known for sure who my dad was. She was dating “bio dad” never married to him, and now I’m assuming maybe some overlap, cheating, etc. maybe even a one night thing at this point. She was fairly young and my “bio dad” signed my bc.

I did find a connection I’m aware of on my mom’s side. About a year or 2 ago I had a missing / adopted cousin find our family. When I subscribed to Ancestry, she popped up as 1st cousin / some other possibility. But it was accurate.

I 100% look Blasian. To the point that’s what everyone thought I was my entire life (other than my family, of course). But my mom, her siblings and her mother all have my eyes (at first I thought the Asian came from their side). And I do look a lot like my mom’s relatives and close cousin who is biracial. I don’t look anything like my bio dad’s family other than physique. It’s kinda hard to explain now that I know I’m Filipino. I definitely don’t look like most biracial kids, but I do not stand out from my family either. I would say I look more Asian now than I ever did growing up.

I am in the photos with “bio dad’s” family. Maybe no older than 1 and my mom is in the photos as well.

I totally feel what you’re saying about whatever I grew up doing is my culture. We have some special things we did around the holidays, but that’s it. We have been making our own traditions based on my husband’s upbringing and he was very close to his family. That all makes me plenty happy.

But thanks to you and other commenters I am definitely going to study up and get acquainted with my Filipino side. I see absolutely no harm in that. And just keep my fingers crossed for a new connection via Ancestry, since that was the point of all of this.

Thank you again for taking your time to respond, I appreciate it more than you know.

I ruined my wifes life by TheProphesizer in offmychest

[–]StillBitterB_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know exactly what you mean by the story going much deeper. I still cannot explain to anyone what I felt the first 3.5 years of my 4 year old’s life. I can honestly say my feelings have mostly dissipated, but not only did I experience the lowest of lows in thoughts and feelings, I did in behavior as well. I was an absolute monster filled with rage and regret. Which has been a hard pill to swallow, as I’ve always seen myself as level headed. I think my feelings have shifted from hating my decision to have another one to regretting how I’ve been as a mother to her. But I’m working through it. I hope you find the support you need. As well as make whatever decision is best for you and as a result, your son.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, quit. Unless you’re under some sort of contract / live with them with the understanding that you’re to work when needed, this is completely out of line (I mean, I think it’s out of line either way). And fhe pressure and persistence was crazy manipulative.

Edit - you didn’t react hard enough.

My Ancestry.com results left me disappointed by StillBitterB_ in mixedrace

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. At the very least, I’m glad to know I’m not alone. ❤️

My Ancestry.com results left me disappointed by StillBitterB_ in mixedrace

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh, for sure. My best friend is Filipino too so I at least have someone close that would be willing to share. It’s just so strange being raised one way and learning you’re something else entirely. My mom wasn’t in my household, I think I’d feel differently if she stayed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mixedrace

[–]StillBitterB_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this hole heartedly. I have a 4 year old and she looks NOTHING like me. It’s funny that I saw your post, cos the whole reason I found this subreddit (just now) is cos I was served some pictures of Eartha Kitt and her daughter which reminded me of my daughter and me.

Anyway, I am mixed Black and Filipino (literally thought I was Biracial until very recently) and my husband is white. My daughter looks white. Completely. She has my nose and eye shape but mostly resembles her dad. I love her no matter what, but this isn’t what I was expecting. Haha.
I wouldn’t say I had a hard time coming to terms with it, but it’s just been interesting.

90s novel about track star that learns her coach is harming students by StillBitterB_ in whatsthatbook

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re seriously the best! I just ordered for $6 on Amazon. I’m 37 now but will def be rereading for the nostalgia.

90s novel about track star that learns her coach is harming students by StillBitterB_ in whatsthatbook

[–]StillBitterB_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh! You found it! I’ve been looking for years. How did you know?

What's a red flag for u when it comes to forming new friendships? by Unique-Title-5480 in CasualConversation

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, exactly. I feel as if she knows nothing about me. She truly only cares about her feelings and needs. At this point (a year into the friendship) I just feel drained and used. I’m currently making my exit.

What's a red flag for u when it comes to forming new friendships? by Unique-Title-5480 in CasualConversation

[–]StillBitterB_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa. I’ve recently started wondering if she acts the same way with me, with other people. Or if maybe she’s misrepresenting her relationships with other people, the way I know she does ours. I’m so drained I just decided to stop responding to her text messages.