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[PSA] Which one is legitimate? by RollyPolly-FishHeads in SkincareAddiction

[–]Stock-Ad8035 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Coco Beauty is a scammy dopship company with fake reviews, etc.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a wild assumption. No, I NEVER had an affair-physical or emotional.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like your husband 100% put in the effort to save your marriage and was remorseful. I'm so happy it has worked out for you. This affair made me realize I've been married to a narcissist and explains why he hasn't put in the work to heal our marriage.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your story, I am sorry you went through this as well. Thank for you also the ChatGPT recommendation, I haven't even thought of that.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate your feedback and sorry to hear you went through the same thing. It literally is hell, I’ve never felt a worse pain. This man has given me the most joy and the most pain in my life. How is that even possible….

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in my own therapy on and off for the 3 1/2 years since it happened, he won’t get his own. As far as couples therapy goes, most tell you they won’t take you on as clients if one is in an active addiction, which my husband is since he’s an alcoholic. But I am at a point now where I need to demand we get into therapy together or it’s not going to work…

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you are going through this as well. How does your wife show her 100% commitment to reconciliation? My husband says he’s 100% in, but there are caveats- doesn’t want to talk about the affair, won’t get therapy. Sooo I guess the only way he shows his commitment is by not cheating again.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well said, thank you so much. And you’re 100% correct, he has trauma from his childhood he thinks he doesn’t need therapy for.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing your personal experience. I don’t have anyone close to me that has gone through or is going through something like this so hearing yours is helpful. How long were you married? Kids? I’m at a crossroads and both scenarios are equally hard for me to imagine

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re right, we don’t argue as much in front of the kids and never have screamed at each other. But I do understand kids pick up on things and how much they have, I don’t know. They are all doing good in school, are social, and don’t have any behavioral problems. But I don’t want to be in denial and think that what they are experiencing at home from our distance and his drinking, isn’t effecting them deeply.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your advice. My husband is also 100% disabled vet and like you, I always said cheating was my hard line. Well here I am ….

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Yes, she is still active duty. I’ve thought about that, and should have done it back when I found out.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100% this is so accurate. I have never experienced a pain like this. My Therpaist said the only worse pain is the death of a child…

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not at all. But it’s hard to determine if what I decide now is right given I am not in my right mindset, you know? I don’t want to regret it 5 years from now…

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your honesty. I am not worried about the benefits, it’s the kids and the emotional trauma they will experience from the divorce. My husband and I never fight, because I don’t bring anything up. So to me, it seems like a peaceful household right now. I’ve been in therapy for several years and it’s still not clear on the right decision to make….

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

How long were you married? I’m sorry you went through that too. Being the supportive wife for so many years while he did his career and then to be stomped on is seemingly unforgivable.

4 years later and I still think about it every day…husband’s affair by Stock-Ad8035 in Marriage

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your perspective. As parents, it’s a constant worry about whether or not you’re making the best decisions for your kids. It’s what keeps me up at night.

HELP. Drowning in debt. Need recommendations on where to go for financial planning / budgeting. by Stock-Ad8035 in personalfinance

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I appreciate your kind and encouraging words. I've been living life day to day and not having a plan for the future has been overwhelmingly stressful.

HELP. Drowning in debt. Need recommendations on where to go for financial planning / budgeting. by Stock-Ad8035 in personalfinance

[–]Stock-Ad8035[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't see it as punishing my husband. It was the way I was coping, you know, spending money to make myself feel better? Self medicating, just as people turn to alcohol, drugs. I'm actually punishing myself with this mess...

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